next time u see him or walk past him..smile...pop up a qn.."u pon lectures ah?how come nv see u in lessons le?*u smile*Originally posted by midgar:hmmm... i kinda like this guy but do not know how to make him have a liking for me. This guy, A, initiated to talk to me as we were both late for lecture at the same time. i think he asked if m going in...cannot remember my reply but was short. Later, he did not go in as well and sat on the bench outside, i was thinking of joining him but i am scared.. of what? i do not know, just embarrassed. this thing happened ard mid of this year.
now, we have a similar lecture but i hardly see him coming for lessons. the thing is..i was thinking if he will want to talk to me if i go talk to him again,or can he even remember? hmmm..i am afraid that he might not want to talk to me le....
how? ask my friends to help me get to know him? but they are people whom i am not close with to try intro? but seems very weird right..
any suggestions?
Originally posted by midgar:hmmm... i kinda like this guy but do not know how to make him have a liking for me. This guy, A, initiated to talk to me as we were both late for lecture at the same time. i think he asked if m going in...cannot remember my reply but was short. Later, he did not go in as well and sat on the bench outside, i was thinking of joining him but i am scared.. of what? i do not know, just embarrassed. this thing happened ard mid of this year.
now, we have a similar lecture but i hardly see him coming for lessons. the thing is..i was thinking if he will want to talk to me if i go talk to him again,or can he even remember? hmmm..i am afraid that he might not want to talk to me le....
how? ask my friends to help me get to know him? but they are people whom i am not close with to try intro? but seems very weird right..
any suggestions?
Any idea why do you like this guy?Originally posted by midgar:hmmm... i kinda like this guy but do not know how to make him have a liking for me. This guy, A, initiated to talk to me as we were both late for lecture at the same time. i think he asked if m going in...cannot remember my reply but was short. Later, he did not go in as well and sat on the bench outside, i was thinking of joining him but i am scared.. of what? i do not know, just embarrassed. this thing happened ard mid of this year.
now, we have a similar lecture but i hardly see him coming for lessons. the thing is..i was thinking if he will want to talk to me if i go talk to him again,or can he even remember? hmmm..i am afraid that he might not want to talk to me le....
how? ask my friends to help me get to know him? but they are people whom i am not close with to try intro? but seems very weird right..
any suggestions?
don't mislead her la, not all relationships starts from physically...some may start from the way the behave...via chatting...then got to know that a person is good inside...these also can be other ways whereby little sparks of love evolve into a relationship...another example will be a couple who are usually on loggerheads...will some short like fall for each other when they miss the arguement for some time...and mixed feelings of love, miss starts...Originally posted by Marco_Simone:If he is not physically attracted to you,it's NO CHANCE IN HELL!
well said...on top of that...if you happen to meet on next time or so...just pop a question of two if he answers it, good, then carry on...also the same 1/2 questions each time...slowly asked...till he starts to ask you questions...if you starts to ask you questions then means that at least he accepts you as a fren or to the minimum, he is listening...so as the no of questions increases from him...den slowly ask him out for coffee...no rush....slowly hint him...ask him out for coffee after he ask u quite a few questions for a period of time...then the other times will be like asking him if wanna eat lunch together since same poly...but nothing more then that...if he likes you..he will ask you out for dates..so don't think too much...try to get him as you fren...if he likes you..he will get the hint...if not...be prepared..alright...wish you all the best...and good luck!!Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear Midgar,
You need to bear in mind that the oft-mentioned, "Feelings/love can't be forced" is a very true statement. There's No harm in trying since you're still young, but you need to be mentally prepared that even after all your efforts, you may still be rejected.
However, if you're already mentally prepared, you can start by getting to know this guy as a friend. Give him a warm smile & kinda "jolt" his memory by saying, "Wah, noticed you don't attend lectures alot? Next time I'm late, I'll keep a lookout for you, like last time". If he's responsive & remembers you, then you can strike up further conversations with him. If he gives you a blank look, it's better to back off, chances are, he doesn't remember you.
