Which one would you choose? Blind love or being realistic?
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As the subject goes, which one wld u pick?
To be blinded by love and carry on in a r/s wif your girl who has a completely different set of values and principles from you and argue wif her everyday over the slightest stupid matters (she refuses to ever admit that she is wrong)?
Or to be practical and break up, knowing full well dat there is no possible way dat u both can get along anymore and try to forget her even though it is going to be tough to let go the girl you love? -
if u argue w her everyday thn whr is the love?
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Be practical and break up. no point holding on.Originally posted by Lovelorn?:As the subject goes, which one wld u pick?
To be blinded by love and carry on in a r/s wif your girl who has a completely different set of values and principles from you and argue wif her everyday over the slightest stupid matters (she refuses to ever admit that she is wrong)?
Or to be practical and break up, knowing full well dat there is no possible way dat u both can get along anymore and try to forget her even though it is going to be tough to let go the girl you love?
If you are blinded by love how long can you hold on?
1 year, 2 year, 3 years? 8 years?
Even known a guy who hold for 8 years but in the end gave up. -
suan le ba, wang le ba, wo men jiu tao zhe ni hao ma?
let it go...no pt hanging on...as the sayings goes" do it now or regret in future" -
Erm sometime faith might pay off
being realistic is also other way out
either way is different in different suitation and there is no such thing as the best solution as suitation apply -
that depends if she likes u a lot and whether she has a good attitude. u see if she has a gd attitude and is sui bian kind of person. If not keep dragging and dragging for how long ?Originally posted by Lovelorn?:As the subject goes, which one wld u pick?
To be blinded by love and carry on in a r/s wif your girl who has a completely different set of values and principles from you and argue wif her everyday over the slightest stupid matters (she refuses to ever admit that she is wrong)?
Or to be practical and break up, knowing full well dat there is no possible way dat u both can get along anymore and try to forget her even though it is going to be tough to let go the girl you love?
besides if she keeps arguing wif u, u can interpret in a way such that she's pissing u off and forcing u to break up wif her so she doesnt look like the bad guy.
next time find someone who is very sui bian and is sweet to u..
well most of the times guys are always under a gal's spell... u have to break out of her ''spell'' and see what's right and wrong. Be objective i would say. -
being realistic. know that nothing can ever come out of this r/s(after trying a couple of times). break up.
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It's a vicious cycle and there's always lesson to be learned. In fact, the option that you have implored, is one of the possible options that you could have taken. There's in fact another one, that's is...to try to compromise and accept each other for who they are. And of course that's the most difficult options of them all.Originally posted by Lovelorn?:As the subject goes, which one wld u pick?
To be blinded by love and carry on in a r/s wif your girl who has a completely different set of values and principles from you and argue wif her everyday over the slightest stupid matters (she refuses to ever admit that she is wrong)?
Or to be practical and break up, knowing full well dat there is no possible way dat u both can get along anymore and try to forget her even though it is going to be tough to let go the girl you love?
It's a vicious cycle cos even though you decided to break up with her and let her go so you'll finally find some peace in your mind, but the fact is when another girl comes along...nobody can guarantee that the next girl will not end up giving you the same problem. You probably do not wanna try your luck and see if the next girl is indeed the same or worse than the current girl cos for all you know, you could be back with facing the same relationship problem again like some nightmarish de-javu. Best bet is to ask your best buddies and see if they had similar problems with their girlfriends before...and you'll soon know if this is a vicious cycle or not. But trust me on this...it is.
There's always lessons to be learned on each and every setback that we encountered in our life. And it doesn't necessary meant that the oldest friend you have among your peers is the most mature, ate the most salt, and the wisest. So don't go around your void deck pestering those poor old folks for their words of enlightenment or wisdom.
