Originally posted by Depressed...*sigh*:You see, I am so afraid of facing the real world. People judge you by your looks, academic, attitude etc. but I can't seem to have any of the attributes mentioned. Also, I have like only one or two close friends but we only communicate through MSN
It's not that I don't want to meet new people, but whenever I tried to open up, I always never fail to disappoint people. Maybe it's because we don't share the same interest or maybe because I am too rigid. I always tend to tremble or feel uncomfortable all of sudden whenever they start a conversation with me. This is really frustrating and it's affecting my social life and overall well-being. I feel so useless and really thought that I should be better off as a 'bai jia zi' than to set a goal to achieve in my life. I mean, really, this place on earth favours the more sociable people than the introverts.
I've been hurt too many times in the past and I can tell you that wherever I go, people do not like me...for whatever reasons, it surely is something bad about me like I've mentioned. They think i'm stupid and clumsy, always wearing a frown on my face. This, I can't help it, it's already a trait that I've been exhibited from young. I have everything a loser/nerd can have for
The root of my problem here is not my past but on how to change my perspective from a negative to a positive one? I always see the uglies and now, I want to have a change, a breathe of fresh air...because, I always been feeling so small, isolated and unwanted. My family is not the best, my step mum seems to adore her dog more than me, she will give me more money if I play with her dog.
All I can say that, I am a person that never have a tatse of self-confidence and real success in reality. It's always disappointments, disappointments and more disappointments.
*Sorry I was just writing what I was thinking
This is good advice. But, Depressed...*sigh*, I also realise that you may feel it is difficult to "think positively" because of past hurts. I think it's perfectly within reason for you to feel this way, although it isn't good for yourself in the long run.Originally posted by rainee:Think positively. If you keep thinking that everyone hates you, it will become like a self fulfilling prophecies and ppl will start to avoid you not because they hate you at the first place, but because they see that you are always looking unhappy when you are around them.
if u dun help urself , den nobody can help u. start thinking positively. its impt to have some self confidence, without confidence, u cant show ur characters, personalities n ur true self to others. Confidence is wat u need.Originally posted by Depressed...*sigh*:You see, I am so afraid of facing the real world. People judge you by your looks, academic, attitude etc. but I can't seem to have any of the attributes mentioned. Also, I have like only one or two close friends but we only communicate through MSN
It's not that I don't want to meet new people, but whenever I tried to open up, I always never fail to disappoint people. Maybe it's because we don't share the same interest or maybe because I am too rigid. I always tend to tremble or feel uncomfortable all of sudden whenever they start a conversation with me. This is really frustrating and it's affecting my social life and overall well-being. I feel so useless and really thought that I should be better off as a 'bai jia zi' than to set a goal to achieve in my life. I mean, really, this place on earth favours the more sociable people than the introverts.
I've been hurt too many times in the past and I can tell you that wherever I go, people do not like me...for whatever reasons, it surely is something bad about me like I've mentioned. They think i'm stupid and clumsy, always wearing a frown on my face. This, I can't help it, it's already a trait that I've been exhibited from young. I have everything a loser/nerd can have for
The root of my problem here is not my past but on how to change my perspective from a negative to a positive one? I always see the uglies and now, I want to have a change, a breathe of fresh air...because, I always been feeling so small, isolated and unwanted. My family is not the best, my step mum seems to adore her dog more than me, she will give me more money if I play with her dog.
All I can say that, I am a person that never have a tatse of self-confidence and real success in reality. It's always disappointments, disappointments and more disappointments.
*Sorry I was just writing what I was thinking
Well. You can continue to just complain about them or you can try to do something to change them?Originally posted by Depressed...*sigh*:You see, I am so afraid of facing the real world. People judge you by your looks, academic, attitude etc. but I can't seem to have any of the attributes mentioned. Also, I have like only one or two close friends but we only communicate through MSN
It's not that I don't want to meet new people, but whenever I tried to open up, I always never fail to disappoint people. Maybe it's because we don't share the same interest or maybe because I am too rigid. I always tend to tremble or feel uncomfortable all of sudden whenever they start a conversation with me. This is really frustrating and it's affecting my social life and overall well-being. I feel so useless and really thought that I should be better off as a 'bai jia zi' than to set a goal to achieve in my life. I mean, really, this place on earth favours the more sociable people than the introverts.
I've been hurt too many times in the past and I can tell you that wherever I go, people do not like me...for whatever reasons, it surely is something bad about me like I've mentioned. They think i'm stupid and clumsy, always wearing a frown on my face. This, I can't help it, it's already a trait that I've been exhibited from young. I have everything a loser/nerd can have for
The root of my problem here is not my past but on how to change my perspective from a negative to a positive one? I always see the uglies and now, I want to have a change, a breathe of fresh air...because, I always been feeling so small, isolated and unwanted. My family is not the best, my step mum seems to adore her dog more than me, she will give me more money if I play with her dog.
All I can say that, I am a person that never have a tatse of self-confidence and real success in reality. It's always disappointments, disappointments and more disappointments.
*Sorry I was just writing what I was thinking
I do not second that. If it doesn't, I won't be suffering half of the injustice that is done to me.Originally posted by .Dark.Yuki.:Looks do not matter. Don't waste money on make-overs
Wah...PPPOriginally posted by pinkish purple papayas:wow...even ur nick is depressing....
get a life....
