hi there, you may not know mi, but i think that i have experienced the same situation as you and so i am able to understand how you feel.Originally posted by ZiZi:How to love one who is still hurt by his ex GF?The everything everything that she gifs and every little thing that she do is always kept in his mind.He say he no longer afraid of being hurt and he loves mi.Reason?Coz the wound of the hurt that his ex GF gif is still there.The reply of "Yes" from him let mi suddenly feel very sad even though i haf long ago prepare for tis answer.But feeling is uncontrollable...really feel the hurt..Love really hurts..He can always tell mi how much how deep he love mi but no true feeling is in it.He say to love someone dun put in true feeling to prevent urself from hurt.He say he is not afraid of being hurt.Deep down inside i feel like i'm the third party between him & his ex.I told him if he wants to go back to her & she is available tell mi coz i want him to find his happinness.He say he wun go back to her again coz he haf mi and i'm his happinness.Will u ppl believe?
I'm not gonna post anything or give any advice here for now... Because after I've read your story, you reminded myself of me.... I wasn't in your shoes.... I was kinda like in your bf's shoes... And I must admit that this happened not so long ago... In fact quite recently.... If you could please e-mail me at [email protected]Originally posted by ZiZi:How to love one who is still hurt by his ex GF?The everything everything that she gifs and every little thing that she do is always kept in his mind.He say he no longer afraid of being hurt and he loves mi.Reason?Coz the wound of the hurt that his ex GF gif is still there.The reply of "Yes" from him let mi suddenly feel very sad even though i haf long ago prepare for tis answer.But feeling is uncontrollable...really feel the hurt..Love really hurts..He can always tell mi how much how deep he love mi but no true feeling is in it.He say to love someone dun put in true feeling to prevent urself from hurt.He say he is not afraid of being hurt.Deep down inside i feel like i'm the third party between him & his ex.I told him if he wants to go back to her & she is available tell mi coz i want him to find his happinness.He say he wun go back to her again coz he haf mi and i'm his happinness.Will u ppl believe?
Yup, u shd let time heal your "bf" wounds and see how it proceeds, if he really can't put down his feelings, no pt. to b his replacement, u will b the one suffering, think abt it, ok?Originally posted by vinvin:i guess that your bf is juz not reaDY for another relationship because of the hurt and pain that he had suffered from the past relationship.
i guess that you muz think abt it carefully and whether you would want to spend your life with him.
on the other hand, i think that your bf is very truthful to you in the sense that he did not lie abt his feelings.
i think you nit to give him omore time and to let him get over the pain of the failed relationship.
take care.
Thanks for all who reply to my topic.Love is a feeling...love actually is a very simple matter.When one takes up the responsibility to love someone one haf to commite in the rlationship.On my part i haf already gif my best to him truely and honestly.For him i may b just one of his passerby in his life.I dun know how he really think & is he true to mi.But i know i didn't and wun let this relationship down.I haf been through the ups & downs...is tough...love is often accompany by tears.Hope to receive more replys.Originally posted by joanne:zizi,
i feel so sad when i saw ur post cos i've been thru exactly the same thing as u!!! but the diff is that my ex chose to break up wif me instead of gifing out relationship a second chance! yupz, i always sense that the shadow of her has nv left his mind.. i am jealous of cos.. but i didnt dare to say anything cos i love him too much n dunwan to lose him.. until he really really ignore me n it's impossible to keep mum abt the whole thing already then i asked him if she is still on his mind..he said he didnt want to lie to me so he said yes.. i was alone on the bus at the time when i received his sms confessing that he really didnt forget abt her n still loves her so much.. i didnt cry but i was shattered.. i was all lost.. so i supposed i noe how u feel when u heard his answer.. there is a gd song to represent our mood at that moment i supposed, jolin's "ni hai ai wo ma" go listen to the lyrics.. hmm.. but anyway, he chose to let go of our relationship n i had alraedy recovered.. n found my love again!! so i think if u really do love him so much, gif me another chance n really try to start afresh, provided that he must forget abt her.. if she is still on his mind..forget abt him.. dun think u can stand ur bf thinking of another ger..thats unfair to u too..take care or urself...!
As his gf, u hav the right to knw what's he's thinking, u can ask him indirectly, but dun "pester" him loh, guys dun like their gfs asking abt their past relationships once it's over. U hav to judge him correctly, wish u luck...Originally posted by ZiZi:Thanks for all who reply to my topic.Love is a feeling...love actually is a very simple matter.When one takes up the responsibility to love someone one haf to commite in the rlationship.On my part i haf already gif my best to him truely and honestly.For him i may b just one of his passerby in his life.I dun know how he really think & is he true to mi.But i know i didn't and wun let this relationship down.I haf been through the ups & downs...is tough...love is often accompany by tears.Hope to receive more replys.
Thankz.Now he treat mi coldly and he say he dun want anyone to get involve in his thinking.Including mi.I ask izzit tat he dun trust mi anymore.His reply is dunno.He wun tell mi his feeling & thoughts anymore...he hurts my feelingsOriginally posted by Bear:Zizi,
Think u know who I am horz.. hehehhe~![]()
To the others, I'm not her tt bf!!! so dun start poking ur fingers at me.. hehehe..![]()
actually I do urge u to leave him lorz.. I dun wanna throw ur full story out to get everyone's approval of my intention, but I believe u r also feel not that good too abt the r/s... Wat we can do it only to advice u... it's u, urself who has to pick up the courage to take the step... If u were to restrain to think that things will work out, I can only say, u r actually putting urself into a lot of pain...
