Avoid the girl?
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same situation like you. but i dun think i wish to tok bout it any longer cos if not there will be chao in this place.Originally posted by Mabo:wat is your case? care to share?
if i could turn back time, i will avoid her completely... it's been a year already...
there will be hell to pay if you pitied this gal and start r/s wif her, you will sink in the boat wif this prohibited love. trust me, cause i learnt a painful past. -
maybe i think full avoidance is the best.. dun talk to her or spend time with her.. just ignore her... but be careful.. your avoidance may turn back..
1. she can bad mouth u in the end telling that u r arrogant.. or the other way.. 2. she even likes/chase after u more.. becoz ur avoidance n ignorance is like u r 'cool' or 'mysterious'.. serious!! If she starts to chase u.. u only can tell her that u already like somebody that u can't tell.. then ignore her after that -
Bro. u still hurting..? take it easy...I noe man..I noe....Originally posted by 798:same situation like you. but i dun think i wish to tok bout it any longer cos if not there will be chao in this place.
if i could turn back time, i will avoid her completely... it's been a year already...
there will be hell to pay if you pitied this gal and start r/s wif her, you will sink in the boat wif this prohibited love. trust me, cause i learnt a painful past. -
Certainly you don't expect her to go around the open world to tell everyone the problems she's facing...?Originally posted by Mabo:When we chat in msn. she will tell me a lot of her things, family problem like husband/kids. But when we go out as a group it totally different. She will act as if nothing. So can anyone explain to to me why because it very quite common as i encounter a few cases. People have a lot of things to say in msn but when come to face to face. It seems that people will act like nothing to say.
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You mean you wanna fall but don't wanna fall too deeply..?Originally posted by Mabo:What will you do if you don't want fall deeply towards the feeling to a ger. As we always go out as a group, do u guys think that I shld avoid going out with them, block her from the msn, dont give her a lift when going home as I always send her home? Pls give some advices. 
It all depends on whether you have the intention of starting off a relationship with her..? -
Tat y i thinking stop seeing her, if not my feeling for her will grow. As you know once you are in, it very hard to get out.Originally posted by Devil1976:You mean you wanna fall but don't wanna fall too deeply..?
It all depends on whether you have the intention of starting off a relationship with her..? -
Mabo, there's No hard & fast rule.
Since she's married, perhaps you may want to place some distance between both of you, especially online, since it's online that she discloses alot of personal info to you.
Block her for awhile, until you get your thoughts & feelings sorted out. When you feel better, let her into your life as a friend again.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Mabo:Thanks FeowFeow! What is your suggestions if I wan to steer clear? -
There's no such thing as a temporary blockage, if you wanna avoid, then avoid. If these feeling were not meant to be devloped any further simply bcoz you dun feel its rite. HIDE/RUN/AVOID, do what it takes to wipe her off.
For a relationship to start, you must first feel good abt it, if apprehensions keep detering you, might as well stop. Relationship mess is the most difficult to clear.
BUT only do it if you hold NO REGRETS. Becoz if you're a person who likes to REGRET then i suggest this:
ITS BETTER TO REGRET THE THINGS THAT YOU'VE DONE THAN TO REGRET THE THINGS YOU HAVEN'T DONE. -
Oh well.. I would like to tell you to just let your heart guide you and give LOVE the place it REALLY DESERVES...Originally posted by Mabo:Tat y i thinking stop seeing her, if not my feeling for her will grow. As you know once you are in, it very hard to get out.
But the TRUTH is, sometimes it comes with great consequences... I think if you've truly decided, just stick to your decision and see not regrets..