Yeo....wat should i do ?

• siongs

  7 Feb 06, 00:46

  Man~~i m so lost ...i dunno wat i want......well there is 1 gal tat really like me n i dunno i love her or not ! i mean really dunno yea !well we get together alrdy she is really gud n pretty ! n da problem is i dun hav da feel with her ya noe....n i dun wan to hurt her......i accepted her bcoz during tat time i still very confuse tats y i accepted her...i noe i m an asshole but.... i really dunno man !
  wat should i do nw ? if i broke up with her ..tiz will hurt her so much !! man~~~i dun wan any gal sad bcoz of me n i definitely dun wan to hurt her.....tel me wat to do !! or i juz keep quiet n continue wih tiz relationship ?......Dizzy man !!
• geodome

  7 Feb 06, 06:48

  you are lucky to receive the attention of a beautiful girl.
  
  i wish i get attention from beautiful girls.
  
  getting their attention is one thing. like the girl is another. to have a relationship with her is also a different thing. life is complicated.
• MiX Metal

  7 Feb 06, 10:30

  If you don't like the girl, end this relationship now..... no doubt it will hurt her but it will hurt her even more if you allow her to sink any deeper into a relationship that only she alone is living in........
• drx

  7 Feb 06, 10:36

  Originally posted by siongs:

  Man~~i m so lost ...i dunno wat i want......well there is 1 gal tat really like me n i dunno i love her or not ! i mean really dunno yea !well we get together alrdy she is really gud n pretty ! n da problem is i dun hav da feel with her ya noe....n i dun wan to hurt her......i accepted her bcoz during tat time i still very confuse tats y i accepted her...i noe i m an asshole but.... i really dunno man !
  wat should i do nw ? if i broke up with her ..tiz will hurt her so much !! man~~~i dun wan any gal sad bcoz of me n i definitely dun wan to hurt her.....tel me wat to do !! or i juz keep quiet n continue wih tiz relationship ?......Dizzy man !!

  actually you know what you want liao.
  
  let me crack your mind and show it.
  
  1) you do not like the girl at all you just accept her cos she is good and pretty.
  
  2) you are just accepting her for the sake of yourself and hurting her feelings by not letting have a chance to find someone who truely love her.
  
  3) you are worried that when finally the day will come that the girl you love will see you with this girl and reject you cos she does not want to be third party.
  
  4) Come on lar. Worrying whether she got hurt if you break up with her ? "Super Lame excuse" used by guys over and over again. If one day this good and pretty girl will to change to a ugly and mean gal do you seriously think you will not dump her asap?
  
  Let me put it this way. I will not chose the path for you on what you should do but give you advice on what might happen if you go each paths.
  
  path 1
  
  You break up with the girl. She cry and scream.. blar blar. Saying why you dump her... But if you can be man enough to hold on the your faith and correct this mistake and let the girl have a chance to find her true happiness. Then when your true love comes along you will have a chance too as she will be impress by the way you can handle things.
  
  Path 2
  
  You chose to hold on to this girl. At the begining is fun, exciting and happening but as the day goes by without real love there is nothing to hold on to. She maybe pretty but there are always better ones out there. You will ask yourself why must i stick to her only ? Since i do not like her just dump her when the time comes lar. Seems perfect right? haha every guys dream right? But what goes around comes around. When you dump her people remember what you did and when your true loves comes along at see you as a playboy she will not want to have anything to do with you.
  
  In this world everything is choices but are you ready to suffer the result of your choices?
• Tier

  7 Feb 06, 16:44

  its unwise to start a relationship cause of confusion. break off now. drag longer even more hurting for her.
• Darkness_hacker99

  7 Feb 06, 17:28

  Originally posted by siongs:

  Man~~i m so lost ...i dunno wat i want......well there is 1 gal tat really like me n i dunno i love her or not ! i mean really dunno yea !well we get together alrdy she is really gud n pretty ! n da problem is i dun hav da feel with her ya noe....n i dun wan to hurt her......i accepted her bcoz during tat time i still very confuse tats y i accepted her...i noe i m an asshole but.... i really dunno man !
  wat should i do nw ? if i broke up with her ..tiz will hurt her so much !! man~~~i dun wan any gal sad bcoz of me n i definitely dun wan to hurt her.....tel me wat to do !! or i juz keep quiet n continue wih tiz relationship ?......Dizzy man !!

  Wah lau, last time I also same situation like you. End up, I broke with her. At that moment when I say I wanna break with her, she cried a lot and got Asthma Attack. Till today, I am still very guilty of what I did. I cant face her. For that day onwards, I have been single because I still can forgive myself.
• 101wish

  7 Feb 06, 21:07

  I advise if u dun love her, let her know earlier, not until when she is old n yellow....
• siongs

  7 Feb 06, 23:10

  Originally posted by drx:

  actually you know what you want liao.
  
  let me crack your mind and show it.
  
  1) you do not like the girl at all you just accept her cos she is good and pretty.
  
  2) you are just accepting her for the sake of yourself and hurting her feelings by not letting have a chance to find someone who truely love her.
  
  3) you are worried that when finally the day will come that the girl you love will see you with this girl and reject you cos she does not want to be third party.
  
  4) Come on lar. Worrying whether she got hurt if you break up with her ? "Super Lame excuse" used by guys over and over again. If one day this good and pretty girl will to change to a ugly and mean gal do you seriously think you will not dump her asap?
  
