how to make a guy like you/accept you as a gf?
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hmmm... i kinda like this guy but do not know how to make him have a liking for me. This guy, A, initiated to talk to me as we were both late for lecture at the same time. i think he asked if m going in...cannot remember my reply but was short. Later, he did not go in as well and sat on the bench outside, i was thinking of joining him but i am scared.. of what? i do not know, just embarrassed. this thing happened ard mid of this year.
now, we have a similar lecture but i hardly see him coming for lessons. the thing is..i was thinking if he will want to talk to me if i go talk to him again,or can he even remember? hmmm..i am afraid that he might not want to talk to me le....
how? ask my friends to help me get to know him? but they are people whom i am not close with to try intro? but seems very weird right..
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next time u see him or walk past him..smile...pop up a qn.."u pon lectures ah?how come nv see u in lessons le?*u smile*Originally posted by midgar:hmmm... i kinda like this guy but do not know how to make him have a liking for me. This guy, A, initiated to talk to me as we were both late for lecture at the same time. i think he asked if m going in...cannot remember my reply but was short. Later, he did not go in as well and sat on the bench outside, i was thinking of joining him but i am scared.. of what? i do not know, just embarrassed. this thing happened ard mid of this year.
now, we have a similar lecture but i hardly see him coming for lessons. the thing is..i was thinking if he will want to talk to me if i go talk to him again,or can he even remember? hmmm..i am afraid that he might not want to talk to me le....
how? ask my friends to help me get to know him? but they are people whom i am not close with to try intro? but seems very weird right..
any suggestions?
a few more occasions wif him..ask him who his tutor is..wad his combi is...how he finds his combi...wad cca...whether he enjoys it..
talk abit abt urself..dun divulge too much abt uself..might end up looking self-centered..
try to be as natural as possible..dun force urself too much..
it takes time for a liking to develop too..but also..be aware that he might not like u in the end..so do take care when that happens.
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For the guy above, I am not saying you are wrong, but be more intuitive!
Just pop a question like "Hi, wanna go for coffee?"
Like that good! -
If he is not physically attracted to you,it's NO CHANCE IN HELL!
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Dear Midgar,
You need to bear in mind that the oft-mentioned, "Feelings/love can't be forced" is a very true statement. There's No harm in trying since you're still young, but you need to be mentally prepared that even after all your efforts, you may still be rejected.
However, if you're already mentally prepared, you can start by getting to know this guy as a friend. Give him a warm smile & kinda "jolt" his memory by saying, "Wah, noticed you don't attend lectures alot? Next time I'm late, I'll keep a lookout for you, like last time". If he's responsive & remembers you, then you can strike up further conversations with him. If he gives you a blank look, it's better to back off, chances are, he doesn't remember you.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by midgar:hmmm... i kinda like this guy but do not know how to make him have a liking for me. This guy, A, initiated to talk to me as we were both late for lecture at the same time. i think he asked if m going in...cannot remember my reply but was short. Later, he did not go in as well and sat on the bench outside, i was thinking of joining him but i am scared.. of what? i do not know, just embarrassed. this thing happened ard mid of this year.
now, we have a similar lecture but i hardly see him coming for lessons. the thing is..i was thinking if he will want to talk to me if i go talk to him again,or can he even remember? hmmm..i am afraid that he might not want to talk to me le....
how? ask my friends to help me get to know him? but they are people whom i am not close with to try intro? but seems very weird right..
any suggestions? -
Any idea why do you like this guy?Originally posted by midgar:hmmm... i kinda like this guy but do not know how to make him have a liking for me. This guy, A, initiated to talk to me as we were both late for lecture at the same time. i think he asked if m going in...cannot remember my reply but was short. Later, he did not go in as well and sat on the bench outside, i was thinking of joining him but i am scared.. of what? i do not know, just embarrassed. this thing happened ard mid of this year.
now, we have a similar lecture but i hardly see him coming for lessons. the thing is..i was thinking if he will want to talk to me if i go talk to him again,or can he even remember? hmmm..i am afraid that he might not want to talk to me le....
how? ask my friends to help me get to know him? but they are people whom i am not close with to try intro? but seems very weird right..
any suggestions?
a) handsome looking?
b) cute?
c) got muscle?
d) nice to talk to?
There are lots of methods to make a guy be interested in a gal but are you sure you want to do it ?
If yes
then find out if he is attached or not first.
Next ask around if anyone knows which ECA is he in.
finally get close to his friends.
