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its abt this girl i like.. she say she wanted to spent more time tgt wif me before rushin into a r/s.. den again.. she would always lean onto me in the train or bus, she isnt bothered abt me holding her hands...
i mean if we're goin out as frens.. is that kinda action appropriate ? i didnt wan to ask her that cuz scared it mite provoke her haha...im takin one step at a time..it oso made mi think does she do that to other guys she goes out wif? i noe her char isnt lidat but it will just make me wonder... hmm.. opinions from the floor? -
How long have this kind of ambiguous acts been going so far?Originally posted by weijie1985:its abt this girl i like.. she say she wanted to spent more time tgt wif me before rushin into a r/s.. den again.. she would always lean onto me in the train or bus, she isnt bothered abt me holding her hands...
i mean if we're goin out as frens.. is that kinda action appropriate ? i didnt wan to ask her that cuz scared it mite provoke her haha...im takin one step at a time..it oso made mi think does she do that to other guys she goes out wif? i noe her char isnt lidat but it will just make me wonder... hmm.. opinions from the floor?
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Try to kiss her...see if she dodge!!Originally posted by weijie1985:its abt this girl i like.. she say she wanted to spent more time tgt wif me before rushin into a r/s.. den again.. she would always lean onto me in the train or bus, she isnt bothered abt me holding her hands...
i mean if we're goin out as frens.. is that kinda action appropriate ? i didnt wan to ask her that cuz scared it mite provoke her haha...im takin one step at a time..it oso made mi think does she do that to other guys she goes out wif? i noe her char isnt lidat but it will just make me wonder... hmm.. opinions from the floor?
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tsk tskOriginally posted by laosu:Try to kiss her...see if she dodge!! 
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errr... once, a gal kissed me even when we were still friends.
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Nowadays some gals are open and they do not think such actions to be unappropriate, perhaps they are overly-friendly or jus wanna feel secure. I do noe of a few gals who are like that...Originally posted by weijie1985:its abt this girl i like.. she say she wanted to spent more time tgt wif me before rushin into a r/s.. den again.. she would always lean onto me in the train or bus, she isnt bothered abt me holding her hands...
i mean if we're goin out as frens.. is that kinda action appropriate ? i didnt wan to ask her that cuz scared it mite provoke her haha...im takin one step at a time..it oso made mi think does she do that to other guys she goes out wif? i noe her char isnt lidat but it will just make me wonder... hmm.. opinions from the floor?
But do not ask her whether she does to other guys as well at this stage. I noe it disturbs you because I have personally been through this before. Asking such a question directly may cause her to feel insulted, no kidding. Perhaps when you two become closer you can hint to her that she should not be too 'friendly' to other guys to avoid giving them the wrong idea. BUT that is only when you two get closer.
Talking to gals is an intricate art. Hold the brush too tightly and the beautiful painting will be ruined. A relaxed, nonchalant hold on the brush will result in the creation of a beautiful masterpiece.
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Lucky GuyOriginally posted by sinicker:errr... once, a gal kissed me even when we were still friends.
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Maybe she don't want to have the pressure of being in a relationship...but still want to have your company and the physical closeness. Because to some people, being in a r/s officially means a lot more work needs to be done, and of course there is that commitment issue. By telling you that she does not want to be in a r/s, she would be able to be close to you but still has a certain level of freedom.Originally posted by weijie1985:its abt this girl i like.. she say she wanted to spent more time tgt wif me before rushin into a r/s.. den again.. she would always lean onto me in the train or bus, she isnt bothered abt me holding her hands...
i mean if we're goin out as frens.. is that kinda action appropriate ? i didnt wan to ask her that cuz scared it mite provoke her haha...im takin one step at a time..it oso made mi think does she do that to other guys she goes out wif? i noe her char isnt lidat but it will just make me wonder... hmm.. opinions from the floor?
Or maybe she just needs more time before deciding that you are the one she wants to be with. Cos r/s is not something to rush into, so she needs more time to judge whether she can commit to you or not. -
You know what?Originally posted by rainee:Maybe she don't want to have the pressure of being in a relationship...but still want to have your company and the physical closeness. Because to some people, being in a r/s officially means a lot more work needs to be done, and of course there is that commitment issue. By telling you that she does not want to be in a r/s, she would be able to be close to you but still has a certain level of freedom.