Just ask urself, is this the kind of r/s that u want to live wif?? is this the kind of r/s that u want?? I doubt so lorz.. it's not even near anyone's dreams to have this kind of r/s...
If u r thinking that maybe he will notice someday they way u treat him... I dunno u wan to wait till when... he doesn't treat u like a guy will treat a gf.. u r better off alone... unless u r afraid to be alone....
well, that's my words that's given to u.. and always been giving u....
Give him some time to do his own thinking... Messing up his thoughts at this moment would not be of any help at all... In fact, you'll only make him detest you if you try to interfere with his thinking period... I call this a CALM STAGE, or many others like to call it the 'soul searching'.... Afterall though this is the relationship between you and him, it's also HIS OWN LIFE.... It's NOT that he's having a selfish thinking... <- Dunno why people just like to label him as that? He's a little confused... You should give him time to sort out his own thinking.... When he's done with that he'll get back to you.... Pestering him would only SLOW DOWN his thinking process and prolong the 'unnecessary' period.... Causing inefficiency to his chain of thoughts...Originally posted by ZiZi:Thankz.Now he treat mi coldly and he say he dun want anyone to get involve in his thinking.Including mi.I ask izzit tat he dun trust mi anymore.His reply is dunno.He wun tell mi his feeling & thoughts anymore...he hurts my feelings
Is that so? What exactly happened? I tot u said he loved u, huh? I'm confused by your problem, can u describe in more detail?Originally posted by ZiZi:Thankz.Now he treat mi coldly and he say he dun want anyone to get involve in his thinking.Including mi.I ask izzit tat he dun trust mi anymore.His reply is dunno.He wun tell mi his feeling & thoughts anymore...he hurts my feelings
Originally posted by ZiZi:Our relationship will b fine when he didn't see or hear things tat got to do wif his ex gf...when things concern about his ex gf there will surely b problems...problems tat may last for quite long to mi but to him may b a forever thing.I dun expect him to forget his ex coz i know tis wun happen...but at least love mi for who i am... action or word tat he say which haf hurt mi,haf always been torturing my feelings...it is hard to control my feeling esp. when i haf to force myself to laugh even though i'm trying to hold back my tears...it is a very very sour feeling tat i haf forget a few years ago...[/B][/QUOTE]
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I think many people in here have been pretty much giving you rather good advices... But just go through what they've got to say and MAKE YOUR OWN DECISION... Because nobody would really know the situation better than you do... Though the MOST CONFUSED you may be, you should also be the MOST SOBER... Think you're somewhere along this track,Originally posted by ZiZi:If love should onli be hapi then wat are the ups & downs in a relationship?To break is easy but to face things after break is hard...often we tend to think of the person's gds when he/she had left us...suddenly remember someone told mi...love is not how we let go but is how we hold on to it...agree?Y do we never knew wat we got till it's gone?
U hav a pt. here, but although a relationship has its ups and downs, ups ahd exceed the downs, agreed? If this is nt the case, what's the pt. of holding on to it, it will bring u more miseries. I knw saying is easy but doing is hard, but havn't u heard of the chinese saying "chang tong bu ru duan tong"? Anyway, this is just my pt. of view, the final decision lies in you. From what I observed, u already reached a decision, just that u want to see how others view it, rite?Originally posted by ZiZi:If love should onli be hapi then wat are the ups & downs in a relationship?To break is easy but to face things after break is hard...often we tend to think of the person's gds when he/she had left us...suddenly remember someone told mi...love is not how we let go but is how we hold on to it...agree?Y do we never knew wat we got till it's gone?
U hav a pt. here, but although a relationship has its ups and downs, ups ahd exceed the downs, agreed? If this is nt the case, what's the pt. of holding on to it, it will bring u more miseries. I knw saying is easy but doing is hard, but havn't u heard of the chinese saying "chang tong bu ru duan tong"? Anyway, this is just my pt. of view, the final decision lies in you. From what I observed, u already reached a decision, just that u want to see how others view it, rite?Originally posted by mikegk_76:[QUOTE]Originally posted by ZiZi:
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If love should onli be hapi then wat are the ups & downs in a relationship?To break is easy but to face things after break is hard...often we tend to think of the person's gds when he/she had left us...suddenly remember someone told mi...love is not how we let go but is how we hold on to it...agree?Y do we never knew wat we got till it's gone?
U hav a pt. here, but although a relationship has its ups and downs, ups ahd exceed the downs, agreed? If this is nt the case, what's the pt. of holding on to it, it will bring u more miseries. I knw saying is easy but doing is hard, but havn't u heard of the chinese saying "chang tong bu ru duan tong"? Anyway, this is just my pt. of view, the final decision lies in you. From what I observed, u already reached a decision, just that u want to see how others view it, rite?Originally posted by Devil1976:[QUOTE]Originally posted by mikegk_76:
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If love should onli be hapi then wat are the ups & downs in a relationship?To break is easy but to face things after break is hard...often we tend to think of the person's gds when he/she had left us...suddenly remember someone told mi...love is not how we let go but is how we hold on to it...agree?Y do we never knew wat we got till it's gone?