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don't mislead her la, not all relationships starts from physically...some may start from the way the behave...via chatting...then got to know that a person is good inside...these also can be other ways whereby little sparks of love evolve into a relationship...another example will be a couple who are usually on loggerheads...will some short like fall for each other when they miss the arguement for some time...and mixed feelings of love, miss starts...Originally posted by Marco_Simone:If he is not physically attracted to you,it's NO CHANCE IN HELL!
not everything have to start from physically...
well said...on top of that...if you happen to meet on next time or so...just pop a question of two if he answers it, good, then carry on...also the same 1/2 questions each time...slowly asked...till he starts to ask you questions...if you starts to ask you questions then means that at least he accepts you as a fren or to the minimum, he is listening...so as the no of questions increases from him...den slowly ask him out for coffee...no rush....slowly hint him...ask him out for coffee after he ask u quite a few questions for a period of time...then the other times will be like asking him if wanna eat lunch together since same poly...but nothing more then that...if he likes you..he will ask you out for dates..so don't think too much...try to get him as you fren...if he likes you..he will get the hint...if not...be prepared..alright...wish you all the best...and good luck!!Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear Midgar,
You need to bear in mind that the oft-mentioned, "Feelings/love can't be forced" is a very true statement. There's No harm in trying since you're still young, but you need to be mentally prepared that even after all your efforts, you may still be rejected.
However, if you're already mentally prepared, you can start by getting to know this guy as a friend. Give him a warm smile & kinda "jolt" his memory by saying, "Wah, noticed you don't attend lectures alot? Next time I'm late, I'll keep a lookout for you, like last time". If he's responsive & remembers you, then you can strike up further conversations with him. If he gives you a blank look, it's better to back off, chances are, he doesn't remember you.
FeowFeow -
You two study in the same school, right?
If you do meet him again, just give him a smile. If he returns the smile, good. He remembers you. Then the next time you meet him, just do what the people on top mentioned. There's so many, i don't think i need to give another.. Lol.
Remember, be yourself. Don't ask for any personal information on the first one or two encounters.. Make yourself a familiar face. There's a tactic to ask for his number if you wish:
You do use MSN, huh? If not, go get it. When you meet that guy for maybe the second time, ask him if he uses MSN. If he does, ask for it. If he say okay, give him a piece of paper and a pen. While he's writing it, say "Oh yea, include your HP number too." There's a high percentage he would just write it down without any thinking. It's in the human mind. He agreed to give you his email, and if you ask at the right time, he won't hestiate.
Needs practice, though. Guys can try it out too..
In any case, confirm your feelings before you decide to go any further than friends with him. Don't hurt yourself and him. -
u can't force love. period. if there's no attraction, there wun be any progress in that relationship.
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i think the question should b 'how to know a guy/get him to know u' ... rather than make him like u/accept u as gf....
learn to walk first before learning to fly.... -
study first.
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oh well... the difficulty is that i only see him once a week if he comes for class. and usually hes with his friends. one big group of guys, it will be so embarrassing for me to say 'hi' and him telling his friends he dunno me or sth. cos it be a moment of surprise. i have never gone after guys in my life or getting the number of a guy i like (those guys of neutral feelings not counted). Usually is the other party who initiated to know me, and i happen to like him, thats why.in fact, i do not even dare to look at him eye to eye. juz a peek maybe. Yes, i m a mouse. Now kinda regretted not knowing how to grab the chance when he talked to me the other time, should have sat on the bench with him when he was alone cos he decided not to go in as well.Originally posted by weijian:well said...on top of that...if you happen to meet on next time or so...just pop a question of two if he answers it, good, then carry on...also the same 1/2 questions each time...slowly asked...till he starts to ask you questions...if you starts to ask you questions then means that at least he accepts you as a fren or to the minimum, he is listening...so as the no of questions increases from him...den slowly ask him out for coffee...no rush....slowly hint him...ask him out for coffee after he ask u quite a few questions for a period of time...then the other times will be like asking him if wanna eat lunch together since same poly...but nothing more then that...if he likes you..he will ask you out for dates..so don't think too much...try to get him as you fren...if he likes you..he will get the hint...if not...be prepared..alright...wish you all the best...and good luck!!
Furthermore, i heard that he has a gf but thats all,never seen her nor heard anything about her,yet(?). I know of a fren who knows him but this fren happens to have a liking for me. And hes the only fren i know who knows the guy. You know, if i initiate to him, and if it fails, it will be so embarrassing. how to face him during my lectures?
On top of that, i am afraid of saying things that might offend him. like as mentioned above by other members saying, 'u pon lesson ah?' will he think that i am always looking out for him w/o him knowing which may be a turn-off. or may even sound like deregotary remarks.
WHY is it that girls are so easily won over by constant persuing, great personality of a guy, and esp. guys who are nice to the girls. BUT NOT the other way round? is difficult to win a guys heart in fact. Not all pretty girls get to win a guy's. As mentioned, ' if a guy has no interest in a gal, the gal DUN stand ANY chance at all. ' Like the guy will never be touched by a girl's sincerity? so what is a guy looking for if not a faithful gf who is nice to him?( of cos at least average looking)
hmm... do you guys think is a good idea to leave a note on his desk during
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I think there shld be a chance or two where he's alone.... that's where you gona grab the chance... a casual smile will soon break the ice and probably a simple question nxt time round...
however i think u shld reali find out more like whether he's attached and other info about him.... you can still depend on the guy who has a liking for you... jux ask casually... make it natural so no one would be suspicious....
you nv know untill you try.... they always say it's easier for a gal to go for a guy then a guy to go for a gal... if you dun have the courage to try and get hurt in the process then it's time to step back now.... advance no more -
Dear Midgar,
Guys' hearts are Not that difficult to melt I've Not had that much difficulty... But guys with gfs are outta bounds.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by midgar:oh well... the difficulty is that i only see him once a week if he comes for class. and usually hes with his friends. one big group of guys, it will be so embarrassing for me to say 'hi' and him telling his friends he dunno me or sth. cos it be a moment of surprise. i have never gone after guys in my life or getting the number of a guy i like (those guys of neutral feelings not counted). Usually is the other party who initiated to know me, and i happen to like him, thats why.in fact, i do not even dare to look at him eye to eye. juz a peek maybe. Yes, i m a mouse. Now kinda regretted not knowing how to grab the chance when he talked to me the other time, should have sat on the bench with him when he was alone cos he decided not to go in as well.