Sometimes you may have the same setback as other people or you may have it earlier or later than other people around you. But believe me, we're all undergoing the same syllabus about life itself. And a handful of those selected few graduated to become saints, some became mad, many became repeat-students, and many more didn't even graduate from pre-school. Have you ever encountered with a person who's old enough to be our parents and yet their behaviour and wisdom isn't on par with their age? As in adults behaving childishly?
Sadly, there are plenty of those in our society and they never fail to amuse me everytime.
However, should you decided to overcome this relationship setback...I'll definitely support your decision to do so. Afterall, no matter what happens, you still love her right?
If you decides not to do so, well...the worst thing that can happen to her is...probably she'll kill herself over you or...she might just end up with another guy who doesn't know how to appreciate her like you do. In short, her life might just be ruined by your selfless decision...that is, to leave her for her own good.
But who knows, you might find another girl who is submissive to you and born with a natural good-temper and is patient and kind and generous and selfless in giving her love and all in a relationship.
Anyway, it's your life and your relationship that really requires your own wisdom to lead and live it. Pick your choice and live by it without regrets, cos life often doesn't give us a second chance unless you're really a lucky and blessed person.
Good luck and I hope you'll be happy with whatever decision you've decided to take. -
i personnelly feel....i go for relistic cos as we are living in a pratical world.. blind love cun work out.
But that may varies from case to case also..
Love is more of both party gv &�@take, endure each other & accepting both bad points, etc..supporting & mataining a relationship or marriage...
if its blind love
which may fall into many cat, is hard to say...
1.i love you, u dunno,
2.i love you, u know but dun accept,
3.i love you, u know but dun care,
4.i love you, u know but still carry on climp over my head.
There may be some others seneriors but...since lik that , Y live till so "tong ku" , y not set it free, look for someone that is more worthy for ur love.
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If only thing can be more predictable then it will be good..
One thing bad is that things got ups & down,people can change, u never know what the other party is really thinking.Even marry can divorce, what is true love?Its only a feeling at that point in time when both are "into" it.....Other then that, i think is jus pure "compainion" or "live wid it"
Jus a though from my mind, as i dun trust love....& i cannot define love as even if someone can define it, there also wun be a person as 100% love u as the word discribe it. -
Depends on whose set of values and principles are more 'normal' cos if you are the one with problems, hee, the rest of your possible rships will suffer from this issue too. (You realise that when you see her REFUSING to admit she is wrong, you are also forcing her to switch to your set of values and principles? so she MUST agree with you, or else she is wrong issit?) Are these principles and values very important to you?Originally posted by Lovelorn?:As the subject goes, which one wld u pick?
To be blinded by love and carry on in a r/s wif your girl who has a completely different set of values and principles from you and argue wif her everyday over the slightest stupid matters (she refuses to ever admit that she is wrong)?
Or to be practical and break up, knowing full well dat there is no possible way dat u both can get along anymore and try to forget her even though it is going to be tough to let go the girl you love?
However, I do believe that to have a happy rship, you should be with someone who shares the same values and principles with you, especially if you are planning to settle down. You can't build a family or have a long lasting rship that is happy with someone whom you do not agree with how life should be held. I can compromise on SOME values, but if being in a rship makes me unhappy, I rather let it go cos (besides myself being unhappy all the time) someone else with her/his values will make her/him happier than me. -
Yah lorr, like you everyday flirt with all the different girls, No wonder we never worked out
FeowFeowOriginally posted by skeujin:if u argue w her everyday thn whr is the love? -
x2Originally posted by skeujin:if u argue w her everyday thn whr is the love?
A simple answer is already the answer... -
x4Originally posted by dcx:x2
A simple answer is already the answer...
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Some arguements can come across as concerns... Probably OVERLY CONCERNED and EXPRESSED / DEMANDED in a WRONG way...Originally posted by skeujin:if u argue w her everyday thn whr is the love?
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Originally posted by FeowFeow:Yah lorr, like you everyday flirt with all the different girls, No wonder we never worked out
FeowFeow
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my mind will tell me to be practical..but my heart just wun do it..haix..wad to do?
