she and her granny quite close.. now im doing like what u said.. once awhile drop her a msg letting her know that im always there for her.. but all i can think of is that.. cant find something else to say.. sighh.. been saying that for quite a few times.. just hope she wont get bored of me saying that and nothing new.. how can i let her know that i care other than that? i cant meet her for this few days.. as she said she's busy.. im okay with it.. but somehow hope she will still msg me once awhile and i doing the same too.. how to keep it going..?Originally posted by ILPSY:Wel, maybe, once in a while, you can just sms her to let her know that you care. If your gf is not close to her granny, then, she will be able to let go very fast. If she is close, then, i suggest that you spend more time with her after the wake is over. Most of us only realise the lost and emptiness when we are back in a familiar place and suddenly realised that person is no longer around.
You can go ahead with your preparation for the V. day but, try to make it as low-key as possible.
Cheers.
i tried but think she's busy or something.. gave her a few fone calls yet no answer.. just hope things will be better as time goes by bah..Originally posted by hyperactivechatterbox:I think that maybe you should go comfort her or something... She might be actually wanting you to comfort her...
just know the location but not sure where it is.. but i need her to approve me to go.. after all our relationship haven let her family members know yet.. and her parents didnt allow her to have any r/s till 21.. and she's 17 and im 18 this year..Originally posted by ILPSY:Do you have any idea where the wake is? If you know, you can drop by and sit around for a while. Dun disturb her but make your presence felt while she is busy with the stuff...
not tryin to scare u..but these may be signs... that u shd leave her alone for a while.Originally posted by madman_me:i tried but think she's busy or something.. gave her a few fone calls yet no answer.. just hope things will be better as time goes by bah..
wanting to meet her yet she's busy..
i suggest u cut ur msgs by half also...maybe around once a week but u let her know u will be there when she needs u.. and finally, let her contact u to go out together instead. Dun act like u are too needy for her.Originally posted by madman_me:am not going over there as she dun really wanna me to go.. as for my parents, they're quite okay with it. but the final decision lies on my gf which she dun really want to risk it..
now what i did is only once awhile give her a msg.. like what dokono said give her some space.. after all so many things happen cant be selfish i think..
thanks alot ya for e advices. feeling much better now..![]()
think i'll wait till e time she feeling better then i gotta plan anything bah.. but after receive her msg think she's feeling better after all in e msg she sound quite her usual self.. i cant really ask her good buddy to talk to her as i think they dun really know whats happening too.. and think the more people know the more stress she get bah..Originally posted by photo_seeker:It's a total lost for you also now too right ? You wishes to be with your girlfriend, to be there for her. But now your contraints is that if you were to let her parents know about the relationship, it will cause you 2 to be seperated. The one affected most will be your girlfriend because she have just lost her Granny, definately losing her boyfriend now will hit her hardest.
What I'll suggest is that you wait till the funeral matters are all settled first since she wishes to be alone right now. Maybe she's just too lost to think of other things. Maybe you can get her bestfriend to ask her and talk to her ? It will help especially if she's bottling things up within her.
V-Day is very close, just 2 weeks to be exact. She might have just settled down by then. So whether to continue with V-Day outing, get her consents first. Maybe her parents might want her to be home now cause her parents is so strict and think they might also want to be conservatives as in 1 month of mourning period.
Death is inevitable in life. I too have lost 2 Grand-Uncle & 1 Grand-Aunt within 1 year period and I myself have to handle partial of the funerals for 1 Grand-Uncle and Grand-Aunt and also to clear their flats cause they're childless. The sadness is there, but you have to tell yourself that whatever had happened had already happened. No matter what you do, it will not be reversed. Hope your girlfriend could take it that way.
As for you, hope you've felt better by pouring out your inside now. If you're religious, maybe going to the Church, Temple, etc might help. Talk to someone you can confide in. I do that when I'm upset. Meanwhile, I can only say, take care dude. I'll keep you and your girlfriend in prayer.![]()