extremely frustrated and stressed out in new vocation
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i post this here again because the other thread seems to lean towards army issues and context
seriously i dont know how long i can take this, extremely frustrated ever since i received my posting. some tell me it's normal to feel this way while 'adjusting' to a new place. problem is, it's not adjustment problems, it's not getting used to the place. it's just being in the place that's torturing me mentally.
the fact that there's nothing i can do is making me feel worse.
i really feel like screaming out loud when stress lvl peaks while i am in camp
everytime i think of booking in, i really feel like throwing up, dont feel like packing my stuff for booking in at all.
during this long weekend, i smiled and laughed for the first time in more than a week because i didnt have to be in my camp and vocation. -
The thing about the army is that all the crap you have received so far is already the worst that can ever happen to you.
It gets better with time and you will realise things are not so bad after all.
Really.
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Can share in details?Originally posted by bismarck:i post this here again because the other thread seems to lean towards army issues and context
seriously i dont know how long i can take this, extremely frustrated ever since i received my posting. some tell me it's normal to feel this way while 'adjusting' to a new place. problem is, it's not adjustment problems, it's not getting used to the place. it's just being in the place that's torturing me mentally.
the fact that there's nothing i can do is making me feel worse.
i really feel like screaming out loud when stress lvl peaks while i am in camp
everytime i think of booking in, i really feel like throwing up, dont feel like packing my stuff for booking in at all.
during this long weekend, i smiled and laughed for the first time in more than a week because i didnt have to be in my camp and vocation. -
Your heart feel very heavy right when you think about booking in right? Every step towards the bus stop before booking in is a drag right?
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what kind of details u want?Originally posted by M©+square:Can share in details? -
Like making a list of what u hate in your unit?Originally posted by bismarck:what kind of details u want?
So that he can try to tell u the counter measures of handling them properly...
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i think this happens to every single servicemen out there.Originally posted by Marco_Simone:Your heart feel very heavy right when you think about booking in right? Every step towards the bus stop before booking in is a drag right?
To the threadstarter, have you talked to others in your platoon/company?
I'm sure it's not just you who feels this way. Find someone who you can talk to...share the frustration/stress together.
Like someone mentioned earlier, what exactly do you hate? your fellow riflemen? your spec? your officer? the training? not enough sleep? worried about punishment?
I can tell you that those in SISPEC/OCS will feel much worse than you.
All i can say is cheer up, you would feel better as time goes by...
(personal view: i think that bmt@tekong nowadays are too slack liao, resulting in a lot of people unable to coop when they're posted to unit, etc..) -
Yo bismarck, you ain't going to tell us that you're feeling 'the exact things which ALL NSF felt when they book in to their camps and the Sai Kang they all do and those people they have to face and all those backstabbing and unreasonable treatments they have to endure'???Originally posted by bismarck:what kind of details u want?
What i'm trying to say is. If you're just going to say all those...then what alot of EX-NSF(NSmen) can tell you is, grow up or it's normal one lah. Been there done that.
I wish i have empathy for your case. But if you do not have a 'special situation' which you think you're entitled to be 'Extremely Frustrated and Stressed out'
Then i suggest you have a sit with struggling NSFs in Sgforums and discuss, share, at least you have a avenue to destress.
But if you think you have a 'special situation' which you think you're entitled to be 'Extremely Frustrated and Stressed out', then SPEAK up and tell us what went wrong.
I wish to help the best i can. But i can't help when you are ranting.
Cheers -
There Bismarck!Originally posted by thoreldan:i think this happens to every single servicemen out there.
To the threadstarter, have you talked to others in your platoon/company?
I'm sure it's not just you who feels this way. Find someone who you can talk to...share the frustration/stress together.
Like someone mentioned earlier, what exactly do you hate? your fellow riflemen? your spec? your officer? the training? not enough sleep? worried about punishment?
I can tell you that those in SISPEC/OCS will feel much worse than you.