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life is too short to be stuck in a bad relationship
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face the music; practical and break up.Originally posted by Lovelorn?:As the subject goes, which one wld u pick?
To be blinded by love and carry on in a r/s wif your girl who has a completely different set of values and principles from you and argue wif her everyday over the slightest stupid matters (she refuses to ever admit that she is wrong)?
Or to be practical and break up, knowing full well dat there is no possible way dat u both can get along anymore and try to forget her even though it is going to be tough to let go the girl you love?
Blinded by love: U are escaping frm reality
carry on: mian qiang shi mei you xin fu de -
sad to say.. seems like quite abit of r/s r facing some stormy weather lately (including myself)
who is rite and who is wrong? who can be the just judge? things happened not becoz it juz happened, there must be a root to all the probs tt arise..
hv u2 communciate well lately? hv u2 really spent quality time together lately? b4 u even started the r/s, wat do u expect out of it? did the values changed?
think it thru.. if ultimately, after realising the main root of the probs, are BOTH parties willing to work things out? if not, i think it will be better to move on in life.. -
Originally posted by Lovelorn?:
well if you know that....then i guess you know the answer too.
As the subject goes, which one wld u pick?
To be blinded by love and carry on in a r/s wif your girl who has a completely different set of values and principles from you and argue wif her everyday over the slightest stupid matters (she refuses to ever admit that she is wrong)?
Or to be practical and break up, knowing full well dat there is no possible way dat u both can get along anymore and try to forget her even though it is going to be tough to let go the girl you love? -
scandalous...Originally posted by drx: 
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Most sg gal think like u but once they get into marriage or long r/s.they realise practical is actually not what they want! They just want a guy who loves,understand and care for them..... I see too many cases of this,in the end divorce is the only solution!Originally posted by bo liao:i personnelly feel....i go for relistic cos as we are living in a pratical world.. blind love cun work out.
But that may varies from case to case also..
Love is more of both party gv &�@take, endure each other & accepting both bad points, etc..supporting & mataining a relationship or marriage...
if its blind love which may fall into many cat, is hard to say...
1.i love you, u dunno,
2.i love you, u know but dun accept,
3.i love you, u know but dun care,
4.i love you, u know but still carry on climp over my head.
There may be some others seneriors but...since lik that , Y live till so "tong ku" , y not set it free, look for someone that is more worthy for ur love.
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If only thing can be more predictable then it will be good..
One thing bad is that things got ups & down,people can change, u never know what the other party is really thinking.Even marry can divorce, what is true love?Its only a feeling at that point in time when both are "into" it.....Other then that, i think is jus pure "compainion" or "live wid it"
Jus a though from my mind, as i dun trust love....& i cannot define love as even if someone can define it, there also wun be a person as 100% love u as the word discribe it.
To me,love is not only the ingredient to have a lasting r/s... 3 ingredients is essential to make a successful marriage. Love,best friend and responsibility..My gf to me is my love one,she is also my best friend(I share all the problem and complain to her.just like yr friend helping u like that) and I have a responsible to take care of her whole life(Even love is faded,u must think of the past sweet things,moment and happiness share together mah)! -
Hmm.. Sounds like you've grown much...?Originally posted by hopy:sad to say.. seems like quite abit of r/s r facing some stormy weather lately (including myself)
who is rite and who is wrong? who can be the just judge? things happened not becoz it juz happened, there must be a root to all the probs tt arise..
hv u2 communciate well lately? hv u2 really spent quality time together lately? b4 u even started the r/s, wat do u expect out of it? did the values changed?
think it thru.. if ultimately, after realising the main root of the probs, are BOTH parties willing to work things out? if not, i think it will be better to move on in life..
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She's goin thru quite a tough time.Originally posted by Devil1976:Hmm.. Sounds like you've grown much...?