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Its always easy to advice pp in AA..tell them to do this, do that, buck up, wake up their ideas, etc....
when it comes to individual, its so hard to swallow such own advices you had given to others in need.
As some know that i jus ended my 4 years r/s... I tot i am ok after a couple of mths, but now i realise its still hard to swallow it...My ex just told me a good guy whom she thinks is a very nice guy is after her and though she says its still hard to tell whether its possible, but i guess most guys know how to interprete such statements...
Just finding means to vent my sadness or frustration or jealousy in AA...
now, i just wan to buried myself in work and my hobbies..
Thanks for reading...
So, a doc can also fall sick. Likewise, a love adviser can also be in trouble with hearts too...
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well saidOriginally posted by darknessfall:Its always easy to advice pp in AA..tell them to do this, do that, buck up, wake up their ideas, etc....
when it comes to individual, its so hard to swallow such own advices you had given to others in need.
As some know that i jus ended my 4 years r/s... I tot i am ok after a couple of mths, but now i realise its still hard to swallow it...My ex just told me a good guy whom she thinks is a very nice guy is after her and though she says its still hard to tell whether its possible, but i guess most guys know how to interprete such statements...
Just finding means to vent my sadness or frustration or jealousy in AA...
now, i just wan to buried myself in work and my hobbies..
Thanks for reading...
So, a doc can also fall sick. Likewise, a love adviser can also be in trouble with hearts too... 
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........Originally posted by darknessfall:So, a doc can also fall sick. Likewise, a love adviser can also be in trouble with hearts too...
Ok. Humility my friend.
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cos when u are in it.. u arent able to see the picture clearly.. becos of the emotions u have, u might be either biased towards certain decisions~
it just like playing chess.. the 3rd party understand the game best~
for your infor, im a pretty god player nia~
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Nice to know that you decide to distract yourself through work and hobbies. Time will heal wounds.. not easy, but possible.Originally posted by darknessfall:Its always easy to advice pp in AA..tell them to do this, do that, buck up, wake up their ideas, etc....
when it comes to individual, its so hard to swallow such own advices you had given to others in need.
As some know that i jus ended my 4 years r/s... I tot i am ok after a couple of mths, but now i realise its still hard to swallow it...My ex just told me a good guy whom she thinks is a very nice guy is after her and though she says its still hard to tell whether its possible, but i guess most guys know how to interprete such statements...
Just finding means to vent my sadness or frustration or jealousy in AA...
now, i just wan to buried myself in work and my hobbies..
Thanks for reading...
So, a doc can also fall sick. Likewise, a love adviser can also be in trouble with hearts too...
Wishing you well.... -
its kind of strange when you thought the wounds had heal..then it suddenly struck you that actually, it stills hurt..
Thats so painful..
But life still goes on. The clock still ticks by. Age will grow. Learning to be strong and get over it... i hope i will and i hope it will be.
Lifes full of ups and downs. I hope i will rise again...
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Man.. 4 yrs you say? My bad.. Keep the spirit up dude, be strong aight? Good idea to bury yourself with activities and try to think of it this way. You had no loss. You had gains..
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he does have gains by burying himself in work, but at the same time stay healthy and eat healthy...don't just because your trying to forget your ex...then ni bao yin bao shi eat a lot of junk food...Originally posted by dinky1409:Man.. 4 yrs you say? My bad.. Keep the spirit up dude, be strong aight? Good idea to bury yourself with activities and try to think of it this way. You had no loss. You had gains..
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darknessfall, are you 'waiting'?
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Initially yes...but now that she decided to move on, well.. probably that was y i felt abit of jealousy...Originally posted by sinicker:darknessfall, are you 'waiting'?
I dont term that as "waiting" because not that i am waiting for her to come back to me..but you know, its the kind of "bu suan" feeling when you see your ex going out with other guys..haha..
i know, shld learn to let go, she is not your gf anymore, dun think so much, etc..
So, i better wake up my ideas soon!
