Why???? What is gg on?
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haiz...this is my 1st post and i also having some problem. Right now, I juz being too confuse.
You see, this few weeks,I having some trouble in my r/s. My guy like this gal, and i found out abt this. I was so angry with him that he actually went to date this gal behind my back. Then I told him, I wanna break with him. He cry and finally he let me go. I tot I could let him go but I came to realise, I can't. So two days ltr, I ask for a patch back. He told me he need time to think. So i told him, I can give him time. So that week, I dun call him nor sms him until on sat he sms me, asking whether did i go out anot. I told him yes,I gg out ltr.
That night,finally he sms me cos normally he won't not sms me. I am always the one who sms him call him 1st. I was so delighted that he actually sms.
So next day, we went to church(every sun), he still talk to me.And he still joke with his family.
Then in the late afternoon, when we went back to his hse. he started to give me that "pissed off " face. I felt that something is wrong but i did not ask.
Until I wanted to go home, he send me home.In his car, I ask him, "are u not happy"He say no. I ask him whether did he have any problem.
He did not reply me.
I sense something is wrong, but i do not question him further.
Upon reaching my home, I ask him again.Iask him whether can he share his problem. He say he is fine, nothing is wrong. He started to get pissed off. Well, I tell him even if he doen't treat me like his gf, at least treat me like a frenz. I scold him, I told him. I really pissed off by his behaviour. He juz refuse to tell me what happen. Den he told me that I can dun bother abt him. He keep telling me how lousy he is. I told him, no, he not lousy at all.
Why at the same time he giving me hope and at the same time, shatter the hope???
Haiz... is he telling me to give up on him.Did i ask too much ques?
anyone can tell me what going in a guy mind? Anyone encounter this?
I really dunno what to do. Right now, I afraid that he might not sms me again.
I really want to give this r/s a chance. But how???? -
he obviously does not deserve you.
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may i ask a few qns..
1. why do you want to go back to a guy who went out wiv another gal behind ur back?
2. what abt him made you realise you have to get back wiv him?
3. how long was ur r/s before it ended?
4. how old are you and him? -
I came to know that the gal dun like him. I have forgiven him.Originally posted by sinicker:may i ask a few qns..
1. why do you want to go back to a guy who went out wiv another gal behind ur back?
2. what abt him made you realise you have to get back wiv him?
3. how long was ur r/s before it ended?
4. how old are you and him?
When we break off that time, I ask him, if i didn't ask for a break off. Will u break with me. He say he can't bear to do so.
We have been together for more than 3 yrs/
We are both 23 -
There can be no excuse for cheating. You can accept his excuses, his behaviour, his tantrums all you want, but you have to ask yourself, is this the relationship you want to be in? He maybe interested in you, he may not, but the only thing you have to answer is, is this how you want to feel, perhaps forever?
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Let's put this simply:
Does being in a relationship with this guy cause you pain? Think five years into the future - do you think you're going to still be in a relationship with him?
If the answer's no, then dump him. I know of girls who remain in shaky and strained relationships for no apparent reason, and they're always unhappy. Yet when I ask them why don't they just leave, they say that they're determined to make it work, no matter what. Sounds admirable, but they end up in unhappiness for years.
My advice to you: don't end up like one of those girls. If you don't think you can make it work, just leave. -
A part of me wanted to let go and another part of mine wanna stay. I feel so confuse and lost. It really hard to let go like this after all we have been together for 3 yrs already.
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yup.. 3 years is not a short time. but let's not think of the time period shall we? think of it as yesterday, today and tomorrow. do you like things as they are now? you have a lot of thinking to do abt ur r/s. like all the valid points fudgester has said, can you be with him?Originally posted by defient:A part of me wanted to let go and another part of mine wanna stay. I feel so confuse and lost. It really hard to let go like this after all we have been together for 3 yrs already. -
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choose a new guy lor...gan qing ru yan xi, ai qing ru you xi. means relationship is all an act, after the act u resume ur normal life. love is like a game, if u win u win, if u lose u lose.
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Originally posted by defient:I came to know that the gal dun like him. I have forgiven him.
When we break off that time, I ask him, if i didn't ask for a break off. Will u break with me. He say he can't bear to do so.
We have been together for more than 3 yrs/
We are both 23
3yrs is not really a big deal...23's still a long way to go..maybe another 3more years?
Forgive me if i've misunderstood any of your content, but i seriously don't believe a sh!t in "i can't bear to do so (breakup with you)" and yet "flirting"/going out with this girl he likes?
Ok..so, let's say now he wanted you back n definetely for sure, you'll return back to him...what makes you so sure that in the period of the next 3years, he won't like a girl and repeat this same "story"??
By then, will you be able to take it? It'll be "We've been almost 6years togather"...
Anyway, i'm based on your story to state my comments/POVs...what he think or feel, i do not know...but one thing for sure, he's selfish and he knows how to "manipulate " your feelings...
From what i see and understand from your story is that nothing he did actually spare some thoughts for you..it's all for himself...
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That time,during our "cool down" period, I have already decide to break off with him.
I was sick during that period, he sms me whether did i eat my medicine.
But after that, he sms me and I feel the fire inside me have light up.
did i misunderstood his attention? -
alamak, let him go lor...if u study in Uni u scared no guys chase u ah ?Originally posted by defient:That time,during our "cool down" period, I have already decide to break off with him.
I was sick during that period, he sms me whether did i eat my medicine.
But after that, he sms me and I feel the fire inside me have light up.
did i misunderstood his attention? -
U did not misunderstood his attention to you..u just fell into it...Originally posted by defient:That time,during our "cool down" period, I have already decide to break off with him.
I was sick during that period, he sms me whether did i eat my medicine.
But after that, he sms me and I feel the fire inside me have light up.
did i misunderstood his attention? -
There you go. You've answered your own question. Since part of you wants to go, it means that you no longer love him wholeheartedly as you once did. No way on earth you can make it work.Originally posted by defient:A part of me wanted to let go and another part of mine wanna stay. I feel so confuse and lost. It really hard to let go like this after all we have been together for 3 yrs already.
I suggest you leave now, for there's no point prolonging your misery unnecessarily. As dcx pointed out, you can't use the length of relationship as a gauge. If you continue to stay in this loveless relationship, three years from now, you'll be asking the very same question in this forums again, and we'll be back to square one.
I reiterate my stand: don't be one of the girls who get forever stuck in a loveless relationship for no reason. There are lots of better guys out there. Leave that cheating jerk immediately. -
Its now or never, u ain gonna live forever. Bon JoviOriginally posted by fudgester:There you go. You've answered your own question. Since part of you wants to go, it means that you no longer love him wholeheartedly as you once did. No way on earth you can make it work.
I suggest you leave now, for there's no point prolonging your misery unnecessarily. As dcx pointed out, you can't use the length of relationship as a gauge. If you continue to stay in this loveless relationship, three years from now, you'll be asking the very same question in this forums again, and we'll be back to square one.
I reiterate my stand: don't be one of the girls who get forever stuck in a loveless relationship for no reason. There are lots of better guys out there. Leave that cheating jerk immediately. -
I dun understand..
He chased another girl. U asked for a break up, then y beg him for a patch up? He still said he needs time to think?
I think u are better off without him.