Stress period makes me hard to make the 1st move

• ArSeBeNi

  6 Feb 06, 13:35

  I'm having my attachment now. And she is still skooling.
  Now is the period of project rushing for her, and a quite slacky period for me.
  I been wanting to ask her out for the 1st date with me but upon seeing her so stressful lately, it draws my ideas back.
  Ytd nite she still awake to rush her projects till ard 3am+.
  I wanted to help her but cant do anyting.
  My buddies keep psycho me to ask her out but i really dun dare to provoke her in this very moment.
  But i noe tat deep down inside me i wanted to ask her out.
  I'm so bloody contradicting myself
  I plan to ask her out for once b4 vdae and on vdae ask her out again (I dun wan our 1st date to fall on vdae cos it seems very awkward). But vdae is reaching and i'm running out of time.
  Wat shld i do? any1 advice?
• skeujin

  6 Feb 06, 13:37

  jus ask her out lah.
  
  mayb she wld appreciate a short break away from her project.
• ghimpheng

  6 Feb 06, 19:02

  send a valatine card to her and wish her happy valatine day during valatine and ask if u could help her in anyway in her project and tell her to take care and sleep well
• Tier

  7 Feb 06, 16:46

  yeah send her a valentine's day card and tell her how you feel. and ask her out. be brave!
• choco B

  7 Feb 06, 16:56

  ArSeBeNi
  
  In university, many people got attached during the mugging period before exams, because they spend alot of time studying together and somehow grew closer admist the shared stress and difficult times. Go figure
  
  So maybe you can learn from this and instead of aggressively "dating" her, try to share what she's going through. Let her talk to you about her project problems, go to library with her, meet her for lunch or dinner near school, etc. This creates opportunity for you both to grow closer without giving her undue pressure, and she discovers how ahem caring and supportive you are
• a_splash

  7 Feb 06, 17:02

  Originally posted by choco B:

  ArSeBeNi
  
  In university, many people got attached during the mugging period before exams, because they spend alot of time studying together and somehow grew closer admist the shared stress and difficult times. Go figure
  
  So maybe you can learn from this and instead of aggressively "dating" her, try to share what she's going through. Let her talk to you about her project problems, go to library with her, meet her for lunch or dinner near school, etc.

  fish in troubled water?? kidding......
  
  ya....meet her where its to her convenient....no matter how busy also must eat one mah....
  
  good luck!
• ArSeBeNi

  8 Feb 06, 11:49

  Originally posted by choco B:

  ArSeBeNi
  
  In university, many people got attached during the mugging period before exams, because they spend alot of time studying together and somehow grew closer admist the shared stress and difficult times. Go figure
  
  So maybe you can learn from this and instead of aggressively "dating" her, try to share what she's going through. Let her talk to you about her project problems, go to library with her, meet her for lunch or dinner near school, etc. This creates opportunity for you both to grow closer without giving her undue pressure, and she discovers how ahem caring and supportive you are

  hmm mayb can try consider doing tis
  
  but meet her out for lunch is impossible. i'm having my attachment cannot meet her for lunch. travel back to skool taks 45mins already.
  
  as for dinner, wat if she says she wans to hav dinner at home meanwhile can face the computer doing her projs?
  
  thx all for da reply~