a bit of advice pls
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ermm recently i just msged a friend to see how's she doing etc...she was my classmate during 1st 3 months of jc but we went seperate ways after the results were released. i talked to her a few times but at that time we were still new to the jc system so a bit shy and i didnt really get to know more abt her. yup so in the msg i sent, i asked her how is she, and she said shes working bla bla...we managed to exchange a couple more sms and then i ran out of ideas what to msg her and our conversation ended sighz, maybe because i havent talked to her for a long time and i dont know her well. is there any way i can build up this friendship ?
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Ask her out?
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yup ask her out and know her likes n dislikes then if u 2 really has common things can relate and do activities together... try ask her out for movies lo...Originally posted by agnelli:ermm recently i just msged a friend to see how's she doing etc...she was my classmate during 1st 3 months of jc but we went seperate ways after the results were released. i talked to her a few times but at that time we were still new to the jc system so a bit shy and i didnt really get to know more abt her. yup so in the msg i sent, i asked her how is she, and she said shes working bla bla...we managed to exchange a couple more sms and then i ran out of ideas what to msg her and our conversation ended sighz, maybe because i havent talked to her for a long time and i dont know her well. is there any way i can build up this friendship ? -
wa, i dont know her well, wouldnt asking her out now be tooo fast ?
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yes, it would be too fast. so sms more.Originally posted by agnelli:wa, i dont know her well, wouldnt asking her out now be tooo fast ? -
Sms,msn,friendster,Email.
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ur final aim is friendship or relationship?Originally posted by agnelli:maybe because i havent talked to her for a long time and i dont know her well. is there any way i can build up this friendship ? -
SMS is the worst way to communicate for what I see. Just ask her out for a cup of coffee and stuffs. It's easier to communicate face to face and much easier to strike up new topics to talk about.Originally posted by agnelli:ermm recently i just msged a friend to see how's she doing etc...she was my classmate during 1st 3 months of jc but we went seperate ways after the results were released. i talked to her a few times but at that time we were still new to the jc system so a bit shy and i didnt really get to know more abt her. yup so in the msg i sent, i asked her how is she, and she said shes working bla bla...we managed to exchange a couple more sms and then i ran out of ideas what to msg her and our conversation ended sighz, maybe because i havent talked to her for a long time and i dont know her well. is there any way i can build up this friendship ? -
pal..i've seen thru this b4..PM..i'll give u private tips..Originally posted by agnelli:ermm recently i just msged a friend to see how's she doing etc...she was my classmate during 1st 3 months of jc but we went seperate ways after the results were released. i talked to her a few times but at that time we were still new to the jc system so a bit shy and i didnt really get to know more abt her. yup so in the msg i sent, i asked her how is she, and she said shes working bla bla...we managed to exchange a couple more sms and then i ran out of ideas what to msg her and our conversation ended sighz, maybe because i havent talked to her for a long time and i dont know her well. is there any way i can build up this friendship ? -
Agreed that SMS is not a reali good way to communicate....
Think u shld call her to talk over the phone.... or ask her out to chit chat...
not necessary mux go movies de -
hmm..it might be hard to think of topics to talk abt tho..esp if she's the shy kind and not talkative sort..v cham lor this kind of situation..Originally posted by falling_stars:Agreed that SMS is not a reali good way to communicate....
Think u shld call her to talk over the phone.... or ask her out to chit chat...
not necessary mux go movies de
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study first lar.Originally posted by agnelli:ermm recently i just msged a friend to see how's she doing etc...she was my classmate during 1st 3 months of jc but we went seperate ways after the results were released. i talked to her a few times but at that time we were still new to the jc system so a bit shy and i didnt really get to know more abt her. yup so in the msg i sent, i asked her how is she, and she said shes working bla bla...we managed to exchange a couple more sms and then i ran out of ideas what to msg her and our conversation ended sighz, maybe because i havent talked to her for a long time and i dont know her well. is there any way i can build up this friendship ?
she belongs to the working class and she will want someone who can pamper her well. Even both of you started, without cash to maintain the lifestyle she wants, she will soon dump you soon or later.
