Originally posted by Gunyandao:
hi all,
i am a victim of severe emotional/verbal abuse during my childhood.
the kind of emotional abuse i suffered includes:
Rejection
Rejection occurs from a refusal to acknowledge a person's presence, value or worth, It is achieved by communicating to a person that she or he is useless or inferior and by devaluing that person's thoughts and feelings. For example, continually treating a child differently from siblings in a way that is unfair and suggests dislike for the child.
Degradation
This occurs from the use of insulting behaviour, such as ridiculing, name calling, imitating and infantilizing. It aims to diminish the dignity and self-worth of the person, and affects their sense of identity in a demeaning way. Examples include: yelling, swearing, publicly humiliating or labelling a person as stupid; mimicking a person's disability; or treating someone as though they were much younger than they are and preventing them from making normal decisions.
Terror
This is the evocation of extreme fear in a person, done by coercion through intimidation. It can include placing or threatening to place a person in an unfit or dangerous environment. Examples include: making a child watch violence perpetrated on people the child cares about or a pet; making threats to abandon or kill a child; threatening to damage a person's possessions; stalking
Emotional Unresponsiveness
This entails the failure to provide care in a sensitive and responsive manner and is manifested by being detached and uninvolved, interacting only when necessary and ignoring a person's mental health needs. Examples include: ignoring a child's attempt to interact; failure to show a child affection; treating someone as though they are an object, "a job to be done".
any of you out there who suffered the same fate as me?
did you seek professional help?
rejections - yes, i felt that since i started secondary sch...being rejected by gals...my story is on the thread on personality thingy...but i have solved the problem myself already...
degradtaion - yes...the moment when i retain...seems like the world of mine has collasped...but still there are always some reasons to why you shld persist on...you just have to ask your inner self, what are the things that you have yet to acheive in your life..
terror - yes...but this feeling only lasted with me for a week...the incident whereby i was retain...for that period only...
Emotional Unresponsiveness
this is did badly and hurt some one who worked with me before...till now, i still can't forget that...thus i try to help whoever needs my help, be it my frenz...or strangers...as long as its within my reach la...
the amount of help i can offer varies from frenz to strangers...it depends...
well for my case...all i did was to talk to myself..and asking why didn't i end my life...thats the medication that help me to be a better person...think of the things that you wanna acheive and work for it...it will help...