Why must a friend be like that?
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tis' girl fren of mine was very closed to me 4 all tis yrs. I'd treated her as my best fren. We went out after sch almost everyday and we had lunch always...
she had found herself a new guy tis yr & things started to change...
she no longer eat lunch with me...and NEVER 1 2 go out with me anymore....everyday, after school, she'll b sticking together with her bf...acting out their intimacy be4 me...
When only she and me go out together, she always complained tired, restless...and appeared bored. wat a surprised! But when her bf called or turn up suddenly, her reaction changed instantly...happy as a lark. energised...
Wat should i do? i really disappointed.... dont understand why a friendship can be like tat....
[This message has been edited by Celestine88 (edited 01 December 2001).] -
zhong se qing you...
quite common...esp when the ger is totally smitten with her new beau...
not worth a fren...
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veri hurtful...even on my birthdae, wans to hv an all-ger nite out with her..but she brought her bf along & it turned out to b she & her guy walked in front and I hve to tag along at the back ....she dunno how hurt I was...
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She just got a new bf... of coz will be in the "honeymoon" stage. Maybe she thought that you will understand since you have been friends for so long. Maybe after awhile she will realised how you are feeling...
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[This message has been edited by Celestine88 (edited 02 December 2001).] -
Celestine, it all lies with how she set her priorities. Seems like she has chosen BF to you. Either u 4give her & let her be like that for the time being, or u can choose to give up this friendship. The 1st option needs time for you, 1 day she will understand the importance of friends.
Frankly speaking, I used to be like that when I have my 1st relationship. But then my gf 4give me (she is really sad & angry) & thru several barriers, out friendship is better & we understand each other better more now.
Celestine no matter what, a 2nd chance is always needed. Dun feel sad/angry 1st. Treat her wif an open mind & heart. -
Haiz... think me now in your friend's situation... my girl friends think I only think of bf... but actually I got try to go out with them wat... they ask me normally I wont reject going out unless to places which I know I will really be bored... They go out also never ask me then how I know they going out right? just assume that I not free or not interested. Previously I also dont go out much with them during holidays wat. Why got bf liao then have to suan me till like that.
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Friends can get jealous & for some, they will think "Sigh..she no longer belong to me now that she has a bf." My gf use to think of that cos my time for her has been consume up by my bf..either u let them be or u talk it out wif them, or else barriers will built up.Originally posted by Crysania:Haiz... think me now in your friend's situation... my girl friends think I only think of bf... but actually I got try to go out with them wat... they ask me normally I wont reject going out unless to places which I know I will really be bored... They go out also never ask me then how I know they going out right? just assume that I not free or not interested. Previously I also dont go out much with them during holidays wat. Why got bf liao then have to suan me till like that. -
As what u said, its just a friend. Whether she chooses to be with who, the choice is hers. Her bf can't be with her ALL the time.
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Crysania:
[B]... but actually I got try to go out with them wat... they ask me normally I wont reject going out unless to places which I know I will really be bored... They go out also never ask me then how I know they going out right? just assume that I not free or not interested.
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I tink cannot blame them also...attached ppl r harder to ask them out...bf alwayz 1st priority.
U said u got try 2 go out with them...but did u call them to go out or u waitin' 4 them to ask u out?? I tink u would rather ask ur bf out then askin' ur fren to go out rite?
tis is how tis gf of mine did. alwayz say I never call to ask her out, ...when I ask her why she no time 4 me...
the thing is...whenever I called...she is out with bf...sometimes even in his house..when I called her, she said she is at home sleepin' , tired...so cannot go out...but parent said she is out with bf early in mornin'. hahaha. think i am a fool... -
LAst time wen my best fren got a guy,i also felt left out.We sumtimes go out 2gether,me & her & him...wif his guy frenz.'Coz got her bf's frens so i dun feel like "lightbulb" & sumtimes they quite yandaoz 2... so u-noe...But usually i try not 2,coz sumtimes they act so intimate infront of me,i get goose-bumps & grossed out!!I'm sure u pple have other frenz ritez???Dunnit kao one person wat??..the forest still got many trees can be used 2 apply 2 this situation 2!
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if tat galfren of mine is not a close fren...i would hve sae bye bye long time ago liao after I see the type of person she is...
too bad she happened 2 b a close fren 4 so many yrs...
i bo chap liao...if she wans 2 call me..then call lor..too bad she wont one...
let her do watever she wans, i tired of tryin' 2 b nice liao... -
i guess there'll always be situations like that when your friend's relationship with her b/f comes in between yours.
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Ya lor, not worth getting troubled by this type of frd, really "zhong se qing you"... If she's really your close frd, she will do something to salvage the situation too, friendship is mutual too, one hand can't clap, aiyah, normally it's this way one la, u will understd when u grow older and your frds start drifting away as they were attached, don't b sad...Originally posted by Celestine88:if tat galfren of mine is not a close fren...i would hve sae bye bye long time ago liao after I see the type of person she is...
too bad she happened 2 b a close fren 4 so many yrs...
i bo chap liao...if she wans 2 call me..then call lor..too bad she wont one...
let her do watever she wans, i tired of tryin' 2 b nice liao...
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
Try this scenario:
A gal felt left out becos her friends had shunned away from her becos she had a boyfriend. Everybody in the group had assumed she won't have time for them. But their relationship is mature. The guy had always no qualms if she chose to be with her friends. Worse come to worst, the appointment could be postponed to another day. But she still couldn't get her friends to understand as they had this in their mind: Once U have a bf, u won't have time for us. -
Sorry to hear about that.. I gueSS she must have not notiCed anD try to understanD how you feel..
This is when shE decided tO put prioriteS for her bf firSt... and neglected you.. Dun be saD.. =) Have a talk with her yet?
If she ignoRes youR commenT, she is not a worthy frienD.. GooD LucK
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Aiyah.. just cos she is head over heels over her new bf doesn't mean she is abandoning your friendship..
Like my younger sis, nearly everyday go out, but in the end once in a while go out with her friends, and they all understand.
Celestine, you have to give her the benefit of the doubt, but if she forgot abt you for a year, then lose her, fast.
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