Love dont come easy ...

• seancannot

  31 Jan 06, 16:35

  staying in one is even more difficult.... we have our argument, fight with our insecurity, still figuring out whether we can work out with each other ... at times I just want to end the relATIONSHIP..guess those been in it ...can identify with me... not puppy love those in their late twenties in marriageble age
  
  I do love her ... but to her this is simply not good enough ... haizzzz sorry for my whining work is already killing me why cant my relationship be a blissful one ... I got the worse boss... after you have done so much even beyond your scope and level... WHAT i GOT IN THE end its only shit lots of scolding no words of encouragement , no recognition.. i just hope this fxxker go to hell and die ... we are just out to make some money y make life difficult for me .... what do you expect from someone who already work 12 hours a day six days a week ...my shitty pay...all these shit
• Devil1976

  31 Jan 06, 19:47

  For your work, if you really can't live with it... Try to search for a new one.. My policy is.. We're just out working to get paid and ourselves fed.. Why go all the way as to 'ending' your life or make it so damn miserable...?
  
  For your 'love', try to work in ways in which the things you do will be appreciated by her... Sometimes it's not just only about 'giving' in a relationship... It's also about 'when' to give and 'what' to do...
• Gigs

  31 Jan 06, 19:58

  personally i think .. both side must learn to give and take at the same time.. if ur gal cannot reciprocate back.. and is always at the receiving end, not showing u the same amount of care and love.. i thought u shld give some serious thoughts as to.. is she really the one for u..
  
• knnbeh

  31 Jan 06, 21:18

  Seancannot,
  don't feel down.
  you are not the only one feeling this.
  
  don't try to be a hero...
  that would means don't try to live up to expectation of others, expectation from others is a wall with no definate hight.
  
  try this, when you help a stranger, you get a thanks
  but you will have to show double the kindness or thripple to the one emotionally attach to you, doesn't matter its your parents, your sibling or your love.
  
  Be cool, tell yourself you are not superman, you have done your best, and this is you.
  Tell the same with very peaceful gasture to your love one. tell her you are just this good. from the day she knew you, until today, you are just you. is that good enough for her? she will tell you.
  
  Good Luck
• hopy

  31 Jan 06, 21:20

  Originally posted by knnbeh:

  Seancannot,
  don't feel down.
  you are not the only one feeling this.
  
  don't try to be a hero...
  that would means don't try to live up to expectation of others, expectation from others is a wall with no definate hight.
  
  try this, when you help a stranger, you get a thanks
  but you will have to show double the kindness or thripple to the one emotionally attach to you, doesn't matter its your parents, your sibling or your love.
  
  Be cool, tell yourself you are not superman, you have done your best, and this is you.
  Tell the same with very peaceful gasture to your love one. tell her you are just this good. from the day she knew you, until today, you are just you. is that good enough for her? she will tell you.
  
  Good Luck

  wat happens if u sense a change in tt person although tt person insist tt he has not change le?
• darknessfall

  31 Jan 06, 22:41

  work stress can be multiplied if your r/s also have problems and vice versa..
  
  in your case, both got probs, we can understand the stremenous stress u r having...u think yr gf is not understanding, and u work so hard, yet she doesnt care for you or show concern...
  
  work wise, you can really try n see whats the underlying problem. Boss will not be so mean, unless he really hates you to core. But that shldnt be, if not he wouldnt have hired you...
  
  For your gf, have a good heart-to heart talk with her. Dont keep thinking of breaking up, because it is not healthy for a r/s. Unless you really wan to give up this r/s, or else, tell her what you think, what you expect, and AT THE SAME TIME, ask what she thinks and what she expects...
  
  so u 2 can try n see wats the prob, hand-in-hand solve the problems in your r/s...