Can friendship be rebuilt again?
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Hi, i'm just wondering... if you and an opposite sex were really close friends... and because of some matters, the friendship apparently became broken. Can it be restored back? Anyone has similar experiences?
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opposite s ex can have friendship meh?
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It takes 2 hands to clap on thisOriginally posted by Bigmacky:Hi, i'm just wondering... if you and an opposite sex were really close friends... and because of some matters, the friendship apparently became broken. Can it be restored back? Anyone has similar experiences? -
it takes a quite a long time...
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its fated.
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why not?
It is not as if you fall in love with her, then she want to distance herself from you consequently, right?
LOL..
Just in case you are of the abovementioned situation, don't rush in to be her hero or emotional handyman when she's down. You can come in to help her out, be a listening ear and an emotional pillar for support, but just don't rush in. In case you unintentionally invested your feelings in her (again). -
Senario is like a broken VASE........how u try to mend it back, u'd still see the cracks.
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I've been platonic buddies with a few very nice guys for many years now. You mean I must fall for them/they must fall for me at some point in time, meh?
Like that, I must go through over 10,000 guys in the course of my lifetime lorr?
FeowFeowOriginally posted by dragg:opposite s ex can have friendship meh? -
you can if you beg hard enough
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a female friend of mine got angry with me recently.. we always fight over the smallest things.. like sg politics.. my views on people.. and when we fight.. she will always say.. "i frm MI, u frm JC, act smart ah." it's always like this. then i'll keep quiet coz' i dun wan our friendship to go bust.. den dat day we discussed abt driving lessons and i told her casually dont fail basic theory test hor.. den she got angry again, say i frm JC act smart.. den now we're no longer talking.. haizx.
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I was from MI(then JI) too.Originally posted by sinicker:a female friend of mine got angry with me recently.. we always fight over the smallest things.. like sg politics.. my views on people.. and when we fight.. she will always say.. "i frm MI, u frm JC, act smart ah." it's always like this. then i'll keep quiet coz' i dun wan our friendship to go bust.. den dat day we discussed abt driving lessons and i told her casually dont fail basic theory test hor.. den she got angry again, say i frm JC act smart.. den now we're no longer talking.. haizx.
In fact, I have some friends who said I had this superiority complex just because I managed to do what other JIans couldn't do. 
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Different backgrounds and perceptions clash, sometimes its not your supposed "arrogance" but just their inferiority that gets in the way.Originally posted by sinicker:a female friend of mine got angry with me recently.. we always fight over the smallest things.. like sg politics.. my views on people.. and when we fight.. she will always say.. "i frm MI, u frm JC, act smart ah." it's always like this. then i'll keep quiet coz' i dun wan our friendship to go bust.. den dat day we discussed abt driving lessons and i told her casually dont fail basic theory test hor.. den she got angry again, say i frm JC act smart.. den now we're no longer talking.. haizx.
Have a good talk with her and tell her that you dont see her as inferior just because shes of a lower educational background than you.. but you must do it in a light-hearted manner.. else it will get too serious or awkward..
Make sense?
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Lower educational background?I seriously beg your pardon man..Originally posted by DriftingGuy:Different backgrounds and perceptions clash, sometimes its not your supposed "arrogance" but just their inferiority that gets in the way.
Have a good talk with her and tell her that you dont see her as inferior just because shes of a lower educational background than you.. but you must do it in a light-hearted manner.. else it will get too serious or awkward..
Make sense? 
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Its "lower" in the sense that she thinks hes from JC and act yaya... not literal relax dudeOriginally posted by LazerLordz:Lower educational background?I seriously beg your pardon man.. -
[quote]Originally posted by LazerLordz:
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I was from MI(then JI) too.
terrorist?
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she used this reason thrice already.. the third time, i lazy already. she blocked me in msn anyway. been abt 3 weeks since i last talked to her.Originally posted by DriftingGuy:Different backgrounds and perceptions clash, sometimes its not your supposed "arrogance" but just their inferiority that gets in the way.
Have a good talk with her and tell her that you dont see her as inferior just because shes of a lower educational background than you.. but you must do it in a light-hearted manner.. else it will get too serious or awkward..