All i can say is cheer up, you would feel better as time goes by...
(personal view: i think that bmt@tekong nowadays are too slack liao, resulting in a lot of people unable to coop when they're posted to unit, etc..)
You see? the thoreldan have already posted what i've predicted when i'm typing my earlier post.
I expect more of such to come?
Cheers -
gee which part were u predicting?Originally posted by M©+square:There Bismarck!
You see? the thoreldan have already posted what i've predicted when i'm typing my earlier post.
I expect more of such to come?
Cheers
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no secondary appointments, no deadlines... what stress?
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x2Originally posted by kopiosatu:no secondary appointments, no deadlines... what stress? -
Those highlighted points.Originally posted by thoreldan:i think this happens to every single servicemen out there.
To the threadstarter, have you talked to others in your platoon/company?
I'm sure it's not just you who feels this way. Find someone who you can talk to...share the frustration/stress together.
Like someone mentioned earlier, what exactly do you hate? your fellow riflemen? your spec? your officer? the training? not enough sleep? worried about punishment?
I can tell you that those in SISPEC/OCS will feel much worse than you.
All i can say is cheer up, you would feel better as time goes by...
(personal view: i think that bmt@tekong nowadays are too slack liao, resulting in a lot of people unable to coop when they're posted to unit, etc..) -
one of the best cures to 'survive' in army is to socialise.
its the same as life, make sure you mix with the right company.
if u hang around with negative people you will just feel worse. hang around happy go lucky people and you will have a laugh about it, this i gurantee you.
i don't see how terrible life is gonna be if you have friends who are 'suffering' with you when you do sai kang and brainless jobs your superiors want you to do. at the end of the day you all b|tch about it together, someone makes fun of the superior and everyone laughs about it. -
what is ur vocation and appointment?Originally posted by bismarck:i post this here again because the other thread seems to lean towards army issues and context
seriously i dont know how long i can take this, extremely frustrated ever since i received my posting. some tell me it's normal to feel this way while 'adjusting' to a new place. problem is, it's not adjustment problems, it's not getting used to the place. it's just being in the place that's torturing me mentally.
the fact that there's nothing i can do is making me feel worse.
i really feel like screaming out loud when stress lvl peaks while i am in camp
everytime i think of booking in, i really feel like throwing up, dont feel like packing my stuff for booking in at all.
during this long weekend, i smiled and laughed for the first time in more than a week because i didnt have to be in my camp and vocation. -
he's a riflemen.Originally posted by Xcert:what is ur vocation and appointment?
appointment i think not yet fixed cuz he still undergoing infantry training -
last time i go army all my brains inside empty..i won tink of my future and lifer after ORD...for the first time i will stick with my patoon mates...glad to have a few together with me since vocation trainging course and posted to same unit same company same bunk...the other mates, regulars and superiors suz...but blur blur later clear leave and ord in one piece...all of us
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It's a MENTAL BLOCK.Originally posted by bismarck:i post this here again because the other thread seems to lean towards army issues and context
seriously i dont know how long i can take this, extremely frustrated ever since i received my posting. some tell me it's normal to feel this way while 'adjusting' to a new place. problem is, it's not adjustment problems, it's not getting used to the place. it's just being in the place that's torturing me mentally.
the fact that there's nothing i can do is making me feel worse.
i really feel like screaming out loud when stress lvl peaks while i am in camp
everytime i think of booking in, i really feel like throwing up, dont feel like packing my stuff for booking in at all.
during this long weekend, i smiled and laughed for the first time in more than a week because i didnt have to be in my camp and vocation.
In the future when you work in the society, it might just be the same...? You might dread your workplace, don't feel like moving to work.. Be backstabbed and such... But the only difference now should be that it's a legal bond now, while in the future should be your RICE BOWL problem...
LEARN to APPRECIATE THINGS and you'll get to BENEFIT from the EXPERIENCE... -
x2Originally posted by Devil1976:It's a MENTAL BLOCK.
