r/s questions...
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my bf of 3 mnths recently started gettin easily irritated with the things i say n do, n similarly i do get irritated by his actions.. our characters are kind of like the same.. we're both quite stubborn n refuse to admit whos in the wrong.. thus we engage in alot of small quarrels but we alwaez sort things out together after a few hours.. (this hasnt helped us in gettin closer though..) so a few daes later, the same thing will occur... is this a sign of a breakup tat wud take place in time to come? never had a huge n heated argument with him over major issues b4 though..
also, in the past, we used to hv so mani things to talk abt everytime under the sun.. now we're almost left with nothing to talk about... so is this another sign..? -
only 3 months and there are negative signs?
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yep... worrying?
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Maybe you can still salvage the relationship by doing this.
1. Go to beach at night. Then tell him to recall the days when you two started the relationship. So sweet. I bet he will be touch.
2. Buy his favorite foods!!
3. Tell him how much you would like to return to the days where there's no quarrel.
4. Tell him why you like him.
5. Tell him how a bf should treat his girl.
Jia you worx. =) -
Originally posted by papercut87:my bf of 3 mnths recently started gettin easily irritated with the things i say n do, n similarly i do get irritated by his actions.. our characters are kind of like the same.. we're both quite stubborn n refuse to admit whos in the wrong.. thus we engage in alot of small quarrels but we alwaez sort things out together after a few hours.. (this hasnt helped us in gettin closer though..) so a few daes later, the same thing will occur... is this a sign of a breakup tat wud take place in time to come? never had a huge n heated argument with him over major issues b4 though..
also, in the past, we used to hv so mani things to talk abt everytime under the sun.. now we're almost left with nothing to talk about... so is this another sign..?
This is the beginning of two souls coming together, attempting to blend into each other's life style. When you have resistance from both sides, either in attitude or in kind, you experience scenario like these.
Sometimes, it is due to incompatibility, while others could be due to early friction that could be solved through compromising each other, if that's what you people wants.
Relationship is not about putting two separate individual together; it's about blending them into harmony. Lots of fine tuning and adjustments is essential to achieve this harmony.
Cheers -
give and take la
give him a slap
and take flight -
i think the both of you trying to set the rule who's the 'bigger' one. thus, for such situations, you have to give and take ah. we can't adjust ourselves just to suit each other's preference. we are who we are and the other party has to accept us for what we are. meanwhile, you two should talk it out. like darkness_hacker99 suggested, a quiet place where you two are the only souls ard.. have a heart-to-heart talk. dont treat a break-up as an easy solution.
good luck. -
thanks! i think u guys give brilliant solutions.. haha
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the is no doubt the most brilliant solution riteOriginally posted by bladez87:give and take la
give him a slap
and take flight
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don worry.i quarrel with my bf almost everyday.
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Whether ur r/s break or make it, it will all just depends on the both of you.
Dont be stubborn. U both just have to learn how to give and take.Argueing all the time doesnt really help at all.
Id u have nothign gd to say to each other, then keep ur mouth shut. ONce u have simmer down, lay things on the table and decide on a solution.
Take every quarrel as an oppourtunity to know each other better and to bring u closer together.
If ur problems keep repeating, its obvious the root problem hasnt been solved.
gd luck! -
er..... have a nice picnic at east coast park and watch sunset
and er .....
lie on his lap
gaze into his eyes
and......
talk things out -
I can't believe I'm saying this but, sometimes breaking up is probably the easiest and the best solution. Not that I'm saying breaking up is a solution for you now but I will not rule it out as a solution for you. Why? In a relationship, there has to be some sort of tolerance level on both parties. If his character is too much for you to take, and he's not willing to change it anytime soon then what's the point of staying together? Have a talk with him about what's happening to you two and what does the future days, weeks and months have for you two. Like they said it takes two hands to clap, but if one hand moves a bit, the other hand have to move more and harder in order for a clap to occur right? But if the hand moves a considerable amount and the other moves too, and a clap still doesn't occur, then maybe something is wrong with the other hand.. Think about it..
"Never love a love that hurts and never hurt a love that loves" -
Happens to me too.
The third month marks the beginning of the relationship. Problems are bound to come. You two have to solve the problems together, and after a certain period of time, you two would find yourself closer. -
i have to strongly agree with this.Originally posted by binarynwitz:The third month marks the beginning of the relationship. -
Originally posted by sinicker:i have to strongly agree with this.
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honeymoon period so fast ended? well...communication my dear!
Talk n talk..its the most impt thing in a r/s. I learnt it the hard way...so now, you shld know it too....
Regardless of whether you want to talk or not, make the effort to! In this way, then you will know whats going on -
really what.Originally posted by Devil1976: -
er so hows the status now
got have a nice talk with ur bf? -
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Then what is the 1st 2 months...? Not part of the relationship..?Originally posted by sinicker:really what. -
Originally posted by bladez87:give and take la
give him a slap
and take flight
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and thats good...?Originally posted by Pommes frites:don worry.i quarrel with my bf almost everyday. -
the 1st 2 months.. both partners would still be very cordial with each other.. elated with their friendship, satisfied with what they have, happy to see each other each time .. 3 months on.. problems set in. unhappy with stuff and such.. isnt a relationship supposed to be of ups and downs?Originally posted by Devil1976:Then what is the 1st 2 months...? Not part of the relationship..? -
Well.. A relationship doesn't necessarily always starts with a friendship... And... Since you mentioned that a relationship should be of ups and downs, won't it be even more weird to exclude the supposingly 'up' during the 1st 2 months of a relationship...? Besides, the 'supposed' honeymoon period need not always last for 2-3 months in a relationship, not that it should even exist in all relationships...?Originally posted by sinicker:the 1st 2 months.. both partners would still be very cordial with each other.. elated with their friendship, satisfied with what they have, happy to see each other each time .. 3 months on.. problems set in. unhappy with stuff and such.. isnt a relationship supposed to be of ups and downs?