really confuse now..

• sunpastilles

  14 Dec 05, 15:30

  for those who read my previous thread ( http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=165913 ) , will know what happened in my last r/s..
  
  .. now he's asking me to patch.. after he's cheated on me.. he says he found out im his everything.. and he really really wish to patch back.. i know i dont love him that much anymore.. i know its hard to rebuild that trust again..
  
  we still chat and sms like frens.. when he found out that theres another guy wooing me.. he gets very jumpy and all worked up.. i really hope and think he will change.. but.. im afraid if i hand him my heart again.. he'll crush it once more. im really confuse.. i know this r/s of 1yr 18days isnt really long.. but.. ahhhhh i dunno..
  
  can anyone tell me wat to do now..
• laosu

  14 Dec 05, 15:46

  Originally posted by sunpastilles:

  for those who read my previous thread ( http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=165913 ) , will know what happened in my last r/s..
  
  .. now he's asking me to patch.. after he's cheated on me.. he says he found out im his everything.. and he really really wish to patch back.. i know i dont love him that much anymore.. i know its hard to rebuild that trust again..
  
  we still chat and sms like frens.. when he found out that theres another guy wooing me.. he gets very jumpy and all worked up.. i really hope and think he will change.. but.. im afraid if i hand him my heart again.. he'll crush it once more. im really confuse.. i know this r/s of 1yr 18days isnt really long.. but.. ahhhhh i dunno..
  
  can anyone tell me wat to do now..

  There's a big patch of grass out there....why stick to the mud?
  He found out you are his everything but did he realised his mistakes?
  Put it this way, let it be a lesson learnt for him and it'll teach him to be a better bf to his next gf.
  
  And as for you, move on. This r/s already had come to a halt long time back. Usually I'll ask people to give their partner another chance. Not that he don't deserve the chance this time but rather I think he should remember it.
  
  Unless you still love him as much as when he is so bad to you, then go back to him.
• Apollo_sg

  14 Dec 05, 16:06

  wat is there to think of? ask urself, would u want to b cheated again?
  
  
• dragg

  14 Dec 05, 16:10

  a leopard never change its spots.
  
  
• Wandering0n

  14 Dec 05, 16:10

  Woot my virgin post ^^
  
  Okay going back to the topic, seeing from how u ex treated u during ur O`s i personally feel that he doesn`t deserve your trust once again. He had it once and abused it. Chances dun come again that easily. However if you cant bring yourself to totally let go of him i suggest u can put him under a trial period. This can let you see if he has really changed for the better. But if he still doesn`t learn how to cherish you its time to let him go and get a move on.
  
• Devil1976

  14 Dec 05, 16:26

  Originally posted by sunpastilles:

  for those who read my previous thread ( http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=165913 ) , will know what happened in my last r/s..
  
  .. now he's asking me to patch.. after he's cheated on me.. he says he found out im his everything.. and he really really wish to patch back.. i know i dont love him that much anymore.. i know its hard to rebuild that trust again..
  
  we still chat and sms like frens.. when he found out that theres another guy wooing me.. he gets very jumpy and all worked up.. i really hope and think he will change.. but.. im afraid if i hand him my heart again.. he'll crush it once more. im really confuse.. i know this r/s of 1yr 18days isnt really long.. but.. ahhhhh i dunno..
  
  can anyone tell me wat to do now..

  Hmm..
• M©+square

  14 Dec 05, 16:28

  Originally posted by Devil1976:

  Hmm..

  half Chance she'll go back.
  
  The cards is actually laid on the table. It's all up to her.
  
  
• FeowFeow

  14 Dec 05, 16:35

  x 2.
  
  Is this really a case of him wanting SunPastilles back, or is it more a case of EGO problems? Is it more a case of him expecting her to cry & mope, & pine for him & then, Not being able to accept that she may move on with another guy?
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by laosu:

  There's a big patch of grass out there....why stick to the mud?
  He found out you are his everything but did he realised his mistakes?
  Put it this way, let it be a lesson learnt for him and it'll teach him to be a better bf to his next gf.
  
  And as for you, move on. This r/s already had come to a halt long time back. Usually I'll ask people to give their partner another chance. Not that he don't deserve the chance this time but rather I think he should remember it.
  
