Got to no this girl for half a year from irc. Occasionally we still got go out and i feel that we can click along very well though i do not no how she feels.
Of late, I would get very excited when we had a chance to meet and would yearn to be with her. In fact, i dun feel the pinch spending money on her and would treat her every now and then. At times, i ask myself if i would scarifice for her and i felt the reply is Yes is my heart.
Yet this is where the confusing part steps in. I felt that i do not have the love for her and would not miss her for up to 2-3 weeks. After 2-3 weeks, i would really look fw to going out with her.
I felt very comfortable being around her and she is comfortable with me 2. I no that she treat me as a normal fres by the way she treat me. However, due to this dilemma over the circumstance i faced, i really do not know if i should chase her. Do i really love her or is it that she is just like a good fres to me? Or is it that when u seem to get along very well, love just seem to be blured into friendship?
would any kind soul up there kindly enlighten me? I felt very lost at times over this matter.
Brace up yr courage and go for her! Try telling her... maybe things will work up jus fine?
*btw.. Do I Know her?
Dedicate a song for ya
Steps - I Know Him So Well
I Know Him So Well
Written by B Andersson/T Rice/B Ulvaeus
Nothing is so good it lasts eternally
Perfect situations must go wrong
But this has never yet prevented me
Wanting far too much for far too long
Looking back I could have played it differently
Won a few more moments, who can tell
But it took time to understand the man
Now at least I know I know him well
Wasn't it good
Oh so good
Wasn't he fine
Oh so fine
Isn't it madness
He can't be mine
But in the end he needs a little bit more than me
More security
He needs his fantasy and freedom
I know him so well
No one in your life is with you constantly
No one is completely on your side
And though I move my world to be with him
Still the gap between us is too wide
Looking back I could have played it differently
(Looking back I could have played things some other way)
Learned about the man before I fell
(I was just a little careless maybe)
But I was ever so much younger then
(Much younger then)
Now at least I know him well
Now at least I know I know him well
Wasn't it good
Oh so good
Wasn't he fine
Oh so fine
Isn't it madness
He won't be mine
Didn't I know how it would go
If I knew from the start
Why am I falling apart
Wasn't it good, wasn't he fine
Isn't it madness
He won't be mine
But in the end he needs a little bit more than me
More security
He needs his fantasy and freedom
I know him so well
It took time to understand him
I know him so well
[Originally recorded by Elaine Paige and Barbara Dickson]
It is not a matter of courage now. Of coz, if i love her, i would pluck up the courage to do so but the thing is that i'm not sure. Wouldn't it be unfair to her if i do so? And if it not handle properly, i afraid that our friendship will suffer.
Do i no you? i afraid i do not? but tks for replying
Another brother of mine arhz?? hehehe~
Just some questions... How you know you will sacrifice for her?? and what does sacrifice means to you??? You willing to push her from a on-coming car?? Or just willing to spend you meague allowance or salary on her?? a lot of difference there my dear... Think for a while before you answer, because many people gives one reply without consideration, but when things really happen, their actions is another.
However, I can tell you that if you love someone, it doesn't mean you will miss her everyday.. then again if you miss someone eveyday, doesn't mean that you love her... One very good example for many people is their forgotten parents, I believe deep inside we love our parents, but they are seldom remembered... the other one is some of your close buddies (could be guys or girls), you feel a miss if one day you don't talk to them, but you don't love them like you do for your special someone right??
Sorryz confused you liaoz.. hehehe~
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I say just DROP IT.... And let TIME reveal MORE if necessary? Why step into the UNKNOWN and set your own life into a dilema when you don't even know if that's what you really wish to head for...?
IF you can QUESTION yourself this way, you ACTUALLY don't need us to REASSURE and REMIND you of these points.... Yes... Sometimes LOVE (BGR) can be easily BLURRED in out of a friendship.... This is the NATURE of human to want MORE in life.... But LOVE (BGR) is NOT all about achievements... You might be tempted by the fruit... But don't forget for every single advance that you make, you always VENTURE something else in its place....
there is really this thing called a true relationship between opposite sexes. in my opinion, it aint love for you, it doesnt exist. and when you feel it does, it is only that void you are trying to fill up, when you need a gal to satisfy your emotions. when you think you love her, it is a continuous process, starting from the begining and not like a hidcup.
you start to think of her everyday, it doesnt stop, you will put her in your top list of activities throughout.
or maybe, deep inside, you want to have more choices, but she happens to be the only one at present. and till you find another one, you can go on like this forever?
ask yourself if you want a long term, or short term or just play play relationship. dont focus too much on whether you think it is love or not, or you find yourself twirling around like a bunch of dirty clothes in a washing machine.
Regards.
speaking from experience...
this is a soulmate, not a life partner...
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more affectionately known as...
tHe eXtrA-oRdiNaRy eCCenTriC PaRanOid BiTch wiF thE PaiZaBor aTTiTudE
(who is a Prata-natic...and a loyal supporter of Quickly and Qoo~)
A hiaK~ is a sarcastic laugh
one or 2 soulmates would be good and beneficial in your lifetime. but use them not only when you are in trouble.
cover the face n bomb the base