Does posting in forums like this helps you?
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I was wondering if you people who have problems in life actually feel that posting here helps. Be it just ranting, asking for opinions or help in making decisions... or anything else.
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help u to destress
pour out yr feeling, it's free, nobody know who u r
better than to keep things bottled up inside yrself
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yes my dearOriginally posted by M©+square: Welcome.
Let the mushy gang help you.
Cheers glad to be of service to all AA forumities out there
first to intro.....pink jie of mushy gang
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Honestly, posting in AA whether for advice or simply to rant
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most of the time it confuses you.
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Originally posted by dragg:most of the time it confuses you.
When you're here? -
no lah, just when he make commentsOriginally posted by M©+square: When you're here? -
Originally posted by Kenashi:no lah, just when he make comments
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papergirl. Are you troubled?
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Yes, it might really help you.
Plus you will be anonymous. So u can say anything you want.
And there are many people with diverse experiece and views, u will get to know something u didn't think urself. It's good. -
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papergirl. Are you troubled?
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Hi papergirl,
Just say what trouble you and read what the others write for you.
It may not help to solve whatever problem you have, but at least you have an outlet to vent your troubled mind into writing. That can help to lesser the burden.
Allow you to think better
But don't take all advise, have to think for yourself
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Well, I'm not exactly troubled but I have been reading what people posted and have been trying to help out (or not) heh
..... That's why I'm wondering if we, who reply to these posts, actually helped them in any way...
I was having this problem making a decision and I decided to post on this forum, but when I was typing out my problem, I realised that it probably wouldn't make a difference (at least to me), because I know what I SHOULD choose. The only thing I should decide is whether I want to choose what I SHOULD or what I WANT... And that's totally up to me.
And for people who ask questions like "should I dump him/her?", really, does it matter what people say? most of the time when you ask such questions, the story would be something like "he/she doesn't care anymore. He/she (insert negative actions) me, so I want to know if I should dump him/her." The fact that you know he/she isn't treating you well, you know that you SHOULD NOT be with him/her... but you are still with him/her, aren't you? Even if the whole sgforums friendly users asked you to break it off, you probably still wouldn't... because you probably can't. If you could, you'd probably have done it before you even asked.
I probably am not making sense... Just typing out whatever is in my head.. which sometimes I wish does not exist..
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welcome to what we call relationship headache....no cure found yet
Exactly like what you say, if you already know what you want to do. Then do what you think you must.
Whatever the result from your action, you are the one to bear the ending. No one can judge if you did it right or wrong.
Whatever people advise, in the end it's just advise. if you want to heed it then you have to think it in depth if it really help.
Don't let a blind man lead another blind, imagine where you will end up in
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might feel better...
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i think there should be standard answers for the standard problems here. so repeated problems don't get mentioned, and personnel involved in the problem don't get renamed constantly to make it look like a new problem.
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Sometimes...Originally posted by papergirl:I was wondering if you people who have problems in life actually feel that posting here helps. Be it just ranting, asking for opinions or help in making decisions... or anything else. -
That would have to depend...? Different people work in different ways ya know...?Originally posted by papergirl:Well, I'm not exactly troubled but I have been reading what people posted and have been trying to help out (or not) heh ..... That's why I'm wondering if we, who reply to these posts, actually helped them in any way...
I was having this problem making a decision and I decided to post on this forum, but when I was typing out my problem, I realised that it probably wouldn't make a difference (at least to me), because I know what I SHOULD choose. The only thing I should decide is whether I want to choose what I SHOULD or what I WANT... And that's totally up to me.
And for people who ask questions like "should I dump him/her?", really, does it matter what people say? most of the time when you ask such questions, the story would be something like "he/she doesn't care anymore. He/she (insert negative actions) me, so I want to know if I should dump him/her." The fact that you know he/she isn't treating you well, you know that you SHOULD NOT be with him/her... but you are still with him/her, aren't you? Even if the whole sgforums friendly users asked you to break it off, you probably still wouldn't... because you probably can't. If you could, you'd probably have done it before you even asked.