Is up to you I am trying to save you from the possible heart pain. -
thx for the many advices guys!
i m more interested in being better friends with her first than a relationship...besides like wat some of u said, a r'ship may not work out as well. hah i agree on the communication part but if i dont use sms/msn to talk to her more i think the chances of asking her out is quite slim eh, because who wants to go out with someone whom u hardly knew or talk to? -
Well...change for a start.Originally posted by agnelli:thx for the many advices guys!
i m more interested in being better friends with her first than a relationship...besides like wat some of u said, a r'ship may not work out as well. hah i agree on the communication part but if i dont use sms/msn to talk to her more i think the chances of asking her out is quite slim eh, because who wants to go out with someone whom u hardly knew or talk to?
How are you going to know a person better over SMS?
You can't hear the sincereity in a SMS.
You can't see the expression over SMS.
SMSs already created a lot of miscommunications even among friends.
If you are sincerely just wanting to know her better and develope the friendship, then ask her out. -
chat on phone. go out in groups (gatherings) with people whom you and her know. then slowly.. one-to-one.. then..
Merry X'mas to you!
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you are still young and have a long way to go my dear friend....
just be friends and look around.... you might find someone else, or you may jux end up with her...
It's all fated and destiny has no explanation -
Try to chat a bit and find out a little more about her, and see if both of you share any common interest..?Originally posted by agnelli:thx for the many advices guys!
i m more interested in being better friends with her first than a relationship...besides like wat some of u said, a r'ship may not work out as well. hah i agree on the communication part but if i dont use sms/msn to talk to her more i think the chances of asking her out is quite slim eh, because who wants to go out with someone whom u hardly knew or talk to? -
yea..thx...got a rough idea what to do now. Can i ask 1 more thing heh, how do i like start a conversation 'cos its a bit weird to suddenly msg and say hi how are u etc...any gd sentences i can learn? lol i think this goes out to all the sms experts
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Ask for a favor related to which she can help.. ie. Something which she won't see it so obviously as to "Why you can't find someone else?"Originally posted by agnelli:yea..thx...got a rough idea what to do now. Can i ask 1 more thing heh, how do i like start a conversation 'cos its a bit weird to suddenly msg and say hi how are u etc...any gd sentences i can learn? lol i think this goes out to all the sms experts -
I personally think it's not a good move considering more than 6 months of 'vaccum' period.
She might want to seem nice and entertain your sms.
Otherwise there wouldn't be any need for the 'vaccum'. I would guess that the sms conversing is a rather one sided initiated one?
She might be thinking on her end : What does he want? Is he trying to make his move? Or i don't know what is going on, but this is sure weird.
You didnt state what was the 1st 3months of rapport and relationship, how did it go and progress. It is difficult to gauge how much should you go ahead doing the things you should.
Actually the best bet you have is to muster your guts and let her know your intentions. Be honest and confident - not forceful and become a god of love.
Just state your intentions and keep it there. And hope she will appreciate your honesty.
If you're taking my bet. Then we'll talk further.
Otherwise, i wish you the best with your smses.
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actually the period is longer than 6 months, in fact more than a year cuz i just graduated from jc >_< and about that love god thing...haha nonono i m not chasing her or watever i just wanna know her better and maybe ask her out someday as friends ya but i m not too sure how to go about doing it. sigh..
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Is she such a important friend to want to get to know her better after more than a year?Originally posted by agnelli:actually the period is longer than 6 months, in fact more than a year cuz i just graduated from jc >_< and about that love god thing...haha nonono i m not chasing her or watever i just wanna know her better and maybe ask her out someday as friends ya but i m not too sure how to go about doing it. sigh.. -
oh...i have very few female contacts already so i thought i should maintain contact with them haha
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Lets consider this.Originally posted by agnelli:oh...i have very few female contacts already so i thought i should maintain contact with them haha
Would you rather try to gain a friend whom you lost contact after more than a year
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Would you try to get to know female friends whom you've just met.
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hmm i would choose the 2nd option, but now i can only choose first option cuz i dont have the 2nd one available >_<