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You really think is easy to advice people?Originally posted by darknessfall:Its always easy to advice pp in AA..tell them to do this, do that, buck up, wake up their ideas, etc....
when it comes to individual, its so hard to swallow such own advices you had given to others in need.
As some know that i jus ended my 4 years r/s... I tot i am ok after a couple of mths, but now i realise its still hard to swallow it...My ex just told me a good guy whom she thinks is a very nice guy is after her and though she says its still hard to tell whether its possible, but i guess most guys know how to interprete such statements...
Just finding means to vent my sadness or frustration or jealousy in AA...
now, i just wan to buried myself in work and my hobbies..
Thanks for reading...
So, a doc can also fall sick. Likewise, a love adviser can also be in trouble with hearts too...
Good advice comes from people who had been through these problems themselves.
Please stop saying is easy cos you were never there to feel the pain the people had.
Since when are you are qualify to be a love adviser?
You have ended a 4 year r/s.
So what ? You think is a big deal is it?
Others have 10 years relationship which ended just like that.
Others can wake up and pick themselves up asap why can't you?
Cos you are not mature enough thats why always looking back thats why you always kena the same problem.
You can vent about everything under the sun but please do not said about others who you have not meet. -
Dood...get a hold of yourself.....many ppl have been through this, its only a phase you go through in life.Try to get your mind of it and divert your attention, handle your depression with your friends and family. The last thing anyone wants is a love-sick suicidal, it will be all over soon enough.
In the meantime, i suggest a healthy dosage of porn to get you back on your feet
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Originally posted by zeny:You really think is easy to advice people?
Good advice comes from people who had been through these problems themselves.
Please stop saying is easy cos you were never there to feel the pain the people had.
Since when are you are qualify to be a love adviser?
You have ended a 4 year r/s.
So what ? You think is a big deal is it?
Others have 10 years relationship which ended just like that.
Others can wake up and pick themselves up asap why can't you?
Cos you are not mature enough thats why always looking back thats why you always kena the same problem.
You can vent about everything under the sun but please do not said about others who you have not meet.
Heh
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Wow...Originally posted by zeny:You really think is easy to advice people?
Good advice comes from people who had been through these problems themselves.
Please stop saying is easy cos you were never there to feel the pain the people had.
Since when are you are qualify to be a love adviser?
You have ended a 4 year r/s.
So what ? You think is a big deal is it?
Others have 10 years relationship which ended just like that.
Others can wake up and pick themselves up asap why can't you?
Cos you are not mature enough thats why always looking back thats why you always kena the same problem.
You can vent about everything under the sun but please do not said about others who you have not meet.
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whats wrong with you? You mean a person cannot vent frustration through channels like forum? I did not mention any other person through my topic. I was refering to myself..Originally posted by zeny:You really think is easy to advice people?
Good advice comes from people who had been through these problems themselves.
Please stop saying is easy cos you were never there to feel the pain the people had.
Since when are you are qualify to be a love adviser?
You have ended a 4 year r/s.
So what ? You think is a big deal is it?
Others have 10 years relationship which ended just like that.
Others can wake up and pick themselves up asap why can't you?
Cos you are not mature enough thats why always looking back thats why you always kena the same problem.
You can vent about everything under the sun but please do not said about others who you have not meet.
yeah...4 years to you might not be a great deal..prob you are right..you have been thru more than some of us. So what?
What i was saying was that its easier to advice pp on things, but when it happens to oneself, its hard to listen to your own advices.. Something wrong with the statement? This doesnt jus applies to love matters. Everything in life is the same. You tell a jobless man to upgrade his skills or send relentless applications and to cheer up. But if you really got fired one day, its like sudden end of world at that moment.
Or you tell some1 who failed his exams to try harder, but if you fail?
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Hey hey, you sound bitter.Originally posted by zeny:You really think is easy to advice people?
Good advice comes from people who had been through these problems themselves.
Please stop saying is easy cos you were never there to feel the pain the people had.
Since when are you are qualify to be a love adviser?
You have ended a 4 year r/s.
So what ? You think is a big deal is it?
