Help me.. I wanna move out.. But before i do.. Can i ask...?
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Hi,
I'm 21... i wanna move out.. n stay with my aunt.. but i know my mum would not allow..
if i were to leave just like that.. i'm worried that she would lodge a police report.. say that i'm "missing" or that i mite be staying at my bf place..
But when the truth of course i'm going to stay at my aunt's place..
Should i tell my mum where i'm staying or should i not..? If i do, she will make trouble for me n my aunt... how..? Help me..
anyone can reply t his.. but its best if its a counsellor.. -
Hi Sweetchoco,Originally posted by sweetchoco:Hi,
I'm 21... i wanna move out.. n stay with my aunt.. but i know my mum would not allow..
if i were to leave just like that.. i'm worried that she would lodge a police report.. say that i'm "missing" or that i mite be staying at my bf place..
But when the truth of course i'm going to stay at my aunt's place..
Should i tell my mum where i'm staying or should i not..? If i do, she will make trouble for me n my aunt... how..? Help me..
It's good to have your own thinking but do put yourself in your mum's shoes and think how will she feel if you were to leave just like that? If you leave the house without informing her, she might lodge a police report or she will be worried sick about you.
You should discuss with her on your thoughts and persuade her that you are already a grown up and you are able to take care of yourself. Remember, in your parents eyes, you are always a child to them! All parents think this way. Hope this advise is of full use to you. Thanks! -
It's better for your mum to know that at least you're moving out... And at least a way for her to contact you (provided that she doesn't abuse it)... Afterall, you're her daughter and it's only natural that she could be concerned?Originally posted by sweetchoco:Hi,
I'm 21... i wanna move out.. n stay with my aunt.. but i know my mum would not allow..
if i were to leave just like that.. i'm worried that she would lodge a police report.. say that i'm "missing" or that i mite be staying at my bf place..
But when the truth of course i'm going to stay at my aunt's place..
Should i tell my mum where i'm staying or should i not..? If i do, she will make trouble for me n my aunt... how..? Help me..
anyone can reply t his.. but its best if its a counsellor.. -
but we are already on bad terms... really bad terms..
i scared that she will go into drastic measures..
is there such thing as if i move out.. i let the police know where i'm staying.. n tell them that i was the one who want to move out..
i dun wan to let her know where i'm gonna stay... cuz i dun wan her to find me.. -
She's your mom, she carried you for 9 months and suffer for that period and she had raise you for 21 years. There's no bad blood between the parent and their children.
In time to come, you will become a mom too. Think abt what how will you feel if your children do the same to you....going to police tell them she/he wanna move out without your acknowledgement.
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n to tell u the fact,, everyone of my uncle n my aunties asked me to move out.. in which i spend two years waiting for the rite moment which is the age of 21..
she's been wanting to get rid of me.. she kept saying on how she should have known to abort me when i was a baby. n that i was a mistake.. i was a burden to her..
n to ease her so called burden.. she is forcing me to marry my bf.. in which i'm nt ready of.. i dun want to make those kind of mistakes in my life.. marriage is a very important subject.. -
Bad terms. Define bad terms, have it gone to a point of physical abuse?Originally posted by sweetchoco:but we are already on bad terms... really bad terms..
i scared that she will go into drastic measures..
is there such thing as if i move out.. i let the police know where i'm staying.. n tell them that i was the one who want to move out..
i dun wan to let her know where i'm gonna stay... cuz i dun wan her to find me..
Actually you're of legal age to move out on your own to stay.
But if your mother files a Missing Person Report on you, it will be recorded in your name for the rest of your life.
I don't quite understand. Youre in bad terms with her.
You want to move out.
She wants to/ she will find you.
That means it's not really in bad terms afterall? -
ask yr auntie and uncle to talk to yr mum.
Is always better to let her know where you are. -
you guys mite be wondering, if she wants to get rid of me, why would she want to go n look for me, am i rite..?
she's wants to make my life difficult.. she wants to make me suffer.. she told me rite at my face..
my uncles n autnies are not in talking terms with her.. as they allhave conflict with her.. she n my another auntie were so hunting for my late grandpa's inheritance..
she keep accusing them about keeping the money for themselves.. which is not true..
n of course she's not happy with me, because i'm always with them.. she always think tat i sided them n not her.. n that i know a lot more things than she does abt all thos family inheritance..
i dun even care abt it... its not even my money.. n i'm in no business involving in this.. but she keep dragging me into this..
i'm not a messenger nor am i siding anyone.. i told her a thousand times that i dun wan to ilsten to all this crap but she won listen..
she criticizes me & accuse me even more... saying that i was sleeping around wiith guys, etc.. what is that???
a mum who concerns abt u wont say all that.. a mother who loves you wont say that her own daughter is a mistake.. or she would have known she killed me... in which i live in fear.. i duno what she mite do to me.
she mite go n do some black magic stuff or wat.. i duno .. i'm scared..
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You might want to lodge a police report on this family issue and let them know that you're threatened/intimidated at home. You wish to move out, plus your legal age. The case will likely be on your side.Originally posted by sweetchoco:you guys mite be wondering, if she wants to get rid of me, why would she want to go n look for me, am i rite..?
she's wants to make my life difficult.. she wants to make me suffer.. she told me rite at my face..
my uncles n autnies are not in talking terms with her.. as they allhave conflict with her.. she n my another auntie were so hunting for my late grandpa's inheritance..
she keep accusing them about keeping the money for themselves.. which is not true..
n of course she's not happy with me, because i'm always with them.. she always think tat i sided them n not her.. n that i know a lot more things than she does abt all thos family inheritance..
i dun even care abt it... its not even my money.. n i'm in no business involving in this.. but she keep dragging me into this..
i'm not a messenger nor am i siding anyone.. i told her a thousand times that i dun wan to ilsten to all this crap but she won listen..
she criticizes me & accuse me even more... saying that i was sleeping around wiith guys, etc.. what is that???
a mum who concerns abt u wont say all that.. a mother who loves you wont say that her own daughter is a mistake.. or she would have known she killed me... in which i live in fear.. i duno what she mite do to me.
she mite go n do some black magic stuff or wat.. i duno .. i'm scared..
Your mother cannot do anything because you're already protected by law. In any case, you might want to bring her to civil court, it is possible.
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where can i get more informaton abuot this civil law n everything..
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http://sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=75218
Call any of those number relevant to family matters.
They can guide you on your rights and authority.
Cheers