I'm not happy!! Help!
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Hi all...
Even though i really truely love my bf, and he loves me, we still often get xian... like sometimes i say something wrong, he will xian the whole day. Then i know he xian then i more xian. Like yesterday, we played maple story. Then cos his level higher than me i quite xian but nevermind can train then i keep jokin say his character die better or his internet connection dc then i can catch up. Then he told me that he keep dc already very xian no need to rub it in. Then i was thinking last time when he ji siao me other things he got think i will sian a not. He can say pple then pple cannot say him? Then today, wanted to accompany him go tm to do something. He woke up call me, ask me wan to go with him now, dun go, or he come my house then we go later. I said anything and i meant go later or dun go, not go now. I know my fault din say properly but i just woke up keke. Then in the end he went himself and when he reached home, he said if next time i dun wan go out or lazy go out can just say. Thanks. To me its like.. i dun mean that.. but he say till like that i also xian. Haiz
Now i see so much differences in us. I know when u're in a relationship longer u will see more differences. I dun know if its my fault or his fault that most of the times we quarrel. I know i have a past that is horrible but he told me he dun mind its over. But in the end it is still affecting us. I think ya its my fault too but sometimes some things i know its not my fault but i listen to him until i will think its my fault.
I really dun know. Its so tiring to be in a relationship like that. My thoughts about him, over protective, posessive, always wan me listen to him like everything i dono or wrong. But he has his good points which made me be with him in the first place. But it seems that all these bad points are more and more nowadays. He was'nt like this when we first started. He just loves me too much. -
great! know thyself, change thyself.
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Maybe it's just time to appreciate him in a different way...?Originally posted by piggiemouse:Hi all...
Even though i really truely love my bf, and he loves me, we still often get xian... like sometimes i say something wrong, he will xian the whole day. Then i know he xian then i more xian. Like yesterday, we played maple story. Then cos his level higher than me i quite xian but nevermind can train then i keep jokin say his character die better or his internet connection dc then i can catch up. Then he told me that he keep dc already very xian no need to rub it in. Then i was thinking last time when he ji siao me other things he got think i will sian a not. He can say pple then pple cannot say him? Then today, wanted to accompany him go tm to do something. He woke up call me, ask me wan to go with him now, dun go, or he come my house then we go later. I said anything and i meant go later or dun go, not go now. I know my fault din say properly but i just woke up keke. Then in the end he went himself and when he reached home, he said if next time i dun wan go out or lazy go out can just say. Thanks. To me its like.. i dun mean that.. but he say till like that i also xian. Haiz
Now i see so much differences in us. I know when u're in a relationship longer u will see more differences. I dun know if its my fault or his fault that most of the times we quarrel. I know i have a past that is horrible but he told me he dun mind its over. But in the end it is still affecting us. I think ya its my fault too but sometimes some things i know its not my fault but i listen to him until i will think its my fault.
I really dun know. Its so tiring to be in a relationship like that. My thoughts about him, over protective, posessive, always wan me listen to him like everything i dono or wrong. But he has his good points which made me be with him in the first place. But it seems that all these bad points are more and more nowadays. He was'nt like this when we first started. He just loves me too much.
Like you've said, he might be over-possessive or something because he care..? If you're really not comfortable with some things, just let him know..?
How old are you btw? It's really quite meaningless to brood over small things...
Let me use myself for an example... Because of 'certain things', my gf reacted in a certain way... Then I thought it really bother her, hence the way she's reacting (not reacting) to me...? Coincidentally, she needed to let me in on some information and I simply MISINTERPRETED IT because of the way she was behaving all these while..
In fact when I think over things... I find it quite a COMMON scenerio for many couples... Because of some tiny things then got bother and give each other a hard time or pulled face.. When other issues roll in at such vulnerable moments, the relationship is just very vulnerable to 'attacks'...
Hence I feel that in your case, you shouldn't really let the little things bother you too much... And if they really bother you, you should ideally have an 'established' (need not be formal one, but rather an effective one which in the style you deem fit for both of you...) conversation / discussion...
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break up la!
Since so sian of each other!
Mai tu liao!!! -
read "men are from mars, woman are from venus".Originally posted by piggiemouse:Hi all...
Even though i really truely love my bf, and he loves me, we still often get xian... like sometimes i say something wrong, he will xian the whole day. Then i know he xian then i more xian. Like yesterday, we played maple story. Then cos his level higher than me i quite xian but nevermind can train then i keep jokin say his character die better or his internet connection dc then i can catch up. Then he told me that he keep dc already very xian no need to rub it in. Then i was thinking last time when he ji siao me other things he got think i will sian a not. He can say pple then pple cannot say him? Then today, wanted to accompany him go tm to do something. He woke up call me, ask me wan to go with him now, dun go, or he come my house then we go later. I said anything and i meant go later or dun go, not go now. I know my fault din say properly but i just woke up keke. Then in the end he went himself and when he reached home, he said if next time i dun wan go out or lazy go out can just say. Thanks. To me its like.. i dun mean that.. but he say till like that i also xian. Haiz
Now i see so much differences in us. I know when u're in a relationship longer u will see more differences. I dun know if its my fault or his fault that most of the times we quarrel. I know i have a past that is horrible but he told me he dun mind its over. But in the end it is still affecting us. I think ya its my fault too but sometimes some things i know its not my fault but i listen to him until i will think its my fault.
