izzit better to love or be loved??
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okie..first time using this forum...dun realli noe how it works and pls dun remove this post even if its repeated...~ mi first post
18 male this year....haven got a girlfriend yet...
why? u asked...
haiz...its all on mi persistence, i dun realli fall for girls tt fall 4 mi....u get wat i meant....through out mi 'long life' rejected abt 4 to 5 girls bah..
...but the few times tt i expressed mi love 4 a girl( after a short courtship), they jst rejected mi...real sad sia...
..one sec sch girl i like 4 very long, but she reject mi 4 dunno how many times throughout mi sec sch life...but we are still friends la....
recently got rejected again...haiz...became to rethink abt myself...
hence, the qns, izzit better to be loved,( i meant to accept a girl tt dun have feeling 4, but hope tt it would blossom)
or continue, to get those tt i love....( which i tink i would get rejected bah)
welcome any words of encouragements, comments, or saying tt im dumb(maybe im?), suggestions,
tanks....
haiz...real sad.... -
its only better if you can do both. it takes two to clap.
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Of course be love ... la
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be loved means u are constantly hurting that person if u can't love back
love without reciprocation means u are on receiving end of hurt
it's a cruel thing. Like is better. Lukewarm all around. -
better dont go love ppl.. =x no la.. just tt.. aiya.. you love them so much.. yet they treat it like nth.. some even think u r a pest.. hais.. aiya.. i rather go love those ppl who love me*
*terms and conditions apply -
of coz it's better to love AND to be loved lah.
moreover, you're still young man... although 18 is a legal age, but that doesn't means u have lived ur life to the fullest. there're still plenty to explore.
take ur time. do it step by step.
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anyway, i wasnt rejected by the same girl...
it was another fm mi jc...haiz... -
don't listen to him....
do what you think is right...
for in relationship ...there is no standard Right Nor Wrong Answers from the start...so don't be bothered over this...
as for gal confessing to u...give them a chance...and give urself a chance...
if you give other gals a chance...tell them straight in their face...that u have a gal in ur heart...but u will try to make things work out between u and the gal who confessed to u to work well in the bgrOriginally posted by MobyDog:Of course be love ... la -
u muz love and be loved by the same person, then u will find happiness.
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it is easier to be loved and harder to love...
but it is more enriching to love than to be loved...
get it?
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i think it's easier to love ba. at least i can choose who to love and whether i want to love that person..Originally posted by R3SsH|n:it is easier to be loved and harder to love...
but it is more enriching to love than to be loved...
get it?
but i cannot decide or control who to love me.. -
Wah you all very cheem.
Cheers -
Most people will choose Be love.
One of Ronald Cheung's classic song - Bei Ai Shi Xin Fu Ai Ren Si Tong Ku.
Well, yes and no. Definitely, be loved is more fortunate than loving someone.
But of cos, be loved by someone u have no feeling is may somehow be a torture to u, i believe u went through that before.
What u wish for, probably to appreciate being loved and hoping return the love to that special person.
Be persistent and dun give up easily.... true love will just come one day unexpectedly. -
well yeah...but when the person you love don't love you...it becomes really much harder...however...it is much more interesting to love someone than to be loved...when u love...you will want all the best for the other party...you sacrifice unconditionally for that person...and when you look back...you will give the effort you put in a smile...Originally posted by browniebaobao:i think it's easier to love ba. at least i can choose who to love and whether i want to love that person..
but i cannot decide or control who to love me..
to be loved is receiving...to love is giving...like they say:
"give and take makes the way"
its best to love and be loved...but this is tough in reality... -
Find the right one who can cherish the love you give, and you shall be loved
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one way can be better.
but the best is if it can go both ways.. -
Stay single.
No troubles. -
oh yeah~Originally posted by Patrik:Stay single.
No troubles.
we stay in ~HH~ for life ba. -
i just noe the feeling of loving someone, it is so troubling yet so happy, but when ppl love me and yet i dont love her i will feel like the conscience is bugging me, i choose to love someone, and i hope the girl would accept me after some time........................
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a one sided thing can nv make both parties happy... one party will be hurt either way.... sometimes even both party are hurt for some reason....
love and r/s shld be two sided... -
First of all, you should feel flattered whenever girls have feelings for you. This particular girl likes you a lot but you rejected her. But she keeps coming back asking you and you keep rejecting her. Would you want her to move on with her life and don't pester you again or would you want her to keep trying until you finally feel something for her? It might be the same case when you keep wooing the girl who rejected you time and time again. She might want you to move on with your life or she's just playing too hard to get. Anyway there are always other girls out there. Since you haven't find one, the one for you is still out there. Maybe its your technique in asking the girls? Maybe you are too fast and too furious and they get scared or uncomfortable? Try going slow. Casual friends at first then be good friends. Be there for her whenever she needs someone. Be the Mr Nice Guy but not too nice that you become Mr Fake Nice Guy.
The best is to love and to be loved and like what the others have said it takes 2 hands to clap. But in a relationship, you have got to learn to sacrifice. A lot. And I really really mean a lot. Whether you are a guy or you are a girl. Girls will always be girls no doubt and guys will always be guys. The guys will never understand girls completely and its the same with girls. That's why you have got to sacrfice a lot and have lots of patience. That's why sometimes being single is still the best, but when you've got that special someone in which love flows freely from you to her and her to you, that's the bestest of all!!
"Never love a love that hurts, and never hurt a love that loves" -
tanks for the comments, replies and suchs....
realli feel very enlightened and touched by all yr replies....realli...
after some thought, i came up with this theory(or thought)....
wat i find ironic is tt ( generally, apply to everyone, i think..) is tt when u reject someone, its because tt u find him(her) ~undesirable(maybe not pretty enough? attitude sucks? yada, yada)....
therefore, u r 'superior', have a choice, and is so called the 'better' person...
but, when someone( tt u like~ of course ), rejects u (FOR THE SAME REASONS)....even if he(she) dun say it out....
it sucks...and it's ironic.....
wat do u guys think....tats wat i feel now, and tt promped mi to start this thread....
..as usual, pls post all yr comments, suggestion, and if u tink im crapping, can slap mi(verbally) if u wan....
p.s.~ if u dun understand wat im saying....can ask la.... -
to be loved
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the best is to be love n to love...
but then its better to be love instead of loving someone... -
It takes two hands to clap.