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Well,i had a similiar experience.Originally posted by Bigmacky:Hi, i'm just wondering... if you and an opposite sex were really close friends... and because of some matters, the friendship apparently became broken. Can it be restored back? Anyone has similar experiences?
We were the best of friends.
But some things happened and were began to distance from each other.
My attempts to "save" the friendship were futile.
She just isnt the same person i knew years ago.
Now i stopped trying le. -
So vague. What reason(s)? How old are the both of you..? Depends on your mentality too..?Originally posted by Bigmacky:Hi, i'm just wondering... if you and an opposite sex were really close friends... and because of some matters, the friendship apparently became broken. Can it be restored back? Anyone has similar experiences? -
ahhhh...but why wud lovers wan to distant herself..n friends don't?..??? why is it taht frends dun distant & yet....Originally posted by geodome:why not?
It is not as if you fall in love with her, then she want to distance herself from you consequently, right?
LOL..
Just in case you are of the abovementioned situation, don't rush in to be her hero or emotional handyman when she's down. You can come in to help her out, be a listening ear and an emotional pillar for support, but just don't rush in. In case you unintentionally invested your feelings in her (again). -
is big macky here?
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yup, i here... sorry.. was busy the past days... so can't really get back to reply.
I appreciate all yr comments... but i guess i have to let u guys understand the whole situation. Mine is abit different in the sense... my frd n i used to be really close. Then i really have no idea wad happened. After she came back from some kind of events, i got totally ignored like that. I mean i really dun get it, like she was totally changed after the whole event.
It happened 4 times, and every time i have to bear with everything... n everytime i have to go back and get things right. Then all i can see is she getting close to everyone else except me. Spoke with her and both of us wanted the friendship back.. but she said she wanted things to go slow... i have no idea wad she meant.. but it's just so HARD... -
Originally posted by Bigmacky:
What talking her? Neither of you are courting each other. Maybe she meant to go easy on her by being less demanding in her personal space.. Just guessing. It's nice to stay away from her for a short while. The absence will help you to re-adjust yourself to her new attitude. She's your close friend, not your sister, not your gf, not your wife.
It happened 4 times, and every time i have to bear with everything... n everytime i have to go back and get things right. Then all i can see is she getting close to everyone else except me. Spoke with her and both of us wanted the friendship back.. but she said she wanted things to go slow... i have no idea wad she meant.. but it's just so HARD...[/b] -
Originally posted by Bigmacky:yup, i here... sorry.. was busy the past days... so can't really get back to reply.
I appreciate all yr comments... but i guess i have to let u guys understand the whole situation. Mine is abit different in the sense... my frd n i used to be really close. Then i really have no idea wad happened. After she came back from some kind of events, i got totally ignored like that. I mean i really dun get it, like she was totally changed after the whole event.
It happened 4 times, and every time i have to bear with everything... n everytime i have to go back and get things right. Then all i can see is she getting close to everyone else except me. Spoke with her and both of us wanted the friendship back.. but she said she wanted things to go slow... i have no idea wad she meant.. but it's just so HARD...
You didn't quite explained the part in blue?Originally posted by Bigmacky:Hi, i'm just wondering... if you and an opposite sex were really close friends... and because of some matters, the friendship apparently became broken. Can it be restored back? Anyone has similar experiences? -
er.. broken as in.. face to face cannot talk,no longer sms, msn cannot chat, no longer chat on phone. When have to talk.. it's all about work. That's all.
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She probably means to take things easy and no obligation for commitment..Originally posted by Bigmacky:yup, i here... sorry.. was busy the past days... so can't really get back to reply.
I appreciate all yr comments... but i guess i have to let u guys understand the whole situation. Mine is abit different in the sense... my frd n i used to be really close. Then i really have no idea wad happened. After she came back from some kind of events, i got totally ignored like that. I mean i really dun get it, like she was totally changed after the whole event.
It happened 4 times, and every time i have to bear with everything... n everytime i have to go back and get things right. Then all i can see is she getting close to everyone else except me. Spoke with her and both of us wanted the friendship back.. but she said she wanted things to go slow... i have no idea wad she meant.. but it's just so HARD...