The Absence of Love = Hate?

• Ecxentrique

  2 Jan 06, 23:05

  In the context of a breakup. hw true is that?
  
  If the love and the flame just goes out, do you turn angry with your ex?
• SoulFire21

  2 Jan 06, 23:06

  its fated
• Ecxentrique

  2 Jan 06, 23:09

  Originally posted by SoulFire21:

  its fated

  things that are doomed to die?
  
  or wat if its a lack of persistence to try again and leaving it to die??
• The_Legend_Killer

  2 Jan 06, 23:35

  Hatred will be normal since humans have emotions. But if u really love a person, u will definitely let her go...
• 798

  2 Jan 06, 23:40

  When Love and Hate Collide
  
  --------------------------------------------------------------------------------
  
  You could have a change of heart, if you would only change your mind
  Instead of slamming down the phone girl, for the hundredth time
  I got your number on my wall, but I ain't gonna make that call
  When divided we stand baby, united we fall
  
  Got the time got a chance gonna make it
  Got my hands on your heart gonna take it
  All I know I can't fight this flame
  You could have a change of heart, if you would only change your mind
  Cause I'm crazy 'bout you baby, time after time
  
  Without you
  One night alone Is like a year without you baby
  Do you have a heart of stone
  Without you
  Can't stop the hurt inside
  When love and hate collide
  
  I don't wanna fight no more, I don't know what we're fighting for
  When we treat each other baby, like an act of war
  I could tell a million lies and it would come as no surprise
  When the truth is like a stranger, hits you right between the eyes
  
  There's a time and a place and a reason
  And I know I got a love to believe in
  All I know got to win this time
  
  [Repeat Chorus]
  
  [SOLO]
  
  You could have a change of heart, if you would only change your mind
  Cause I'm crazy 'bout you baby...Crazy...Crazy
  
  Without you
  One night alone
  Is like a year without you baby
  Do you have a heart of stone
  Without you
  One night alone
  Is like a year without you baby
  If you have a heart at all
  Without you
  Can't stop the hurt inside
  When love and hate collide
  
  
• laosu

  3 Jan 06, 02:22

  Originally posted by Ecxentrique:

  In the context of a breakup. hw true is that?
  
  If the love and the flame just goes out, do you turn angry with your ex?

  This question leads me to think of another question.
  
  How can you hate someone you love?
• M©+square

  3 Jan 06, 02:25

  Originally posted by laosu:

  This question leads me to think of another question.
  
  How can you hate someone you love?

  
  
  Define Hate and Love.
  
  Thread starter didn't define.
• marzguy

  3 Jan 06, 08:46

  Originally posted by Ecxentrique:

  In the context of a breakup. hw true is that?
  
  If the love and the flame just goes out, do you turn angry with your ex?

  Traces of love don't just disappear off in a snap. Absense of love is not equal to hate. There are always like in between them. To me love does not ends when we breakup. There are still friends love going on between us, but do know the line between friends love and lover's love. Don't hate just because there is no love
• laurence82

  3 Jan 06, 08:51

  Kinda bother me that in an event of a failed relationship, you just turn and blame your ex? Or for the matter, anything but yourself?
  
  
• FeowFeow

  3 Jan 06, 14:38

  Nope, the absence of love could be No feeling, a sense of numbness. That was what I felt with most of my exes. Some have remained on civil terms with me. Some, who went behind & did something mean/nasty will then get me angry.
  
  But at the end of the day, it's Not worth the energy getting angry with scum, so it goes back to a sense of Nothingness. I don't even give a shiet However, they're still good examples to bring out in AA to remind forumites what Not to do
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by Ecxentrique:

  In the context of a breakup. hw true is that?
  
  If the love and the flame just goes out, do you turn angry with your ex?

• drx

  3 Jan 06, 14:51

  Originally posted by Ecxentrique:

  In the context of a breakup. hw true is that?
  
  If the love and the flame just goes out, do you turn angry with your ex?

  depends how mature the person is.
  
  If you love someone deeply and when the person runs away with someone else. You will feel lots of hate for the person because you put in too much effort and it comes to nothing in the end.
  
  If you do not love the person at all or do not feel anything for the person, why should you even waste time to hate the person? you will not even want to waste time getting angry and instead run to a new partner instead.
• ShrodingersCat

  3 Jan 06, 15:33

  u know its like u are in a bright room
  and suddenly someone turns off the light?
  
  Suddenly you feel you are blind cannot see anything
  keep bumping into things in the dark
  scared, not sure how and where to go
  to get anything
  
  then after some time, your eyes get used to it and slowly
  you begin to realise the room is not actually DARK DARK
  it has small glow-in-the-dark stuff that's lighting it up gently
  and lots of sparkly things that you missed out
  cos u so used to super bright room ma
  
  Absence of Light = Shadow
  
  not necessarily darkness...
• wd1

  3 Jan 06, 19:21

  the opposite of love is not hate. it is indifference.
  
  if you hate your ex, it at least shows you take him/her seriously enough to spend energy hating her. if you don't, you don't care about the person at all, and that is the exact opposite of love.
• Devil1976

  3 Jan 06, 19:56

  Originally posted by Ecxentrique:

  In the context of a breakup. hw true is that?
  
  If the love and the flame just goes out, do you turn angry with your ex?

  Do I have to
• Devil1976

  3 Jan 06, 19:57

  Originally posted by Ecxentrique:

  things that are doomed to die?
  
  or wat if its a lack of persistence to try again and leaving it to die??

  Then it's a CHOICE.
  
  In a relationship, it takes 2 hands to clap.