  Let me put it this way. I will not chose the path for you on what you should do but give you advice on what might happen if you go each paths.
  
  path 1
  
  You break up with the girl. She cry and scream.. blar blar. Saying why you dump her... But if you can be man enough to hold on the your faith and correct this mistake and let the girl have a chance to find her true happiness. Then when your true love comes along you will have a chance too as she will be impress by the way you can handle things.
  
  Path 2
  
  You chose to hold on to this girl. At the begining is fun, exciting and happening but as the day goes by without real love there is nothing to hold on to. She maybe pretty but there are always better ones out there. You will ask yourself why must i stick to her only ? Since i do not like her just dump her when the time comes lar. Seems perfect right? haha every guys dream right? But what goes around comes around. When you dump her people remember what you did and when your true loves comes along at see you as a playboy she will not want to have anything to do with you.
  
  In this world everything is choices but are you ready to suffer the result of your choices?

  Hey man.......i m not those kind of ashole ! seriously i rather suffer instead of make her sad......i noe i m an asshole !!.....haiz dunno wat to do nw !! well valentine day is coming soon......i m not goin to hurt her !!
• R3SsH|n

  8 Feb 06, 02:29

  long pain not the same as short pain...
  break it to her slowly...but definately not on valentine day tolong ar...
  maybe u can start be slowly being cold to her...den initiate a breakup...if you really want...intro someone decent to her...
  when she starts to like another person...she will slowly forget you...
  
  and oh yea...i disagree to blur blue and go stead...kids nowadays...only thinking about being hip and cool...never thing about the conseqences...
• FeowFeow

  8 Feb 06, 13:22

  Ok, so you'd rather suffer instead of make her sad?
  
  Then you've answered your own question regarding your decision, right?
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by siongs:

  Hey man.......i m not those kind of ashole ! seriously i rather suffer instead of make her sad......i noe i m an asshole !!.....haiz dunno wat to do nw !! well valentine day is coming soon......i m not goin to hurt her !!

• hyperactivechatterbox

  8 Feb 06, 22:25

  I suggest you break up with her. Chang tong bu ru duan tong. Or is it the other way round?? Sorry sorry, paiseh leh. My chinese very lan.
• klishcia

  9 Feb 06, 22:05

  Well, i guess you're not ready to commit into a relationship but your gf is looking into long-term with you. Is that why you're feeling stressed? If thats how you feel, the two of you should talk over it and decide to break off or carry on. If undecided, take break in the relationship maybe for 2 weeks. Hope it helps..
• nullifi3d

  9 Feb 06, 23:29

  Originally posted by siongs:

  Man~~i m so lost ...i dunno wat i want......well there is 1 gal tat really like me n i dunno i love her or not ! i mean really dunno yea !well we get together alrdy she is really gud n pretty ! n da problem is i dun hav da feel with her ya noe....n i dun wan to hurt her......i accepted her bcoz during tat time i still very confuse tats y i accepted her...i noe i m an asshole but.... i really dunno man !
  wat should i do nw ? if i broke up with her ..tiz will hurt her so much !! man~~~i dun wan any gal sad bcoz of me n i definitely dun wan to hurt her.....tel me wat to do !! or i juz keep quiet n continue wih tiz relationship ?......Dizzy man !!

  consider this - have you even made an effort to try to love her. Love can also be cultivated.
• chanff8

  9 Feb 06, 23:33

  You started this relationship with confusion...
  
  Its gonna end with depression...
  
  Geddit?
• siongs

  9 Feb 06, 23:48

  I have tried to love her ! but da feeling still dun hv......but nw she seems very love me.....i purposely treat her bad bu she always sae she love me lots stuff like tiz.....man....tiz is da 1st time i felt like tiz.......dunno wat to do !!
• nightsky87

  11 Feb 06, 23:34

  tell her the truth
• beavan

  11 Feb 06, 23:59

  i feel that feelings can be slowly developed..
  
  if u know what kind of girl works for u, and that she is that particular kind of a girl, u can grow to like her..
  
  however, if ur personality clashes, then jus initiate the breakup
• Komon

  12 Feb 06, 01:02

  He is so lucky.... got chio bu like him....
• Yunhaier

  12 Feb 06, 11:28

  Originally posted by siongs:

  Man~~i m so lost ...i dunno wat i want......well there is 1 gal tat really like me n i dunno i love her or not ! i mean really dunno yea !well we get together alrdy she is really gud n pretty ! n da problem is i dun hav da feel with her ya noe....n i dun wan to hurt her......i accepted her bcoz during tat time i still very confuse tats y i accepted her...i noe i m an asshole but.... i really dunno man !
  wat should i do nw ? if i broke up with her ..tiz will hurt her so much !! man~~~i dun wan any gal sad bcoz of me n i definitely dun wan to hurt her.....tel me wat to do !! or i juz keep quiet n continue wih tiz relationship ?......Dizzy man !!

  You don't want it, but feel a pity to let it go (Liu zi wu yong, qi shi ke si).
  
  You want the best of both world, you suffer the consequence of leading someone.
  
  You want to make no decision and let it run naturally... you suffer the consequence of leading someone.
  
  You want to remain in a relationship with someone you have no feelings for... you suffer the consequence of leading someone.
  
  Cheers