Furthermore, i heard that he has a gf but thats all,never seen her nor heard anything about her,yet(?). I know of a fren who knows him but this fren happens to have a liking for me. And hes the only fren i know who knows the guy. You know, if i initiate to him, and if it fails, it will be so embarrassing. how to face him during my lectures?
On top of that, i am afraid of saying things that might offend him. like as mentioned above by other members saying, 'u pon lesson ah?' will he think that i am always looking out for him w/o him knowing which may be a turn-off. or may even sound like deregotary remarks.
WHY is it that girls are so easily won over by constant persuing, great personality of a guy, and esp. guys who are nice to the girls. BUT NOT the other way round? is difficult to win a guys heart in fact. Not all pretty girls get to win a guy's. As mentioned, ' if a guy has no interest in a gal, the gal DUN stand ANY chance at all. ' Like the guy will never be touched by a girl's sincerity? so what is a guy looking for if not a faithful gf who is nice to him?( of cos at least average looking)
hmm... do you guys think is a good idea to leave a note on his desk during
break? -
hey!!so u managed to woo ur bf..not the other wae round?Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear Midgar,
Guys' hearts are Not that difficult to melt I've Not had that much difficulty... But guys with gfs are outta bounds.
FeowFeow -
Dear Yuko,
Doesn't mean I hafta chase. It just means it's easy to melt a guy's heart.
Please don't confuse what I'm saying & attach your own meanings.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by yuko-ogura:hey!!so u managed to woo ur bf..not the other wae round? -
im sorry..sometimes things like this happen..hope u dun mind..feow feow..Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear Yuko,
Doesn't mean I hafta chase. It just means it's easy to melt a guy's heart.
Please don't confuse what I'm saying & attach your own meanings.
FeowFeow
but its realli puzzling me tho..
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WELCOME to the 21st CENTURY!Originally posted by midgar:hmmm... i kinda like this guy but do not know how to make him have a liking for me. This guy, A, initiated to talk to me as we were both late for lecture at the same time. i think he asked if m going in...cannot remember my reply but was short. Later, he did not go in as well and sat on the bench outside, i was thinking of joining him but i am scared.. of what? i do not know, just embarrassed. this thing happened ard mid of this year.
now, we have a similar lecture but i hardly see him coming for lessons. the thing is..i was thinking if he will want to talk to me if i go talk to him again,or can he even remember? hmmm..i am afraid that he might not want to talk to me le....
how? ask my friends to help me get to know him? but they are people whom i am not close with to try intro? but seems very weird right..
any suggestions?
There is really nothing wrong with initiating a talk with someone so as to know each other better.. ESPECIALLY SOMEONE you're INTERESTED IN!!
Just KEEP an OPEN MIND about it yeah? -
You mean the guy's heart Not melted, & he'll already chase the girl meh?
FeowFeowOriginally posted by yuko-ogura:im sorry..sometimes things like this happen..hope u dun mind..feow feow..
but its realli puzzling me tho.. -
I recommend this book as a good read for you
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Got da flow,got da go.
U just cant force somethings. -
Uhh... the guy would STILL have to get the girl's attention first , y'know.
No use whining about things you can't change.
If you can't make the first move, then everytime you see him, smile at him and look really friendly. Hope that he'll feel encouraged and interested enough to approach you.Originally posted by midgar:WHY is it that girls are so easily won over by constant persuing, great personality of a guy, and esp. guys who are nice to the girls. BUT NOT the other way round? is difficult to win a guys heart in fact. Not all pretty girls get to win a guy's. -
You might as well put this jpg or gif file as your siggy.Originally posted by alexkusu:I recommend this book as a good read for you -
kenot liddat...me not p-member. Also, thats called spammin. Im jus doin selective marketingOriginally posted by M©+square:You might as well put this jpg or gif file as your siggy. -
you said that guy is always with his big group of boy friends right?
then all the more easier. just go up to the big group and chat with them, school work is a good thing to start with. they would be more than happy to talk to you. guys... very chee hong one.
like that none of them will be suspicious of you trying to know anyone of them in particular. so there wont be any embarrassment for you or that guy.
then when got to know them... you can slowly talk more with the guy that you are interested in. you can also get more info of him from that big group of friends of his.
but try not to make it so obvious that you are only wanting to know more about that guy. try to know his friends too. like that most likely no one will suspect you like that guy.
then when you are more comfortable talking with him, see how things goes from there.