Am I a dumping ground?

• geodome

  5 Jan 06, 12:42

  I forgot to point out that I didn't consider myself as the dumping ground.
  
  Why? I was more than glad to help her out - be her pillar of support and listening ear when she needs. After-all, she had always been my listening ear since God-knows-when.
  
  She always comes to me for everything. But for once, I asked her to reconsider her position, because she says she feels secure with me. Why? If she is going to ask me to provide her with a sense of security while still going out with that jerk boyfriend, then forget it. The only person that I intend to make feel secure is my girl-friend. To provide her with that sense of security is over-stepping the line of friendship. To even ask me for it, is also over-stepping the line.
• babyreyes

  7 Jan 06, 16:19

  thanks to all ur replies.
  
  Ive very much decided not to say anymore about her r/s wif him. After watched her cry over him and his gambling problems over n over again, it just seems like a movie.
  
  I realised that worryign for her all the time is plain useless. Sigh. Endless mid nite calls. Her crying over hte phone. Sobbing for hours. Managed to got her to sleep. She told me she giving up..saying he is useless all these....say wanna break up.....guess wat..the next day....they both can appear hand in hand smiling happily while me here..lost one whole nite of sleep....even gave up my time studying my tests just for her.....
  
  Im feelin damn gutted now.
  
  OMG. sigh.. im getting tired of it already.
  
  I guess i shall leave them alone already. Im feeling very unappreciated. sigh..
• Devil1976

  8 Jan 06, 12:36

  Originally posted by babyreyes:

  thanks to all ur replies.
  
  Ive very much decided not to say anymore about her r/s wif him. After watched her cry over him and his gambling problems over n over again, it just seems like a movie.
  
  I realised that worryign for her all the time is plain useless. Sigh. Endless mid nite calls. Her crying over hte phone. Sobbing for hours. Managed to got her to sleep. She told me she giving up..saying he is useless all these....say wanna break up.....guess wat..the next day....they both can appear hand in hand smiling happily while me here..lost one whole nite of sleep....even gave up my time studying my tests just for her.....
  
  Im feelin damn gutted now.
  
  OMG. sigh.. im getting tired of it already.
  
  I guess i shall leave them alone already. Im feeling very unappreciated. sigh..

  If all these are happening to often, perhaps you should just judge and prioritise time with your own important activities like studying for test .etc?
• geodome

  9 Jan 06, 12:19

  Originally posted by babyreyes:

  I guess i shall leave them alone already. Im feeling very unappreciated. sigh..

  If I were you, I will just tell your friend's bf straight to the face: "you are so fcuk-up."