Hmmm, quite true, I always try to be happy nowadyas and forgive myself and my parents, relatives for the atrocities that has been donw in the past.. we all been young before and make lots of mistakes right?Originally posted by rainee:Think positively. If you keep thinking that everyone hates you, it will become like a self fulfilling prophecies and ppl will start to avoid you not because they hate you at the first place, but because they see that you are always looking unhappy when you are around them.
I'm very much alive. If i'm not, I won't be feeling any feelings at all. Thank you very much.Originally posted by pinkish purple papayas:wow...even ur nick is depressing....
get a life....
Just one question for you to ponder upon.Originally posted by Depressed...*sigh*:Actually, I wrote this message because of one thing in mind : How am I gonna get a job with me still behaving like i never grow up?
Really, I either can't find or I can't stay at one job for too long. It's either the person fires me or try to cheat my money (like pay deposit la..blah blah)Really, I hardly see people like me working on a job..it's either admin or whatsoever but they have a cert, I only have my 'N' level
Also, I can't stand it when other ppl praise others 'very smart la, he achieved this at age blah blah..." 'very chio la', 'handsome la', something wrong with me huh? I will either be depressed the whole day or sulk like a spoilt childAlso actually when others talk to me, I can feel that they pity me cause I see it in their eyes...they always say others more ke lian than me la, so don't feel sad..yaya, when did I ever feel sad only until you mention it
Almost everyone I met at first sight say that to me..even when I go for interviews..so you tell me, issit I must go for plastic surgery to reconstruct my facial expression??
Also, I always wonder how do ppl can talk so much when they just met each other..it's like..they have a talent in communicating with others, making others feel comfortable...I want to attend those classes that teach people how to interact with others..but the it's soo expensive =.= i'm saving my ang pao money for a makeover leh![]()
Looks do not matter as much as how much confidence you can exude from yourself. If you know how to appear confident, you will appear beautiful to other people.Originally posted by Depressed...*sigh*:I do not second that. If it doesn't, I won't be suffering half of the injustice that is done to me.
I think you are thinking too much of what people might think about you. Maybe they don't feel that you are pitiful, but you think they are thinking that way. As I have said, it is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Don't be so self-conscious about your looks, as it is not everything. Learn to feel and appear confident.Originally posted by Depressed...*sigh*:Actually, I wrote this message because of one thing in mind : How am I gonna get a job with me still behaving like i never grow up?
Really, I either can't find or I can't stay at one job for too long. It's either the person fires me or try to cheat my money (like pay deposit la..blah blah)Really, I hardly see people like me working on a job..it's either admin or whatsoever but they have a cert, I only have my 'N' level
Also, I can't stand it when other ppl praise others 'very smart la, he achieved this at age blah blah..." 'very chio la', 'handsome la', something wrong with me huh? I will either be depressed the whole day or sulk like a spoilt childAlso actually when others talk to me, I can feel that they pity me cause I see it in their eyes...they always say others more ke lian than me la, so don't feel sad..yaya, when did I ever feel sad only until you mention it
Almost everyone I met at first sight say that to me..even when I go for interviews..so you tell me, issit I must go for plastic surgery to reconstruct my facial expression??
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Also, I always wonder how do ppl can talk so much when they just met each other..it's like..they have a talent in communicating with others, making others feel comfortable...I want to attend those classes that teach people how to interact with others..but the it's soo expensive =.= i'm saving my ang pao money for a makeover leh![]()
You are not alone, there are others in this world thinking the same way. Get to know them and u will even forget about these thoughts u are having. Part of the problem is that these thoughts in you give u yourself that u are the only one , unique and makes u lonely. If u know another person who has the same problem, the thinking somewhat changes.Originally posted by Depressed...*sigh*:You see, I am so afraid of facing the real world. People judge you by your looks, academic, attitude etc. but I can't seem to have any of the attributes mentioned. Also, I have like only one or two close friends but we only communicate through MSN
It's not that I don't want to meet new people, but whenever I tried to open up, I always never fail to disappoint people. Maybe it's because we don't share the same interest or maybe because I am too rigid. I always tend to tremble or feel uncomfortable all of sudden whenever they start a conversation with me. This is really frustrating and it's affecting my social life and overall well-being. I feel so useless and really thought that I should be better off as a 'bai jia zi' than to set a goal to achieve in my life. I mean, really, this place on earth favours the more sociable people than the introverts.
I've been hurt too many times in the past and I can tell you that wherever I go, people do not like me...for whatever reasons, it surely is something bad about me like I've mentioned. They think i'm stupid and clumsy, always wearing a frown on my face. This, I can't help it, it's already a trait that I've been exhibited from young. I have everything a loser/nerd can have for
The root of my problem here is not my past but on how to change my perspective from a negative to a positive one? I always see the uglies and now, I want to have a change, a breathe of fresh air...because, I always been feeling so small, isolated and unwanted. My family is not the best, my step mum seems to adore her dog more than me, she will give me more money if I play with her dog.
All I can say that, I am a person that never have a tatse of self-confidence and real success in reality. It's always disappointments, disappointments and more disappointments.
*Sorry I was just writing what I was thinking