FeowFeow
oh well... the difficulty is that i only see him once a week if he comes for class. and usually hes with his friends. one big group of guys, it will be so embarrassing for me to say 'hi' and him telling his friends he dunno me or sth. cos it be a moment of surprise. i have never gone after guys in my life or getting the number of a guy i like (those guys of neutral feelings not counted). Usually is the other party who initiated to know me, and i happen to like him, thats why.in fact, i do not even dare to look at him eye to eye. juz a peek maybe. Yes, i m a mouse. Now kinda regretted not knowing how to grab the chance when he talked to me the other time, should have sat on the bench with him when he was alone cos he decided not to go in as well.Originally posted by weijian:well said...on top of that...if you happen to meet on next time or so...just pop a question of two if he answers it, good, then carry on...also the same 1/2 questions each time...slowly asked...till he starts to ask you questions...if you starts to ask you questions then means that at least he accepts you as a fren or to the minimum, he is listening...so as the no of questions increases from him...den slowly ask him out for coffee...no rush....slowly hint him...ask him out for coffee after he ask u quite a few questions for a period of time...then the other times will be like asking him if wanna eat lunch together since same poly...but nothing more then that...if he likes you..he will ask you out for dates..so don't think too much...try to get him as you fren...if he likes you..he will get the hint...if not...be prepared..alright...wish you all the best...and good luck!!
Originally posted by midgar:oh well... the difficulty is that i only see him once a week if he comes for class. and usually hes with his friends. one big group of guys, it will be so embarrassing for me to say 'hi' and him telling his friends he dunno me or sth. cos it be a moment of surprise. i have never gone after guys in my life or getting the number of a guy i like (those guys of neutral feelings not counted). Usually is the other party who initiated to know me, and i happen to like him, thats why.in fact, i do not even dare to look at him eye to eye. juz a peek maybe. Yes, i m a mouse. Now kinda regretted not knowing how to grab the chance when he talked to me the other time, should have sat on the bench with him when he was alone cos he decided not to go in as well.
Furthermore, i heard that he has a gf but thats all,never seen her nor heard anything about her,yet(?). I know of a fren who knows him but this fren happens to have a liking for me. And hes the only fren i know who knows the guy. You know, if i initiate to him, and if it fails, it will be so embarrassing. how to face him during my lectures?
On top of that, i am afraid of saying things that might offend him. like as mentioned above by other members saying, 'u pon lesson ah?' will he think that i am always looking out for him w/o him knowing which may be a turn-off. or may even sound like deregotary remarks.
WHY is it that girls are so easily won over by constant persuing, great personality of a guy, and esp. guys who are nice to the girls. BUT NOT the other way round? is difficult to win a guys heart in fact. Not all pretty girls get to win a guy's. As mentioned, ' if a guy has no interest in a gal, the gal DUN stand ANY chance at all. ' Like the guy will never be touched by a girl's sincerity? so what is a guy looking for if not a faithful gf who is nice to him?( of cos at least average looking)
hmm... do you guys think is a good idea to leave a note on his desk during
break?
hey!!so u managed to woo ur bf..not the other wae round?Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear Midgar,
Guys' hearts are Not that difficult to meltI've Not had that much difficulty... But guys with gfs are outta bounds.
FeowFeow
Originally posted by yuko-ogura:hey!!so u managed to woo ur bf..not the other wae round?
im sorry..sometimes things like this happen..hope u dun mind..feow feow..Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear Yuko,
Doesn't mean I hafta chase. It just means it's easy to melt a guy's heart.
Please don't confuse what I'm saying & attach your own meanings.
FeowFeow
WELCOME to the 21st CENTURY!Originally posted by midgar:hmmm... i kinda like this guy but do not know how to make him have a liking for me. This guy, A, initiated to talk to me as we were both late for lecture at the same time. i think he asked if m going in...cannot remember my reply but was short. Later, he did not go in as well and sat on the bench outside, i was thinking of joining him but i am scared.. of what? i do not know, just embarrassed. this thing happened ard mid of this year.
now, we have a similar lecture but i hardly see him coming for lessons. the thing is..i was thinking if he will want to talk to me if i go talk to him again,or can he even remember? hmmm..i am afraid that he might not want to talk to me le....
how? ask my friends to help me get to know him? but they are people whom i am not close with to try intro? but seems very weird right..
any suggestions?
Originally posted by yuko-ogura:im sorry..sometimes things like this happen..hope u dun mind..feow feow..
but its realli puzzling me tho..![]()

Originally posted by midgar:WHY is it that girls are so easily won over by constant persuing, great personality of a guy, and esp. guys who are nice to the girls. BUT NOT the other way round? is difficult to win a guys heart in fact. Not all pretty girls get to win a guy's.
You might as well put this jpg or gif file as your siggy.Originally posted by alexkusu:I recommend this book as a good read for you
kenot liddat...me not p-member. Also, thats called spammin. Im jus doin selective marketingOriginally posted by M©+square:You might as well put this jpg or gif file as your siggy.![]()