How should i adjust my mindset, towards him
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why can't i find him in my life? where is the prince charming for me?
Juz when i thought i am one of a lucky girl to have found the man whom i believe i could spend my life with, whom loves me wholeheartly no matter what.
God took my happiness away, by telling me how stupid i am, to believe that the man whom i trusted will really treasure and love me for what i am. Pple often say, "when God took something away from you, he will give you something in return" so what is my return?
Distant is getting nearer, the closeness is leaving, love is fading, Yet its so beyond me... He no longer understand me for what i am. And time goes by, i realise that i have actually meant nothing to him.Thats why i get all the blames and also pin-point. In fact i mean stress to him. But i am also stress! If thats so, why tell me "i love u! even when u do this!" why tell me you will never give up on me and why lie to yourself that u love me when this is what happen now? why give me hope and pull me down? I thought i am doing everything for the benefit of you and me. Am i wrong to show concern over you? why do you blame me for my effort?
Maybe its me, maybe i shouldn't do so much and to adjust myself. Since he is not appreciative of my efforts and blamed me for not contributing of any effort at all. I guess i am too naive to believe. To think that he is my future, he will provide the best for me, he will be my everything.
And now even though we talked it out, after knowing he actually dun want me to interfere in his life too much. I finally understand that i have done too much for him. I should have adopt those half-fucked attitude.
But the day i dun care abt him is the day i let go.. becoz i can't simply boh chup the person i loved. So now he wants me to stay out of his life and give him some breathing space... what should i do? should i stay on but not to care so much for him? or should i give him up? My mind is very vexed. I dunno what mindset i have to adopt to treat him.. -
she who seeks shall find...
ask not what ur god can do for you but what you can do for yourself.. it is easy to blame others for your problem and hang up on ur faith. it is difficult to trust ur own self, to believe in urself.
things r neber as bad as one wanted to paint it... -
Your mind is vex is becos you cannot let go. you cannot just let go half way and hope another guy to come along and rescue you asap.Originally posted by Nu^Ren:why can't i find him in my life? where is the prince charming for me?
Juz when i thought i am one of a lucky girl to have found the man whom i believe i could spend my life with, whom loves me wholeheartly no matter what.
God took my happiness away, by telling me how stupid i am, to believe that the man whom i trusted will really treasure and love me for what i am. Pple often say, "when God took something away from you, he will give you something in return" so what is my return?
Distant is getting nearer, the closeness is leaving, love is fading, Yet its so beyond me... He no longer understand me for what i am. And time goes by, i realise that i have actually meant nothing to him.Thats why i get all the blames and also pin-point. In fact i mean stress to him. But i am also stress! If thats so, why tell me "i love u! even when u do this!" why tell me you will never give up on me and why lie to yourself that u love me when this is what happen now? why give me hope and pull me down? I thought i am doing everything for the benefit of you and me. Am i wrong to show concern over you? why do you blame me for my effort?
Maybe its me, maybe i shouldn't do so much and to adjust myself. Since he is not appreciative of my efforts and blamed me for not contributing of any effort at all. I guess i am too naive to believe. To think that he is my future, he will provide the best for me, he will be my everything.
And now even though we talked it out, after knowing he actually dun want me to interfere in his life too much. I finally understand that i have done too much for him. I should have adopt those half-fucked attitude.
But the day i dun care abt him is the day i let go.. becoz i can't simply boh chup the person i loved. So now he wants me to stay out of his life and give him some breathing space... what should i do? should i stay on but not to care so much for him? or should i give him up? My mind is very vexed. I dunno what mindset i have to adopt to treat him..
If you are very serious in trying to find that so call someone. Please let this bf go. If not you will only harm your prince chamming by loving him half heartedly. Since you never even give up on your current bf how can you even ask for a return?
So please tell yourself if you still love him then stick to him and stop whinning, if you can let him go then you will have a chance to find someone new. Stop blaming on others when the only person you should blame is yourself for not being brave enough to let go. -
[quote]Originally posted by Nu^Ren:
[b]Pple often say, "when God took something away from you, he will give you something in return" so what is my return?
God is a good God. My 1st bf cheated on me and I was very disappointed with God. I blamed Him. But time is kind enough to let me realised that God has all along, been building me up, refining my characters so as to prepare me to meet a treasure, which is my current boyfriend.
But the day i dun care abt him is the day i let go..
I understand this.
becoz i can't simply boh chup the person i loved. So now he wants me to stay out of his life and give him some breathing space...
Don't mind me asking. Are you overly-possessive? Or is your boyfriend not ready for commitment? -
2 words for you - FORGET IT !!!!
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because both of you are not meant to be together and you will find another
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Originally posted by Nu^Ren:why can't i find him in my life? where is the prince charming for me?
Juz when i thought i am one of a lucky girl to have found the man whom i believe i could spend my life with, whom loves me wholeheartly no matter what.
God took my happiness away, by telling me how stupid i am, to believe that the man whom i trusted will really treasure and love me for what i am. Pple often say, "when God took something away from you, he will give you something in return" so what is my return?
Distant is getting nearer, the closeness is leaving, love is fading, Yet its so beyond me... He no longer understand me for what i am. And time goes by, i realise that i have actually meant nothing to him.Thats why i get all the blames and also pin-point. In fact i mean stress to him. But i am also stress! If thats so, why tell me "i love u! even when u do this!" why tell me you will never give up on me and why lie to yourself that u love me when this is what happen now? why give me hope and pull me down? I thought i am doing everything for the benefit of you and me. Am i wrong to show concern over you? why do you blame me for my effort?
Maybe its me, maybe i shouldn't do so much and to adjust myself. Since he is not appreciative of my efforts and blamed me for not contributing of any effort at all. I guess i am too naive to believe. To think that he is my future, he will provide the best for me, he will be my everything.
And now even though we talked it out, after knowing he actually dun want me to interfere in his life too much. I finally understand that i have done too much for him. I should have adopt those half-fucked attitude.
But the day i dun care abt him is the day i let go.. becoz i can't simply boh chup the person i loved. So now he wants me to stay out of his life and give him some breathing space... what should i do? should i stay on but not to care so much for him? or should i give him up? My mind is very vexed. I dunno what mindset i have to adopt to treat him..
You have a very absolute mindset - everything to you belongs to black and white.
Reality is not about black and white; it's about the grey.
You can save a damaged relationship, but you can't save an unwilling relationship.
Release your bondage - go along his wishes.
Cheers -
quit dreaming
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Thanks pple... i fully understand whats wrong in me. I guess i hold him too tightly hence he got no breathing space. I have been telling myself not to enforce my idea of what i THINK is good for him. I am not his mother and i dun want to behave like his mother too. He is right, i am too no confident. Thats why i keep pulling him by my side... its time to give him some leeways.
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Sum guys like sticky gfs, sum dont.