  Unless you still love him as much as when he is so bad to you, then go back to him.

• Kdajong99

  14 Dec 05, 16:38

  Leopard never changes it's spot. All boils down to how much u want the leopard. But bu yao yang hu wei huan!
• laosu

  14 Dec 05, 17:16

  Originally posted by FeowFeow:

  x 2.
  
  Is this really a case of him wanting SunPastilles back, or is it more a case of EGO problems? Is it more a case of him expecting her to cry & mope, & pine for him & then, Not being able to accept that she may move on with another guy?
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  What I guess is more of a man's ego problem. or simply that he got rejected from another girl and Sun becomes a easy way to get back.
• The_Legend_Killer

  14 Dec 05, 19:31

  No point going back... The trust is already broken... What for...
• coolbluewater

  14 Dec 05, 19:39

  Originally posted by sunpastilles:

  for those who read my previous thread ( http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=165913 ) , will know what happened in my last r/s..
  
  .. now he's asking me to patch.. after he's cheated on me.. he says he found out im his everything.. and he really really wish to patch back.. i know i dont love him that much anymore.. i know its hard to rebuild that trust again..
  
  we still chat and sms like frens.. when he found out that theres another guy wooing me.. he gets very jumpy and all worked up.. i really hope and think he will change.. but.. im afraid if i hand him my heart again.. he'll crush it once more. im really confuse.. i know this r/s of 1yr 18days isnt really long.. but.. ahhhhh i dunno..
  
  can anyone tell me wat to do now..

  Seems that he treated you like his spare tyre. Anyway, depends on whether you still have feelings for him, and trust your instinct.
• Yunhaier

  14 Dec 05, 19:44

  Originally posted by sunpastilles:

  for those who read my previous thread ( http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=165913 ) , will know what happened in my last r/s..
  
  .. now he's asking me to patch.. after he's cheated on me.. he says he found out im his everything.. and he really really wish to patch back.. i know i dont love him that much anymore.. i know its hard to rebuild that trust again..
  
  we still chat and sms like frens.. when he found out that theres another guy wooing me.. he gets very jumpy and all worked up.. i really hope and think he will change.. but.. im afraid if i hand him my heart again.. he'll crush it once more. im really confuse.. i know this r/s of 1yr 18days isnt really long.. but.. ahhhhh i dunno..
  
  can anyone tell me wat to do now..

  Actually his desire to want you back isn't an additional option open for you; you already made your decision. Don't turn back your shoulders simply just because he beseech you to do so.
  
  

  i know myself.. i think. i don miss him as much anymore.. i know i've given up hope on this r/s.. i know i wont feel safe with him even if we patch..

  You posted this on 6 Dec 05.
  
  P.S: Heed your womanly instinct and let time give you an answer... not blind emotions.
  
  Cheers
• drx

  15 Dec 05, 10:41

  Originally posted by sunpastilles:

  for those who read my previous thread ( http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=165913 ) , will know what happened in my last r/s..
  
  .. now he's asking me to patch.. after he's cheated on me.. he says he found out im his everything.. and he really really wish to patch back.. i know i dont love him that much anymore.. i know its hard to rebuild that trust again..
  
  we still chat and sms like frens.. when he found out that theres another guy wooing me.. he gets very jumpy and all worked up.. i really hope and think he will change.. but.. im afraid if i hand him my heart again.. he'll crush it once more. im really confuse.. i know this r/s of 1yr 18days isnt really long.. but.. ahhhhh i dunno..
  
  can anyone tell me wat to do now..

  Can ignore him. If he can sleep once he can sleep twice..
  
  YOu want to test him can ..
  SAy you sleep with another guy liao see if he can accept you or not.
  
  This type of guy only want you cos you are fresh meat in the market thats all. once your freshess changes he will run asap..
  
  Confuse for what? go back to him and he will laugh at you behind your back thats for sure.
  
  you think he will change.. yawn maybe you can wait till the moon turns blue.
  he gets jumpy so what? so must be kind hearted and go back to him ?
  
  if life is that simple or you feel so sorry for this one moment action. then by all means go back to him..
  
