[b]Meddling with Love – University in Singapore[/b]
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Meddling with Love – University in Singapore
Posters which promote events promising romantic encounters fill the walkways spilling with couples. The school encouraging boys and girls to grab some hand they can hold onto. Even though it can be as little as a year ago when these boys and girls were prohibited from doing so in JCs. Now you see signs everywhere that tells u to get a girl or guy. Overt and subvert social pressures for you to get attached.
The university has got to be the biggest and most intrusive match-making agency in Singapore. It can’t wait for you to fall in love. It has to meddle to make sure you would. It orchestrates moves that cultivate this oppressive couple culture which pushes you to date. Maybe it does so to be in line with govt’s plan that we should all start dating as undergrads so we can get hitched n have babies immediately after we grad. But what horrible implications these stuff bring onto people like me. I was happy to single until I went into university. Once, twice, thrice…perhaps for at least a hundred times I resisted the kind of message that says u should be dating. But as u know even a drip of water can make it thru a stone if it does so persistently over time, after these images and messages were flashed at me for countless times I started to wonder if I needed to be attached in order to be happy in university. From the speed I see my friends settling for mates it seems so. And I feel so much of an outcast that I m single. Like I m somewhat inferior. Like I m not part of their community anymore. Everyone no longer has time for friends as their beau is of supreme importance and takes up most of their time n attention. These things haunt me so much that they make my university life miserable. I yearn for companionship but it needn’t come from a lover. Yet things don’t seem to work that way. Everyone’s top agenda is to look for a date and where’s friend on the list? For some, I doubt it is on the list even. Why must the varsity turn everyone into “desperate housewives”? Why can’t they just let things be? -
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why is this in AA?
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Originally posted by sqully:
i believe in uni alot of singles around too so no need to feel pressured for a lover... ur friends are attached so jz join another group of friends who are single then... be urself...
Meddling with Love – University in Singapore
Posters which promote events promising romantic encounters fill the walkways spilling with couples. The school encouraging boys and girls to grab some hand they can hold onto. Even though it can be as little as a year ago when these boys and girls were prohibited from doing so in JCs. Now you see signs everywhere that tells u to get a girl or guy. Overt and subvert social pressures for you to get attached.
The university has got to be the biggest and most intrusive match-making agency in Singapore. It can’t wait for you to fall in love. It has to meddle to make sure you would. It orchestrates moves that cultivate this oppressive couple culture which pushes you to date. Maybe it does so to be in line with govt’s plan that we should all start dating as undergrads so we can get hitched n have babies immediately after we grad. But what horrible implications these stuff bring onto people like me. I was happy to single until I went into university. Once, twice, thrice…perhaps for at least a hundred times I resisted the kind of message that says u should be dating. But as u know even a drip of water can make it thru a stone if it does so persistently over time, after these images and messages were flashed at me for countless times I started to wonder if I needed to be attached in order to be happy in university. From the speed I see my friends settling for mates it seems so. And I feel so much of an outcast that I m single. Like I m somewhat inferior. Like I m not part of their community anymore. Everyone no longer has time for friends as their beau is of supreme importance and takes up most of their time n attention. These things haunt me so much that they make my university life miserable. I yearn for companionship but it needn’t come from a lover. Yet things don’t seem to work that way. Everyone’s top agenda is to look for a date and where’s friend on the list? For some, I doubt it is on the list even. Why must the varsity turn everyone into “desperate housewives”? Why can’t they just let things be?
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Hmm..cant really find a very appropriate place to put it.where shd it be?in chit chat?i sounded a bit too disgruntled for that rite?Originally posted by stellazio:why is this in AA? -
There are disgruntled people in Chit Chat complaining over the just-announced hike in NUS tuition fees.Originally posted by sqully:Hmm..cant really find a very appropriate place to put it.where shd it be?in chit chat?i sounded a bit too disgruntled for that rite?
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is this for real?
