Need help..
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Im a 21 guy , who has a seriously low self esteem since every1 puts me down and i've been rejected by every girl ive ever liked without a chance since i was 13 and the feeling of loneliness and the feeling like no1 cares abt me is really eating me up im i feel like if i keep on living like this im gonna kill myself soon or sumthing ... what should i do ? cuz i really seriously need help ........
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wat caused u to have low self esteem?
is it bcos of the rejection by that particular girl this 7-8 yrs?
im also one with low self esteem, but it was all bcos of my past r/s that made me doubt my worth.
im trying to have more confidence in myself, tell myself that im unique and cheer up although i have so many problems. A confident and optimistic person will have more frens, that's bcos pple are attracted by his confidence and optimism... the postivie energy that he emits.
I suggest u try to rediscover yourself, find out what are your strengths and look at yourself at a differnt light, so that others will too. I know.. problem with low self esteem is very difficult to tackle.. but u have to try. -
One phrase my friend, "If you don't like yourself, why would anybody else like you?" Quoted from teh anime "Fruit Basket"
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Every1 treats me like trash even my friends abandon or backstab me . I wasnt always like this i used 2 be more self confident but now .. sigh im an emotional wreck n now im jus thinking whats the point of living if ur not gonna enjoy ur life ... so right now im close 2 ending it all.. and btw i have NEVER had a r/s b4 so ... lol its pathetic to be this old and yet never knowing how does it feel 2 b loved ... hahahah .. i really wanna die.....
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Holycow,
Well, i can understand how you feel right now. But it'snt right time to look down on yourself too. You need to regain your strength and prove your worth to the others. Only you can help yourself to your feet.
Focus on your strength and try to improve on weakness. I agree with BaoBao, someone who look positive and confidence of himself will gain friendship easily. Imgaine who want to know someone who always keep complaining?
There are always up and down in life. Maybe right now, you having your downsides, don't give and build up your fighting spirits and you will see a greener end over the rainbow. -
lol thats jus the problem ... i gain friendship too easily .. all i gain r a bunch of losers with knives behind their backs . seriously ive tried time and time again to get back on my feet but right now im like whats the point nothing's gonna change .. every girl that i like jus wants 2 b friends or ignore me completely after rejection . There's really no hope me for me now ...
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maybe towards the girl u like u can take things slowly, build up the friendship first before going steady
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The girl i currently like is sortof like my best friend and she has told me specifically that she jus wants 2 remain as friends ... sigh so ... i jus give up =.= ..
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so are you her best friend?Originally posted by h0lyc0w:The girl i currently like is sortof like my best friend and she has told me specifically that she jus wants 2 remain as friends ... sigh so ... i jus give up =.= .. -
well 2 me she is but i dunno if she thinks the same way .. sigh ....
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actually i dun think there is a cure for ur lost of confidence. but life goes on. the world doesn't wait for you.. don't depend on your friends, or expect anything. its easier dat way.. at least for me.Originally posted by h0lyc0w:well 2 me she is but i dunno if she thinks the same way .. sigh .... -
...let me jus ask ... why should i go on living ?... its pointless ... nothings gonna change . no1 cares abt me . i hate my parents for putting me in this cruel world where everything especially for me is unfair .. no1 needs a spineless loser like me anyways . im pretty much crying every moment of my pathetic life .. even if i try to hide it .. i cant . i really jus wanna end my suffering right now....
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You've pretty much stated the truth and no one should psycho you that you're normal as any other person.Originally posted by h0lyc0w:...let me jus ask ... why should i go on living ?... its pointless ... nothings gonna change . no1 cares abt me . i hate my parents for putting me in this cruel world where everything especially for me is unfair .. no1 needs a spineless loser like me anyways . im pretty much crying every moment of my pathetic life .. even if i try to hide it .. i cant . i really jus wanna end my suffering right now....
BUT.
You haven't tell us, what do you exactly want in life?
Ranting just to get people here to agree with you?
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lemme ask u sumthing else .. Even if i told u . would it even help ? i mean think abt it ... i seriously doubt so.....
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Guess i would have worsen the thread if i continue staying here.Originally posted by h0lyc0w:lemme ask u sumthing else .. Even if i told u . would it even help ? i mean think abt it ... i seriously doubt so.....
I'll leave it to other to advice you.
Now that i know from your first post....you didn't need help. You doubt people too much.
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Nabeh. I top in class also no gf lah.
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How come u so similar to me? Same boat manz...Originally posted by h0lyc0w:Im a 21 guy , who has a seriously low self esteem since every1 puts me down and i've been rejected by every girl ive ever liked without a chance since i was 13 and the feeling of loneliness and the feeling like no1 cares abt me is really eating me up im i feel like if i keep on living like this im gonna kill myself soon or sumthing ... what should i do ? cuz i really seriously need help ........
*Bitter laughter at myself
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den wld u lose anything by telling?Originally posted by h0lyc0w:lemme ask u sumthing else .. Even if i told u . would it even help ? i mean think abt it ... i seriously doubt so..... -
McSquare : Honestly i have no idea what u mean . Or even understand what u r trying to prove , anyways no offense on this statement and thanks for even trying .
Darkness_hacker99: Good 4 u if ur top in class and u feel good about urself , but if u wan 2 compare to me . im not even close to good in my studies , and some people like me often feel lonely this time .. u probably woudnt understand anyways thanks for replying .
Delta5 : I feel sorry for u . sigh life is so unfair for souls like us .. lols.... -
Ito: no but would i gain anything either ?.... =.=
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holycow, i think u shld look at life at a diff angle and view.... there are too many things in this world waiting to us to c and discover....
can u imagine the life of a person who was born without sight or hearing??
they wouldnt even noe wat izzit like to see beautiful things or hear beautiful voices...
think abt ppl who are disabled bt still do their every effort to accomplish things that they wanted to.... giveing up is nv in their dictionary... they have several goals in mind that they want to and are still accomplishing....
if those surrounding u are so bad and hyprocrites, then i suggest u ignore them... find a meaning in life... something u always wanted to accomplished,\.. and work towards it... it will make u gain confidence and u will feel very different...
to end this i gona tell u i also face the same thing in r/s as u and delta 5... bt life still goes on.... the one will eventually come.... a confident guy will emit a charisma that attracts the opposite sex...
think about it....
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Thanks .. that advice really helps.. i appreciate it .
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maybe yes, because others wld be able to know how to specifically answer your questions and see what kind of advices are more suitable for your individual needs, habits and liking.Originally posted by h0lyc0w:Ito: no but would i gain anything either ?.... =.=
otherwise, they are juz either providing textbook answers or using their own experience which may not be relevant at all. -
jux dun look so much on the downside of life.... in life there's also up and downs.... nobody's life is without any bumps on the way....Originally posted by h0lyc0w:Thanks .. that advice really helps.. i appreciate it .
live life to the fullest... we only live once.... -
Hmm...he needs help....seriously.
But he's not open to help.
Cheers~!