HELP!!!!

• xxSuexx

  5 Dec 05, 19:32

  Please could anyone help me
  What it is ave been going out with ma bf 4 nearly a yr now and we have a kid on the way.
  I love him to bits and am over the moon about having a baby, But i am starting to fell like he dont want to know me anymore.
  Hes more intrested in online games, but thats not the problem i found out that he was dating a girl in the game and when i asked him he said they where just friends.
  I was upset just cause he never told me about it but they ended up breaking up cause of me and i felt so bad about it and still 2 this day he says they where not going out but i have seen ppl ask him what happend 2 the wedding.
  But now i hear that hes going out with someone eles.
  And since i found this out i have been a bit quiet and he keeps asking me whats wrong all ave been saing is nothing or u tell me.
  What do u think i should do
  Cause am thinking of telling him i need a break.
  
• donchoo

  5 Dec 05, 19:34

  Please could anyone help me
  What it is ave been going out with ma bf 4 nearly a yr now and we have a kid on the way.
  
  I love him to bits and am over the moon about having a baby, But i am starting to fell like he dont want to know me anymore.
  Hes more intrested in online games, but thats not the problem i found out that he was dating a girl in the game and when i asked him he said they where just friends.
  I was upset just cause he never told me about it but they ended up breaking up cause of me and i felt so bad about it and still 2 this day he says they where not going out but i have seen ppl ask him what happend 2 the wedding.
  But now i hear that hes going out with someone eles.
  And since i found this out i have been a bit quiet and he keeps asking me whats wrong all ave been saing is nothing or u tell me.
  
  What do u think i should do
  Cause am thinking of telling him i need a break.
  
  For those who have trouble reading it in pink.
  
• mystiv

  5 Dec 05, 19:46

  have been going out with ma bf 4 nearly a yr now and we have a kid on the way.

  not even 1 year, and a kid on the way? are both of you sure of what you are doing? its a responsibility. are both of you ready for that?
  
  

  I love him to bits and am over the moon about having a baby, But i am starting to fell like he dont want to know me anymore.
  Hes more intrested in online games, but thats not the problem i found out that he was dating a girl in the game and when i asked him he said they were just friends.

  How did you find out that he's dating a girl? Problem here now, do you trust your bf's words?
  
  

  I was upset just cause he never told me about it but they ended up breaking up cause of me and i felt so bad about it and still 2 this day he says they where not going out but i have seen ppl ask him what happend 2 the wedding.

  You feel bad that he's breaking up with a girl, a '3rd party', because of you?! You're not in the wrong here..
  
  

  But now i hear that hes going out with someone eles.
  And since i found this out i have been a bit quiet and he keeps asking me whats wrong all ave been saing is nothing or u tell me.
  What do u think i should do
  Cause am thinking of telling him i need a break

  If the virtual relationship is real, and he refuses to change, then the choice is..rather unpleasant and obvious[/b]
• donchoo

  5 Dec 05, 19:54

  Dear xxSuexx
  It seems that your bf doesn't want to settle down yet. And trust me game addicts care little as i used to be one. Maybe the two of you should sit down and TALK not thrash things out, after all both of you are soon to be parents. Ask him to cut down on gaming for you and the baby's sake. Is he working? If he's not then both of you might run into financial difficulty when the baby is born.
  
  About the part where he's seeing another gal, if you don't trust him why have a baby in the first place? You both are soon to be parents, there should be mutual trust between the two, this is the period where both of you should be there for each other.
  
  On a brighter note though, maybe having a baby might change him for the better and make him more mature?
  Or even better if all these might be you having natal blues.
  
  Anyway, congrats on having a baby. you're going to be a mummy
  
  Don
• xxSuexx

  6 Dec 05, 16:17

  Thanks for ur replies and i will keep them in mind.
  I do trust him but he lied last time about the girl and now ma cuz friend plays the same game is telling me hes going with some1 eles.
  they told me they can show me prof so if they can i will ask him about it and see what he says.
  Wish he would just tell me then i wouldnt b so botherd.
  Oh and no he dont work the plays on his game from when he opens his eyes till they shut getting use 2 having the bed 2 my self.
• zeny

  6 Dec 05, 16:42

  Originally posted by xxSuexx:

  Thanks for ur replies and i will keep them in mind.
  I do trust him but he lied last time about the girl and now ma cuz friend plays the same game is telling me hes going with some1 eles.
  they told me they can show me prof so if they can i will ask him about it and see what he says.
  Wish he would just tell me then i wouldnt b so botherd.
  Oh and no he dont work the plays on his game from when he opens his eyes till they shut getting use 2 having the bed 2 my self.

  you are having a baby and both are not married?
  Both are still playing games?
  
  Not even working at all?
  
  If he is such a hardcore gamer will he have time to go dating and have time to go out with gals?
• Depressed...*sigh*

  6 Dec 05, 16:49

  Lolx..I see gfs stomping into lan shops screaming at their bfs to stop.
  
  He sounds young, I guess he's not ready to be a father.....how can I tell? From the way he plays his games. I also play games and I doesn't care abt my surroundings until my parents scold me to get off the comp I bet he is one like that..are you sure your child is gonna be secure with him? He has no responsibility shown in his actions and yet he and you has a baby..wow..good luck to both of u then.
• de_middle

  8 Dec 05, 14:27

  Bad.........very bad. Good Luck
• Sekundes

  8 Dec 05, 16:44

  First off how old are both of u peeps?
  
  are you very sure of your bf capability do be a father ?
  and yours to be a mother ?
  
