Do u guys/gals like to compare??
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I am like feeling depress at the moment!!!
Feeling my ger is not loving me enough...In fact,I felt she loves her ex more than me,although her ex is unfaithful and a terrible guy(Maybe the fact he is her first love).When I heard of all the beautiful/touching things she done for her ex-beau.I felt unjustify and my inner feeling tells me I shall deserve something better.
While I do everything I could and possible to pamper her,giving all the love I could! So far she had done nothing that touches my heart. Shall I told her how I feel? How shall I bring forward the matter/problem to her?
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What really matters to you while you're with her?
Why do you want to be with her..
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my friend...
love is about giving... not how much u will recieve.... as long as she appreciates that u r doin a lot for her she will b moved.... no matter how much she love her ex, she will learn to move on de....
bt if are expecting to get smething in return for wat u did for her then tat's a bit hard loh... -
What did she do? I am curious. On the bright side,she is with you NOW, so all is not in despair.Originally posted by CannyOng:When I heard of all the beautiful/touching things she done for her ex-beau.I felt unjustify and my inner feeling tells me I shall deserve something better. -
Dear Canny,
We usually feel insecure when we're together with somebody we love very much, & we tend to compare abit. However, you hafta remember that ultimately, she's with YOU now, & whilst she may have been "nicer" to her ex, if her heart is with YOU, then there's Nothing for you to worry about.
If she's still talking about her ex all the time, or always contacting her ex, perhaps you may have a valid reason for your insecurity. Otherwise, it's just paranoia which many of us will experience sometime or another.
Have a talk with her if you want, you deserve the reassurance. However, do learn to trust her if she hasn't done anything to betray your trust in any way.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by CannyOng:I am like feeling depress at the moment!!!
Feeling my ger is not loving me enough...In fact,I felt she loves her ex more than me,although her ex is unfaithful and a terrible guy(Maybe the fact he is her first love).When I heard of all the beautiful/touching things she done for her ex-beau.I felt unjustify and my inner feeling tells me I shall deserve something better.
While I do everything I could and possible to pamper her,giving all the love I could! So far she had done nothing that touches my heart. Shall I told her how I feel? How shall I bring forward the matter/problem to her? -
Humans get upset because they have wants.
Alright, seriously, the important thing is that she is with you now. Maybe these things just take time..? -
Thk god..I let it out all and told her everything.Althought we r badly hurt in the process but we make it up and just in time for our valentine's day celebrations...Thks for all yr kind advice!
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When she loves you more, she'll complain that you're not loving her as much. Then it's your turn to reciprocate.
It goes on and on like a vicious cycle, untill it becomes tiring to love someone.
I guess relationships is about give and take. -
Be grateful that you have a girlfriend who love you currently. Take a huge step backwards and compare your past before you have a girlfriend and currently.Originally posted by CannyOng:I am like feeling depress at the moment!!!
Feeling my ger is not loving me enough...In fact,I felt she loves her ex more than me,although her ex is unfaithful and a terrible guy(Maybe the fact he is her first love).When I heard of all the beautiful/touching things she done for her ex-beau.I felt unjustify and my inner feeling tells me I shall deserve something better.
While I do everything I could and possible to pamper her,giving all the love I could! So far she had done nothing that touches my heart. Shall I told her how I feel? How shall I bring forward the matter/problem to her?
Love is never enough and has no limits, so there's no way anyone could compare and measure love.
You are a terrible guy if you are having such thoughts. Love has to be given and received voluntarily. If you're are looking for more love, you could buy them from any of those geylang's love-all-you-can shops.
If you're serious about her, then I would advise you to be patient as love is reciprocal. And NEVER NEVER COMPARE anything when you're in a relationship or friendship. Cos comparison is a lame stunt committed by insecure individuals and people who have no confidence in their own existence that they constantly need to be assured of.
Good luck, I hope you can change your mindset before it develops into a bigger and real problem in your future. -
happy valentine's day
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The real Canny Ong was a rape victim (who later got murdered) a few years ago in Malaysia. Not a funny parody.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear Canny,
We usually feel insecure when we're together with somebody we love very much, & we tend to compare abit. However, you hafta remember that ultimately, she's with YOU now, & whilst she may have been "nicer" to her ex, if her heart is with YOU, then there's Nothing for you to worry about.
If she's still talking about her ex all the time, or always contacting her ex, perhaps you may have a valid reason for your insecurity. Otherwise, it's just paranoia which many of us will experience sometime or another.
Have a talk with her if you want, you deserve the reassurance. However, do learn to trust her if she hasn't done anything to betray your trust in any way.
FeowFeow -
Hey, i thk tis happens to some other couples too, seriously there is no so-called fairness in r/s. Sometimes, u give more or receive more. If u feel tat u can't take it, might as well blow the whole thg off, if not, u wil get upset anytime...do consider abt it, dude !Originally posted by CannyOng:I am like feeling depress at the moment!!!
Feeling my ger is not loving me enough...In fact,I felt she loves her ex more than me,although her ex is unfaithful and a terrible guy(Maybe the fact he is her first love).When I heard of all the beautiful/touching things she done for her ex-beau.I felt unjustify and my inner feeling tells me I shall deserve something better.
While I do everything I could and possible to pamper her,giving all the love I could! So far she had done nothing that touches my heart. Shall I told her how I feel? How shall I bring forward the matter/problem to her?