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Thanks.but it's kinda hard cos our classes change all the time,most of my tutorial mates end up as "hi-bye" frds so u seem to know everybody but then u dun really know anybody.which is kind of weird.n everybody seems to hang out in their own circles so ya..pretty much stuck in mine too.tried several attempts to extend contact with those i met in tutorials hadnt been successful.dun wanna attend those "meet new frds" events that are more than suggestive that u would meet new dates there.haha.so i guess i shd start with getting myself into some sort of cca soon..was previously too lazy n hesitant to do so cos i missed out all the orientation n recruitment stuff alr n worried i cant catch up with my assignments..but wat the heck now,i shd just hop into somewhere fun.mayb i'd meet some different ppl there.well,at least i'd get some interesting things to do and stop moaning.Originally posted by BrUtUs:i believe in uni alot of singles around too so no need to feel pressured for a lover... ur friends are attached so jz join another group of friends who are single then... be urself... 
Cheers to u,bravo!!
I m just curious though,if many suffer the same plight as me.so just post a quick note if u hav any comments on my original post.i'd really like to find out what ppl think abt it.Thanks fellows! -
why make life so complicated???
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U are in NUS, I presume? Well, anyway, if u think this to be a big deal, wait until u are about to graduate. I believe u will receive a letter from SDU, asking u to join their services or something like that. I guess it applies to NTU too. The reason for all these posters and SDU thingy is because the government have always encouraged graduates to marry and get hitched together. They don't want u to marry down, because they want ur child to be as smart as u and ur spouse(preferably an graduate)Originally posted by sqully:Thanks.but it's kinda hard cos our classes change all the time,most of my tutorial mates end up as "hi-bye" frds so u seem to know everybody but then u dun really know anybody.which is kind of weird.n everybody seems to hang out in their own circles so ya..pretty much stuck in mine too.tried several attempts to extend contact with those i met in tutorials hadnt been successful.dun wanna attend those "meet new frds" events that are more than suggestive that u would meet new dates there.haha.so i guess i shd start with getting myself into some sort of cca soon..was previously too lazy n hesitant to do so cos i missed out all the orientation n recruitment stuff alr n worried i cant catch up with my assignments..but wat the heck now,i shd just hop into somewhere fun.mayb i'd meet some different ppl there.well,at least i'd get some interesting things to do and stop moaning.
Cheers to u,bravo!!
I m just curious though,if many suffer the same plight as me.so just post a quick note if u hav any comments on my original post.i'd really like to find out what ppl think abt it.Thanks fellows! -
Originally posted by nanren4ever:U are in NUS, I presume? Well, anyway, if u think this to be a big deal, wait until u are about to graduate. I believe u will receive a letter from SDU, asking u to join their services or something like that. I guess it applies to NTU too. The reason for all these posters and SDU thingy is because the government have always encouraged graduates to marry and get hitched together. They don't want u to marry down, because they want ur child to be as smart as u and ur spouse(preferably an graduate)
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Yes.In my perspective.haha.I can't claim it's 100% true objectively cos who can be objective when emotions are involved?someone who is perhaps more "neutral" might paint a slightly different story but who's really "neutral" in this world?nvm that,the fact that the whole environment can give me the kind of perception i hav says smt abt it ya?I can't be making the whole thing up.Originally posted by Ecxentrique:is this for real? -
similar to you
except im in yr3 now
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haha...Originally posted by nanren4ever:They don't want u to marry down, because they want ur child to be as smart as u and ur spouse(preferably an graduate)
some of the ppl i meet in uni are not very smart lor...
in fact... i wonder how they make it so far also...
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Originally posted by hyuuga neji:haha...
some of the ppl i meet in uni are not very smart lor...
in fact... i wonder how they make it so far also... i share the same sentiments.
btw,shd read my new thread "3 types of guys from hell?" if u've got time.most guys i meet in uni belong to the "type 2"
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Sometimes, Marrying down is better, many reasons behind it.Originally posted by hyuuga neji:haha...
some of the ppl i meet in uni are not very smart lor...
in fact... i wonder how they make it so far also...
Some people in Uni are just losers themselves too...