Others have 10 years relationship which ended just like that.
Others can wake up and pick themselves up asap why can't you?
Cos you are not mature enough thats why always looking back thats why you always kena the same problem.
You can vent about everything under the sun but please do not said about others who you have not meet.
Unlike you, he sounds really mature and I understand him fully becasue my similar experience hasn't made me bitter. If you can't understand, atleast don't make anyone down. -
yes its true... but when the love adviser got own trouble then its their turn to seek advices here... cheers and wait for your next gal show up... its not the end yet...Originally posted by darknessfall:Its always easy to advice pp in AA..tell them to do this, do that, buck up, wake up their ideas, etc....
when it comes to individual, its so hard to swallow such own advices you had given to others in need.
As some know that i jus ended my 4 years r/s... I tot i am ok after a couple of mths, but now i realise its still hard to swallow it...My ex just told me a good guy whom she thinks is a very nice guy is after her and though she says its still hard to tell whether its possible, but i guess most guys know how to interprete such statements...
Just finding means to vent my sadness or frustration or jealousy in AA...
now, i just wan to buried myself in work and my hobbies..
Thanks for reading...
So, a doc can also fall sick. Likewise, a love adviser can also be in trouble with hearts too... -
Originally posted by BrUtUs:yes its true... but when the love adviser got own trouble then its their turn to seek advices here... cheers and wait for your next gal show up... its not the end yet...
A strange thing is that when I fall into my own plight, I need to talk to people... not about advice, but more for discussion for my own enlightenment.
Anyway vampires are undead; they can't be revive in any ways. I know I will probably survive anything else when I was raised into the ranks of the dead.
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I think you lost yourself here zeny. It is of course easy to advice people. Damn easy. What's so difficult? But to understand other people's problems and to feel the same feeling as them is the difficult one because we are never in their position no matter what.Originally posted by zeny:You really think is easy to advice people?
Good advice comes from people who had been through these problems themselves.
Please stop saying is easy cos you were never there to feel the pain the people had.
Qualifications are needed to be a love adviser? A level cert? Degree in Love? What are you talking about? Anyone can become a so called 'love adviser', whether you are a good one or not. When you give advice on love to someone, you are so called a love adviser right? Sheesh..Originally posted by zeny:Since when are you are qualify to be a love adviser?
Relax man.. 4 years is pretty long too, of course if you compare it to 10 years, relatively its not that long but to go through 4 years with someone is really something too.. And I would like to think he has already woken up and is picking his life pieces slowly so.... WTF are you talking about?Originally posted by zeny:You have ended a 4 year r/s.
So what ? You think is a big deal is it?
Others have 10 years relationship which ended just like that.
Others can wake up and pick themselves up asap why can't you?
Dude, you totally lost yourself here.. I don't understand a single $hit..Originally posted by zeny:Cos you are not mature enough thats why always looking back thats why you always kena the same problem.
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yup.. and friends have varying suggestions.. for me, some say forget abt her, some say wait for her, some say go and pursue her once more. but yup, it does take a load off the chest.Originally posted by Yunhaier: A strange thing is that when I fall into my own plight, I need to talk to people... not about advice, but more for discussion for my own enlightenment. -
it is always easier to give advice.
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Well said dinky..
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Differing perspectives i see here.
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ya right to all...
Most people have diff perspectives about things..me too...
zeny is right in his way too.. The good advice to people who fell out of love is not to think and live in the past. The more one think, the more he/she gets miserable...
Well, for me, i dont deny that at times, i do think of the past. Its not really my choice either... You know, like you pass by some places or saw somethings, naturally it will comes back to you...
As for my ex gf, she seems to find some1 more suitable for her already.. Happy i am not, but neither sad..Probably it contains some jealousy..haha..
Cant i sense abit of jealousy? hehe...not that i am bitter about it, but in the end, i hope both of us will find our true halfs...
cheers!
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i think most of the ppl here just want a listening ear, most r not going to use the method given by fellow forumites.
things are always easier said than done
just look on the bright side!