I really dun know. Its so tiring to be in a relationship like that. My thoughts about him, over protective, posessive, always wan me listen to him like everything i dono or wrong. But he has his good points which made me be with him in the first place. But it seems that all these bad points are more and more nowadays. He was'nt like this when we first started. He just loves me too much.
i mean... its really a good book mahz.... -
though i'm lazy to give some advice now..i muz say your power of language is
really strong..i almost have a seizure juz to figure out what u r saying -
Lol, was that a pinch of sarcasm?Originally posted by cockaholic:though i'm lazy to give some advice now..i muz say your power of language is
really strong..i almost have a seizure juz to figure out what u r saying -
shhh! dun so obvious lahOriginally posted by nullifi3d:Lol, was that a pinch of sarcasm? -
You're young, and when you get older all those difference will seem very trivial and insignificant. If you really "love" him you can overlook them and come up with new ways to keep you from feeling "sian".Originally posted by piggiemouse:Hi all...
Even though i really truely love my bf, and he loves me, we still often get xian... like sometimes i say something wrong, he will xian the whole day. Then i know he xian then i more xian. Like yesterday, we played maple story. Then cos his level higher than me i quite xian but nevermind can train then i keep jokin say his character die better or his internet connection dc then i can catch up. Then he told me that he keep dc already very xian no need to rub it in. Then i was thinking last time when he ji siao me other things he got think i will sian a not. He can say pple then pple cannot say him? Then today, wanted to accompany him go tm to do something. He woke up call me, ask me wan to go with him now, dun go, or he come my house then we go later. I said anything and i meant go later or dun go, not go now. I know my fault din say properly but i just woke up keke. Then in the end he went himself and when he reached home, he said if next time i dun wan go out or lazy go out can just say. Thanks. To me its like.. i dun mean that.. but he say till like that i also xian. Haiz
Now i see so much differences in us. I know when u're in a relationship longer u will see more differences. I dun know if its my fault or his fault that most of the times we quarrel. I know i have a past that is horrible but he told me he dun mind its over. But in the end it is still affecting us. I think ya its my fault too but sometimes some things i know its not my fault but i listen to him until i will think its my fault.
I really dun know. Its so tiring to be in a relationship like that. My thoughts about him, over protective, posessive, always wan me listen to him like everything i dono or wrong. But he has his good points which made me be with him in the first place. But it seems that all these bad points are more and more nowadays. He was'nt like this when we first started. He just loves me too much. -
haha ya lar..dun so obvious..lmaoOriginally posted by nullifi3d:Lol, was that a pinch of sarcasm?
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I see ur post I also become v sianz.
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go spend some time with him and improve your communication with him... when he got annoyed with him u can try to 'sa jiao' to smoothen things out... woman got alot of weapon, use them...
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a bit chim
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Dear piggiemouse,
You have posted your problem. But you didn't mention how you want us to help you.
You are not happy. Help?
You want us to make you happy?
Or
You want us to help you with your problem?
We can't help you exactly because we are not in your position and we only know one side of the story.
But we can guide you on your attitude towards your relationship as well as the best approach to your bf.
Cheers -
Never Date Gamers.
Cuz they are all very XIAN! -
thanks for ur replies again..
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TALK C0CK!Originally posted by Quinsy:Never Date Gamers.
Cuz they are all very XIAN! -
Gamer chicks are hot though!!Originally posted by Quinsy:Never Date Gamers.
Cuz they are all very XIAN! -
oh shuckz.. me n nellie are both gamers leh.. how???????????Originally posted by Quinsy:Never Date Gamers.
Cuz they are all very XIAN!
he's ps2, i'm mmorpg =X
piggy.. u play maple oso?
come find us in sanctuary suiciders
we play maple too =D
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hmm u sound like what i am going through......
all i can say is that u shd take a break..seems like u guys are too used to being together with each other to the point of being "xian" or bored of each other..
go out and be with ur other friends,makes things abit more spicy..dun spend all ur time with him, online or offline.. -
my guess is both of u quite young ?? ard 16?? well .. it all breaks downs to communication n understanding .. i can see both of u lack these .. BOTH parties tat is .. the best thing u can do nw is hav a nice talk .. gently .. sit down n tell him what u feel .. then ask him what he feels .. thrash all out.. let all the misunderstanding clear .. since u r making the 1st step .. the rest is up to ur bf .. if he still treats u as a gf .. he shld cherish n clear the misunderstanding .. if the talk ends up quarrelling .. hmm ...
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very typical ah lian talking/writing. xian here xian there. Problem mentioned also very typical of teenagers. Getting bored. when grow older, these kind of probs are not impt, but other probs...
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LOL!Originally posted by browniebaobao:I see ur post I also become v sianz.
Aiya sian nvm wan......... u should be glad that he nver firlt -
At first i to u see each other very fresh (xin xian)...haha, oh it's the opposite..SIAN!
Aiya, of course la, sit whole day at comp of course sian..I also sian..lethargic..one advice: Get off the comp lor