just be yourself. u no need to change for other people. i have a friend who is very shy. but my clique will always start a conversation with him. my shy friend will open up slowly. and start talking like us. its not your faultOriginally posted by redstone:Last time when I was little, I was very shy. Didn't talk much to other people.
Got slightly better in pri sch though.
People tend to misunderstand me.
If I misunderstand people, I get blamed.
If people misunderstand me, I get blamed even more.
Somehow can't "connect" with some people. Some can, some cannot.
Some people, I feel this strange 'barrier'. In others, no.
Can't really hold a conversation for a long time. Always have to create subjects or my conversations would die out.![]()
Ya,its reali diifficult to create topics...my frens all tell me to tok abt anything under the sun but wad to talk??Originally posted by redstone:Last time when I was little, I was very shy. Didn't talk much to other people.
Got slightly better in pri sch though.
People tend to misunderstand me.
If I misunderstand people, I get blamed.
If people misunderstand me, I get blamed even more.
Somehow can't "connect" with some people. Some can, some cannot.
Some people, I feel this strange 'barrier'. In others, no.
Can't really hold a conversation for a long time. Always have to create subjects or my conversations would die out.![]()
OPEN UP your MIND and SHARE your WORLD with others..Originally posted by redstone:Last time when I was little, I was very shy. Didn't talk much to other people.
Got slightly better in pri sch though.
People tend to misunderstand me.
If I misunderstand people, I get blamed.
If people misunderstand me, I get blamed even more.
Somehow can't "connect" with some people. Some can, some cannot.
Some people, I feel this strange 'barrier'. In others, no.
Can't really hold a conversation for a long time. Always have to create subjects or my conversations would die out.![]()
Bo liao....Originally posted by theoneguru:haha i a bit bo liao now 6am and i still haven't slept...
but i find your thread very interesting because i also have the same problem as you... haha i always cannot find anything to talk about with friends, especially if it's one to one conversations...
But i changed a lot in secondary school, cuz i met a caucasian friend. first she taught me how to behave so that i would not irritate or offend people. secondly she taught me when to keep my thoughts to myself. finally, she taught me how to carry myself so that i look as though i m a cut above the rest.
it all boils down to one thing. if you want to hold conversations easily, and intellectual ones at that, you have to have knowledge. read, watch tv, go online. the easiest.. tat's y people with the same interest group click a lot easier. hang out with friends who like the same thing as you (like talking about music or share advice on girls/guys). cuz i hang out with people who have very political views, i always remember what they say and after a bit of research, i actually understand and can reply them about such things, so we can continue conversations instead of coming up with new topics all the time.
as for the confidence thing... aiya... knowledge can be learnt or forgotten, but your character is unique. Don have to bend yourself all over and become someone you yourself wouldn't like. (Eg: Snobbish or speaking without thinking). don't worry becuz people nowadays have learnt how to include introverts (like the above post mentions). as long as you find YOUR crowd, you'll have the most fun and forget all these worries. Don't worry ok!
oh ya about the misunderstanding thing right... i used to be regarded as snobbish by a lot of my classmates la. then i realised that all you have to do is to constantly believe in the good of people. Don't jump to conclusions that they are talking bad about you or even if they are, remember that these kind of petty people are not worth your time to fight back and get yourself in trouble. As long as you don't do wrong, people will see over time that you are not that kind of person. Or you can ask a friend to help check you in the way you speak, which may give people wrong impression. Then maybe you need to change a bit in your manner so you won't give people wrong impression ba. learn as you go along is the most effective way to grow up...