Hey cmon be BRAVE
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after sometime i learned that...... it is something hard to explain so i would write it down as example for readers to understand......
when u get up the stage u have a stage fear, but y u so scared of, if it was other ppl, do u think the person acted shy would make the stage livlier ( spelling wrong ) or happier? but if ur thick skinned, and just chiong up the stage and say HI loudly, wouldnt it be better? like to girls, most of the sec 1 in the class is like girl sit left boy sit right, and the girl talk to girl boy talk with boy.
i just kept thinking y they so shy, after all we all are classmates saying something like 'hi' or 'ur pretty' is no big deal RIGHT? i just wanna noe that y we have that kind of feeling? any love expert or any pro expert would help me or my classmate overcome this kind of wierd thinking? i am halfway convinced by myself that be BRAVE...... but help me walk the other half way, i would welcome any reply, or any advice, ( even doing meditation ) -
my skin too thick. dont care one. haha
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can u rephrase ur question?
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Errmm... Cheem sia!!
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yea man...
reali dun quite get wat ya trying to ask here.. -
I think what the thread-starter is trying to say is 'How to overcome the shyness of initiating a conversation between 2 people of opposite gender whom just met each other or are strangers to each other'.
In my opinion, most of the time people tend to think too much, like "How will he/she reply me if I say 'Hi' ? " or "What impression will I give him/her if I initiate a conversation like this?". Well, just be natural, don't think too much. Just go up and say "Hi, I'm so-so and so". The other party wouldn't eat you up if you say the wrong starting sentence, right? Treat them as if they are your friends already. -
stage fright and initiating a tok is a totally different thing...Originally posted by Swordyx:after sometime i learned that...... it is something hard to explain so i would write it down as example for readers to understand......
when u get up the stage u have a stage fear, but y u so scared of, if it was other ppl, do u think the person acted shy would make the stage livlier ( spelling wrong ) or happier? but if ur thick skinned, and just chiong up the stage and say HI loudly, wouldnt it be better? like to girls, most of the sec 1 in the class is like girl sit left boy sit right, and the girl talk to girl boy talk with boy.
i just kept thinking y they so shy, after all we all are classmates saying something like 'hi' or 'ur pretty' is no big deal RIGHT? i just wanna noe that y we have that kind of feeling? any love expert or any pro expert would help me or my classmate overcome this kind of wierd thinking? i am halfway convinced by myself that be BRAVE...... but help me walk the other half way, i would welcome any reply, or any advice, ( even doing meditation ) -
You don't need to be brave but you need to be confident.Originally posted by Swordyx:after sometime i learned that...... it is something hard to explain so i would write it down as example for readers to understand......
when u get up the stage u have a stage fear, but y u so scared of, if it was other ppl, do u think the person acted shy would make the stage livlier ( spelling wrong ) or happier? but if ur thick skinned, and just chiong up the stage and say HI loudly, wouldnt it be better? like to girls, most of the sec 1 in the class is like girl sit left boy sit right, and the girl talk to girl boy talk with boy.
i just kept thinking y they so shy, after all we all are classmates saying something like 'hi' or 'ur pretty' is no big deal RIGHT? i just wanna noe that y we have that kind of feeling? any love expert or any pro expert would help me or my classmate overcome this kind of wierd thinking? i am halfway convinced by myself that be BRAVE...... but help me walk the other half way, i would welcome any reply, or any advice, ( even doing meditation ) -
Confidence is sth u build over time.
Best develop thick skin.. let ur insecurities, negative criticism bounce off ur thick skin. If ur forever shy, u will stay forever in the shadows, lose out on opportunities... basically like a ghost.
Stage fright.. thats normal.. every great stage people gets that. But they deal with it. Even if ur workin as a dj for club..everything dark dark and no one can see you, u wont be immune to stage fright. Even if ur a famous singer.. u will still get stage fright.
basically the prob lies in what steps u take to bolster ur confidence. -
dun worry bud...sec 1 is like this one la...once you get to know most of them well enough..you will start talking so much your teacher will ask u to stfu...it all comes with age la...for alot of people...the ability to talk to the opposite sex comes with experience and opportunity...when everyone gets slighly older...it will be fine..
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ya once u all know each other for some years then u will b able to talk abt almost everything.
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BroOriginally posted by Swordyx:after sometime i learned that...... it is something hard to explain so i would write it down as example for readers to understand......
when u get up the stage u have a stage fear, but y u so scared of, if it was other ppl, do u think the person acted shy would make the stage livlier ( spelling wrong ) or happier? but if ur thick skinned, and just chiong up the stage and say HI loudly, wouldnt it be better? like to girls, most of the sec 1 in the class is like girl sit left boy sit right, and the girl talk to girl boy talk with boy.
i just kept thinking y they so shy, after all we all are classmates saying something like 'hi' or 'ur pretty' is no big deal RIGHT? i just wanna noe that y we have that kind of feeling? any love expert or any pro expert would help me or my classmate overcome this kind of wierd thinking? i am halfway convinced by myself that be BRAVE...... but help me walk the other half way, i would welcome any reply, or any advice, ( even doing meditation )
sec 1 kids all come from different primary school right?
They need time to get use to each other.
Try not to worry so much.
Some games might help break the ice. -
when i was in sec 1 i was like suttering when gals talk to me... it was only till years later thast self confidence built up within me...
take it easy... jux no need to be too shy... jus try to continue a conversation whe they strike up one... however say wat's necessary but dun say uncessary things though -
ok thx for the useful replies.... and i rly almost got eaten up, a girl go bite me after i say hi chio bu!
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huh?? so whats the agony about?
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rephrase please
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It's really a mentality thing (block?) in your head. Just like when one says 'hi', there could be a thousand ways to say it... And what he really meant by what he said...Originally posted by Swordyx:after sometime i learned that...... it is something hard to explain so i would write it down as example for readers to understand......
when u get up the stage u have a stage fear, but y u so scared of, if it was other ppl, do u think the person acted shy would make the stage livlier ( spelling wrong ) or happier? but if ur thick skinned, and just chiong up the stage and say HI loudly, wouldnt it be better? like to girls, most of the sec 1 in the class is like girl sit left boy sit right, and the girl talk to girl boy talk with boy.
i just kept thinking y they so shy, after all we all are classmates saying something like 'hi' or 'ur pretty' is no big deal RIGHT? i just wanna noe that y we have that kind of feeling? any love expert or any pro expert would help me or my classmate overcome this kind of wierd thinking? i am halfway convinced by myself that be BRAVE...... but help me walk the other half way, i would welcome any reply, or any advice, ( even doing meditation )
Then again... Everything also have to be balanced off with the mentality of the girl you're speaking to and the general culture in that particular society.... -
stage fright in AA?