I probably am not making sense... Just typing out whatever is in my head.. which sometimes I wish does not exist.. -
It does not actually solve my prob.... for example, aft a lengthy post abt my loneliness & lack of social life... 3 months later....... .... I am still ALONE most of the time
But the process of consolidating my thoughts & pennin them down is quite therapeutic... calms my frentic mind as unhappy & repetitve thoughts keeps whirlin thru at nite sometimes
Also, e forum allows more ppl to offer a wide spectrum of advice/comments & thus giv me a fresh perspective to my probs.. -
Erm...well this takes time and fate.If fated, you will definitely meet the one de lor and how you gonna know her in the way on how you approach to break the ice with herOriginally posted by pete_parker:It does not actually solve my prob.... for example, aft a lengthy post abt my loneliness & lack of social life... 3 months later....... .... I am still ALONE most of the time
But the process of consolidating my thoughts & pennin them down is quite therapeutic... calms my frentic mind as unhappy & repetitve thoughts keeps whirlin thru at nite sometimes
Also, e forum allows more ppl to offer a wide spectrum of advice/comments & thus giv me a fresh perspective to my probs..
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Actually I would like to congras you on able to finally realising that is " up to you to choose" not us in AA to chose for you.Originally posted by papergirl:Well, I'm not exactly troubled but I have been reading what people posted and have been trying to help out (or not) heh ..... That's why I'm wondering if we, who reply to these posts, actually helped them in any way...
I was having this problem making a decision and I decided to post on this forum, but when I was typing out my problem, I realised that it probably wouldn't make a difference (at least to me), because I know what I SHOULD choose. The only thing I should decide is whether I want to choose what I SHOULD or what I WANT... And that's totally up to me.
And for people who ask questions like "should I dump him/her?", really, does it matter what people say? most of the time when you ask such questions, the story would be something like "he/she doesn't care anymore. He/she (insert negative actions) me, so I want to know if I should dump him/her." The fact that you know he/she isn't treating you well, you know that you SHOULD NOT be with him/her... but you are still with him/her, aren't you? Even if the whole sgforums friendly users asked you to break it off, you probably still wouldn't... because you probably can't. If you could, you'd probably have done it before you even asked.
I probably am not making sense... Just typing out whatever is in my head.. which sometimes I wish does not exist..
Many people could not even reach to your level of understanding the simple statement of "that's totally up to me."
I am glad that you have done what many people could not do just by understanding this statement helps you to finally find out that AA can only advise a person. We cannot help you make the decision for you. Is up to the person to decide what he or she wants to do and live with the result of his or her decision. -
Papergirl,
It really depends on the situation. If a person needs help identifying a problem, or is too confused to think of his alternatives, posting here may help. There've been a no. who've given thanks privately to those who've helped them see the light, or in the thread itself.
However, IF you already KNOW what you want, contrary to what may be good for you, & IF you will only hear what you want to hear, despite others meaning well & advising you on another course of action, then you will NOT benefit from posting your questions here.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by papergirl:Well, I'm not exactly troubled but I have been reading what people posted and have been trying to help out (or not) heh ..... That's why I'm wondering if we, who reply to these posts, actually helped them in any way...
I was having this problem making a decision and I decided to post on this forum, but when I was typing out my problem, I realised that it probably wouldn't make a difference (at least to me), because I know what I SHOULD choose. The only thing I should decide is whether I want to choose what I SHOULD or what I WANT... And that's totally up to me.
And for people who ask questions like "should I dump him/her?", really, does it matter what people say? most of the time when you ask such questions, the story would be something like "he/she doesn't care anymore. He/she (insert negative actions) me, so I want to know if I should dump him/her." The fact that you know he/she isn't treating you well, you know that you SHOULD NOT be with him/her... but you are still with him/her, aren't you? Even if the whole sgforums friendly users asked you to break it off, you probably still wouldn't... because you probably can't. If you could, you'd probably have done it before you even asked.
I probably am not making sense... Just typing out whatever is in my head.. which sometimes I wish does not exist.. -
Knowing what to do and doing it are 2 totally different issues, any fool has their own mindset on how things should be done. But when it comes to actually doing it, it takes courage and that's what lacking in most of the people that posted their problems here ....
I'm one of those, but after reading all the advise that was written down in my post from all the good people here, it made me feel much better than when i use to keep everythg to myself.
so if u ask me, yup !! its helps !! -
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Oops... wrong forum.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Papergirl,
It really depends on the situation. If a person needs help identifying a problem, or is too confused to think of his alternatives, posting here may help. There've been a no. who've given thanks privately to those who've helped them see the light, or in the thread itself.
However, IF you already KNOW what you want, contrary to what may be good for you, & IF you will only hear what you want to hear, despite others meaning well & advising you on another course of action, then you will NOT benefit from posting your questions here.
FeowFeow