In the future when you work in the society, it might just be the same...? You might dread your workplace, don't feel like moving to work.. Be backstabbed and such... But the only difference now should be that it's a legal bond now, while in the future should be your RICE BOWL problem...
LEARN to APPRECIATE THINGS and you'll get to BENEFIT from the EXPERIENCE...
during one of my in-camp, we have a session with a trainer and this is what he told us: "be thankful of your enemy"
i was like wtf?! why should thank someone i hate?
slowly i realised that it is this "enemy" that helps you to learn to solve problem and help us develop as a better person
It's all about the learning experience be it good or bad -
Its a career that u will get to love...not a job.....and i never like going to work but i hell look forward to workin everyday....coz at the end of the month no one's goin to pay yr billss....come to tink of it i like goin back to my army unit days...CBL wiish forever like thatOriginally posted by Devil1976:It's a MENTAL BLOCK.
In the future when you work in the society, it might just be the same...? You might dread your workplace, don't feel like moving to work.. Be backstabbed and such... But the only difference now should be that it's a legal bond now, while in the future should be your RICE BOWL problem...
LEARN to APPRECIATE THINGS and you'll get to BENEFIT from the EXPERIENCE... -
in times like this, its where the brothers come in ..
you got to remind yourself what you are going through is what 100 other people in your unit is going through.. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
grit your teeth and endure with the rest of your mates. take strength in each other..
remember no matter how tough it will pass eventually -
just do whatever u all can to help him lah... but from his regular "stress" that he is getting from home i believe there is nothing we can do to help him .. only he can help himself......... try walking out of ur own world.......Originally posted by M©+square:Yo bismarck, you ain't going to tell us that you're feeling 'the exact things which ALL NSF felt when they book in to their camps and the Sai Kang they all do and those people they have to face and all those backstabbing and unreasonable treatments they have to endure'???
What i'm trying to say is. If you're just going to say all those...then what alot of EX-NSF(NSmen) can tell you is, grow up or it's normal one lah. Been there done that.
I wish i have empathy for your case. But if you do not have a 'special situation' which you think you're entitled to be 'Extremely Frustrated and Stressed out'
Then i suggest you have a sit with struggling NSFs in Sgforums and discuss, share, at least you have a avenue to destress.
But if you think you have a 'special situation' which you think you're entitled to be 'Extremely Frustrated and Stressed out', then SPEAK up and tell us what went wrong.
I wish to help the best i can. But i can't help when you are ranting.
Cheers -
well said...Originally posted by thoreldan:x2
during one of my in-camp, we have a session with a trainer and this is what he told us: "be thankful of your enemy"
i was like wtf?! why should thank someone i hate?
slowly i realised that it is this "enemy" that helps you to learn to solve problem and help us develop as a better person
It's all about the learning experience be it good or bad -
i think it is ur mind at work. y u keep thinking ns is gg to torture u mentally? juz bcos of stories u heard from here or ur frens?Originally posted by bismarck:i post this here again because the other thread seems to lean towards army issues and context
seriously i dont know how long i can take this, extremely frustrated ever since i received my posting. some tell me it's normal to feel this way while 'adjusting' to a new place. problem is, it's not adjustment problems, it's not getting used to the place. it's just being in the place that's torturing me mentally.
the fact that there's nothing i can do is making me feel worse.
i really feel like screaming out loud when stress lvl peaks while i am in camp
everytime i think of booking in, i really feel like throwing up, dont feel like packing my stuff for booking in at all.
during this long weekend, i smiled and laughed for the first time in more than a week because i didnt have to be in my camp and vocation.
if u choose to think like tat, no one can help u. u hav to adjust ur mentallity. -
IF you really really really really really buay tahan, go talk to your MO or ask to speak to your OC or CO. You might be able to get transferred out if you are really really really mental - as in clinical depression.
I know of a guy who did just that. He got transferred to HQ to do admin after having attempted to take his life.