  Lets bet on how fast he will cheat on you ...
  lets see 2 months tops?
  Is your life anyway why should anyone care?
  
• Devil1976

  15 Dec 05, 12:50

  Originally posted by M©+square:

  half Chance she'll go back.
  
  The cards is actually laid on the table. It's all up to her.
  
  

  Hmm... It troubles me that after all this while, her thoughts still goes back to him... After all that's done... All that's happened.. Why NOW
  
  And as of said by Legend Killer, the trust's already broken... She holds so much DOUBTS now, what kind of relationship is she really expecting on the terms of going back to him?
  
  Her thoughts are probably mostly of confused ones for now... She'll probably need some time to rest (and yet not anyhow wander off in thinking) and focus her DIRECTION...
  
  And if what you've said is right... I guess some lessons just have to be LEARNT the HARD WAY.... But of course.. I'll stay stand on my principle that nothing's 100% in this world... Just that when you bet on a losing table, chances of you losing it is naturally higher....
• dunamis

  15 Dec 05, 14:29

  Originally posted by laosu:

  What I guess is more of a man's ego problem. or simply that he got rejected from another girl and Sun becomes a easy way to get back.

  Agreed. Most probably.
  
  Don't turn back.
  He is immature. (Have read your Nov thread).
  He knows nothing about commitment.
  He will treat you nice now but his devil horns will appear anytime.
  By going back, you are encouraging him to cheat again because he will think that he can get you back whenever he wants. So, you become his spare tyre or float.
  You will likely to regret if you go back.
  So, give up on him.
  
  Make more male friends.
  
  Cheers!
• darknessfall

  16 Dec 05, 00:13

  hey...its really up to u to decide...whether u wan to give yrself n him another chance or not? Do u really see the change in him? or isit jus superfical? Why dun u wait for a while more and observe him?
  
  U said that there is another guy aftering u..so r u interested in the guy as well? got some/little sparks? hmn...think thru lor...
  
  as for yr ex, most pp had already said." trust,...once broken, hard to mend"
  heart broken, hard to sew"....
  
  but if really both of u are seeing future together, give yrself a while more...But at the same time, make it a point to tell him u needed some more time...dun give time frame like 1 year! might as well forget it...
  
  well..maybe the best couple be together...cheers
• ellisbeck

  16 Dec 05, 13:00

  Originally posted by sunpastilles:

  for those who read my previous thread ( http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=165913 ) , will know what happened in my last r/s..
  
  .. now he's asking me to patch.. after he's cheated on me.. he says he found out im his everything.. and he really really wish to patch back.. i know i dont love him that much anymore.. i know its hard to rebuild that trust again..
  
  we still chat and sms like frens.. when he found out that theres another guy wooing me.. he gets very jumpy and all worked up.. i really hope and think he will change.. but.. im afraid if i hand him my heart again.. he'll crush it once more. im really confuse.. i know this r/s of 1yr 18days isnt really long.. but.. ahhhhh i dunno..
  
  can anyone tell me wat to do now..

  I am serious : Move on with your life. Forget him.
• ~Lyn~

  16 Dec 05, 13:40

  hey i understand how u feeling cos i've been thru this.. it's definitely a hard decision to make.. i chose to patch up the other time cos i noe i loved him dearly.. but frankly it's hard to build up the trust... when there's small incidents of cold attitude from him, it might jus link u to the tot of whether he's flirting wif other girls again or stuff... lots of emotional warfield involved if u do patch up..
  
  sad to say mine did hurt me again after the patch..so u haf to be prepared for this: getting hurt again is a high chance... if u're willing to go thru all these 'stress', u might consider a patch up...make the decision base on his character.. is he usually the guy who will keep to his promise sort.. is he the playful kind.. is he the ego kind.. most importantly ask urself u still love him? if u do patch up rmb if he does hurt u AGAIN, nv turn back to him AGAIN! all the best girl!
• de_middle

  16 Dec 05, 17:27

  3 words for you:
  
  PLEASE MOVE ON
• de_middle

  16 Dec 05, 17:28

  Another 3 words for you to use on him:
  
  GO TO HELL