  Here's somehing to help.
• Yunhaier

  8 Dec 05, 19:28

  Originally posted by xxSuexx:
  [b]Please could anyone help me
  What it is ave been going out with ma bf 4 nearly a yr now and we have a kid on the way.
  I love him to bits and am over the moon about having a baby, But i am starting to fell like he dont want to know me anymore.
  Hes more intrested in online games, but thats not the problem i found out that he was dating a girl in the game and when i asked him he said they where just friends.
  I was upset just cause he never told me about it but they ended up breaking up cause of me and i felt so bad about it and still 2 this day he says they where not going out but i have seen ppl ask him what happend 2 the wedding.
  But now i hear that hes going out with someone eles.
  And since i found this out i have been a bit quiet and he keeps asking me whats wrong all ave been saing is nothing or u tell me.
  What do u think i should do
  Cause am thinking of telling him i need a break.
  [/b]

  I am not having any good feelings about this union.
  
  Cheers
• xxSuexx

  8 Dec 05, 21:01

  Answer to ur questions is yes we r still young am 20 and hes 21.
  But he is a great dad as he has a 1yr old son and would give him the world if he could.
  So am not worried about that bit i just know if it came 2 me saying me or the computer ad lose everytime .
  But i know when i 1st started going with him that he was computer mad cause thats all hes knowing as he was put on them as soon as he could sit at the computer table.
  And yes he has time for gfs as long as there on here. .
  We have chatted about this and we still have 2 sort stuff out but it looks like we r in it 4 the long hall.
• Saint`

  8 Dec 05, 23:13

  wtf .. so young ..
• Yunhaier

  9 Dec 05, 11:54

  Originally posted by xxSuexx:

  Answer to ur questions is yes we r still young am 20 and hes 21.
  But he is a great dad as he has a 1yr old son and would give him the world if he could.
  So am not worried about that bit i just know if it came 2 me saying me or the computer ad lose everytime .
  But i know when i 1st started going with him that he was computer mad cause thats all hes knowing as he was put on them as soon as he could sit at the computer table.
  And yes he has time for gfs as long as there on here. .
  We have chatted about this and we still have 2 sort stuff out but it looks like we r in it 4 the long hall.

  He ALREADY has a one year old son?
  
  Then what happen to the woman who bore him that child?
  
  P.S: You are in a complicated relationship, my girl.
  
  Cheers
• drx

  9 Dec 05, 12:29

  Originally posted by xxSuexx:

  Answer to ur questions is yes we r still young am 20 and hes 21.
  But he is a great dad as he has a 1yr old son and would give him the world if he could.
  So am not worried about that bit i just know if it came 2 me saying me or the computer ad lose everytime .
  But i know when i 1st started going with him that he was computer mad cause thats all hes knowing as he was put on them as soon as he could sit at the computer table.
  And yes he has time for gfs as long as there on here. .
  We have chatted about this and we still have 2 sort stuff out but it looks like we r in it 4 the long hall.

  wow cool kid man.
  
  21 and a dad and he is still not married.
  
  life seems to pass us very fast now days.
  
  btw try to get him to sign the ROm cert ,,, if you can... for your protection..
• rainee

  9 Dec 05, 12:42

  
• RaTtY81

  9 Dec 05, 12:51

  its not gonna b good is he responsible enuff to b a parent, husband without any jobs n playing games all day long? how long can both of u 2 last?
• ahkico

  9 Dec 05, 13:53

  oh mine.. tis is bad..
  
  I feel tat when a gal is pregnant.. She is undergoing tremendous stress, happiness, etc.. tHe hormones level is higher than normal.. Thus.. gAls tend to be more sensitive & touchy abt every little thing..
  
  Both of you R still very young.. Are you ready to be tied down? Having a child is no mean feat! It involves alot of money.. Love and patience..
  
  @ 1st i tot that mayb he is ready to be a father yet.. But as i read on.. I realise tat he already has a 1yr old child!
  
  The most impt thing is to have a gd talk with him.. Ask him abt both of ur future.. Is he goin to marry you, tak responsibility for the child? Where are you goin stay, etc.. Who's goin look after the child.. Is he able to support you?
  
  If he is serious abt you, he shld be planning for your future and not onli keep playin games..
  
  You mention tat you love him alot alot.. But could it because you are having his child to make you feel tis way?
  
  Touch your heart.. Is he the man that you always dream to marry? Someone you know u can depend on?
  
  Are you prepared for the fact that if he choose to dump you? No matter wat, gals are always on the losing end..
  
  Mayb it's too far to think.. But shouldn you consider.. say.. If he reali choose not to bother.. Wat were you do? How will u support your self? Are you prepared to raise up ur child or give the child up for adoption.. eTc.. Open your options up.. And have a plan to fall back on so u wouldn be hurt..
  
  I'm not a gd advisor.. But if u need someone to talk to.. P.M mi ya..
• shinta

  9 Dec 05, 13:56

  sh sound kinda contradicting leh..