Or maybe she just needs more time before deciding that you are the one she wants to be with. Cos r/s is not something to rush into, so she needs more time to judge whether she can commit to you or not.
You've really growth to see each post with objectivity and getting accurate in dechiphering people's post.
Good! Keep it up.
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haha...thank youOriginally posted by M©+square:You know what?
You've really growth to see each post with objectivity and getting accurate in dechiphering people's post.
Good! Keep it up.
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You can take note of that Weijian.Originally posted by sinicker:errr... once, a gal kissed me even when we were still friends.
The best way is to be indifferent at the initial stage.
It doesn't mean you are going to stop touching her or stop her from touching you all together.
Being indifferent a state of mind.
When she said she WILL call you, don't believe she will call or hope that she will call.
Just take it as MAYBE she will call. But you will have backup plans if she doesn't and you are still going to enjoy yourself.
When she don't mind being close to you, take it she finds you comfortable to be with. Give her a smile and let her know the feeling is mutual.
Nothing else. You don't have to communicate in words about how you want her as your girlfriend (because you end up leaving the ball in her court too early).
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take your time.Originally posted by weijie1985:its abt this girl i like.. she say she wanted to spent more time tgt wif me before rushin into a r/s.. den again.. she would always lean onto me in the train or bus, she isnt bothered abt me holding her hands...
i mean if we're goin out as frens.. is that kinda action appropriate ? i didnt wan to ask her that cuz scared it mite provoke her haha...im takin one step at a time..it oso made mi think does she do that to other guys she goes out wif? i noe her char isnt lidat but it will just make me wonder... hmm.. opinions from the floor?
Girls need more time to chose the right guy.
If she feels that is alright then is ok.
Try not to think too much.
She is testing you right now.
As long as you give her the same tender loving care as you always do then is alrite.
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Originally posted by curiousOrange:
What he needs other than being Indifferent is Self Control and Cool Head.
You can take note of that Weijian.
The best way is to [b]be indifferent at the initial stage.
It doesn't mean you are going to stop touching her or stop her from touching you all together.
Being indifferent a state of mind.
When she said she WILL call you, don't believe she will call or hope that she will call.
Just take it as MAYBE she will call. But you will have backup plans if she doesn't and you are still going to enjoy yourself.
When she don't mind being close to you, take it she finds you comfortable to be with. Give her a smile and let her know the feeling is mutual.
Nothing else. You don't have to communicate in words about how you want her as your girlfriend (because you end up leaving the ball in her court too early).
Learn to be indifferent in ambiguous situations because being indifferent is a powerful weapon.
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Which is why being indifferent is a state of mind.Originally posted by M©+square:What he needs other than being Indifferent is Self Control and Cool Head. Cheers
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He might be concentrating on this one and missed out the other opportunities?Originally posted by curiousOrange:Which is why being indifferent is a state of mind.
That problem is easily solved if he gets a few more numbers to call.
Men are single tasked orientated....downfall of men!!!
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Ok, maybe I'm a prude
FeowFeowOriginally posted by sinicker:errr... once, a gal kissed me even when we were still friends. -
abt... 2weeks aft i made my interest to her known ?Originally posted by M©+square:How long have this kind of ambiguous acts been going so far? -
Do you know of her r/s history or do you think she's a 'ordinary' gal?Originally posted by weijie1985:abt... 2weeks aft i made my interest to her known ?
No offence. Just to be sure of the situation.
Try giving as much info about her as possible?
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nowadays gals are over friendly. Seriously man, i mean it!
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she only had one boy earlier for 4yrs and she got lots of suitors. from conversation and she oso said..she wans to be sure im the 1 before she will commit..she quite traditonal too..Originally posted by M©+square:Do you know of her r/s history or do you think she's a 'ordinary' gal?
No offence. Just to be sure of the situation.
Try giving as much info about her as possible?