Just like in the movies. I like my mate.
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I was reading through several similar topics in this forum. That was in the past..when I had nothing much to do.
It goes like this...
I had 2 great friends. My best mates I would say. X was a boy, and Y was a girl. X and I didn't really know Y at first, even though we sort of known Y 6 months ago.
Then suddenly since last year November, the three of us became good friends. We often went out together for movies and etc. We even walked each other home since we lived close to one another. Anyway..this went on until January, when I felt that my feelings for Y had slowly crossed the boundaries of a close friend.
Anyways..I brushed it off as myself thinking too much la. Didn't dare to try anything funny too, cause I had a previous experience of BGR which ended pretty badly. So I didn't ask for much, just hoped that things will stay this way. But after some time when the feeling didn't subside, I thought "Yea...maybe I've really fallen for her".
I mean it's like....she was the only one that was able to motivate me to study the subjects I usually hated. She's also the one that made me feel good about myself.
I thought of maybe confessing to her sometime after Valentines. Sometime when I would walk her home at night. But somehow...there was also slight rumours that my friend X liked Y. Then last week, on the night I decided to tell her about how I feel. My best friend came up to me and told me he confessed to Y the night before yesterday and said Y agreed to be his girlfriend.
My mind just went into a blank la. It was so sudden. I was like..just suddenly lost in nowhere. I still had to force a smile on. And to take photos of both of them together, looking so sweet together.
They also said that they regarded me as their best friend, and I was the only one they intended to tell so far. All the more I felt guilty la.
It's just so painful to see them together now...(all the more because they insist I tag along with them). I can only force a curl on my lips when I've with them.
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Ouch...If you're their true friend then wish them well. Don't miss the forest for a tree. There're other girls out there.
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yes, just an infatuation on ur part. Besides she's not the only gal on ur part. Of course u will say "you don't know how I feel". Oh you are wrong. Just be graceful and be a gentleman. U can't force the gal to love u, can u? Take it gracefully. Withdraw from their presence and start dating other gals dude. One day, show up with ur gf with this couple and have double dates.
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pple always use this phrase to console others. however, if the situation really happens to you, you'll think that SHE is forever your number one.Originally posted by dakkon_blackblade:Ouch...If you're their true friend then wish them well. Don't miss the forest for a tree. There're other girls out there. -
Jacky Cheung-Xin ru dao ge.
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Originally posted by dokono:
As a matter of fact, I think you won't.
yes, just an infatuation on ur part. Besides she's not the only gal on ur part. Of course u will say "you don't know how I feel". Oh you are wrong. Just be graceful and be a gentleman. U can't force the gal to love u, can u? Take it gracefully. Withdraw from their presence and start dating other gals dude. One day, show up with ur gf with this couple and have double dates.
I am being graceful. It's not like I'm not letting them be together right?Ouch...If you're their true friend then wish them well. Don't miss the forest for a tree. There're other girls out there.
Your advice is driven into my head nonetheless. Thanks.... -
It's not as if u can control them not to be together dude. Face reality and dun fight against it because it will always win and u will always be hurt. Ur thread title alone tells me u are still living ur fantasy dude. We are in the real world.Originally posted by Black_Pen:As a matter of fact, I think you won't.
I am being graceful. It's not like I'm not letting them be together right? -
ouch. painful.
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Compete....xiong di and nu ren...choose one.
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ow...
that was a real kick in the balls. -
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Hmm..
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a group of two guys and a girl will very likely move from close friends to such a situation.
one guy will have to take the bus home..by himself. -
Watch Jay Chou's MTV - Feng?
Bless and Support both of them.
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ouch. this is more painful than being rejected.
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u really suay... but tat is not the impt thing.... now, if u cant stand it, leave it... since such a pain, better jz let go of this friendship... and most likely u'll see little of them due to their dating... so go solo for now till u see new friends and but definitely not totally cut ties with ur current friends so jz keep some contact but leave slowly...Originally posted by Black_Pen:I was reading through several similar topics in this forum. That was in the past..when I had nothing much to do.
It goes like this...
I had 2 great friends. My best mates I would say. X was a boy, and Y was a girl. X and I didn't really know Y at first, even though we sort of known Y 6 months ago.
Then suddenly since last year November, the three of us became good friends. We often went out together for movies and etc. We even walked each other home since we lived close to one another. Anyway..this went on until January, when I felt that my feelings for Y had slowly crossed the boundaries of a close friend.
Anyways..I brushed it off as myself thinking too much la. Didn't dare to try anything funny too, cause I had a previous experience of BGR which ended pretty badly. So I didn't ask for much, just hoped that things will stay this way. But after some time when the feeling didn't subside, I thought "Yea...maybe I've really fallen for her".
I mean it's like....she was the only one that was able to motivate me to study the subjects I usually hated. She's also the one that made me feel good about myself.
I thought of maybe confessing to her sometime after Valentines. Sometime when I would walk her home at night. But somehow...there was also slight rumours that my friend X liked Y. Then last week, on the night I decided to tell her about how I feel. My best friend came up to me and told me he confessed to Y the night before yesterday and said Y agreed to be his girlfriend.
My mind just went into a blank la. It was so sudden. I was like..just suddenly lost in nowhere. I still had to force a smile on. And to take photos of both of them together, looking so sweet together.
They also said that they regarded me as their best friend, and I was the only one they intended to tell so far. All the more I felt guilty la.
It's just so painful to see them together now...(all the more because they insist I tag along with them). I can only force a curl on my lips when I've with them.
Tell me what to do? -
oh my...it must have hurt alot...
Since they both are an item now, the best thing u can do is to give htem ur blessings.
I believe things developed over time for them to be together. Perhaps some things u failed to observed...
I know its beri difficult to face them again..
but if u treasure both of them as ur frens, accept fact and move on with ur life.
In this case, its the girl who decides who to be with. If u truly love her, let her choose. Well.....even if u really confess that night and he didnt, she might not even choose you...as her feelings might already developed for him.... -
I can understand what you are going thru, cos I have been thru it before. To see the person you love being together with another person, especially one who is also close to you, the feeling heart-wrenching.
Why don't distance yourself from them for a little while now? Give yourself some time away from them so that you can heal... -
9 years ago, something similar happened to me and my 2 gd friends. X, Y and me were in the same class during sec 1 & 2. I like X, am good pals with Y, but X and Y confessed to each other on New Year's Eve 1999 that they like each other. I was pissed off that time because I had asked Y many times before if he liked X, but he always say NO, and that was before I confess to him I liked X.
In the end, I realise that nothing is going to change the fact that they like each other, and so carried on being good friends with both of them, even though in the end they didn't get together. There's nothing u can do if the gal treats u only as a gd friend, u just got to accept it, and wish the both of them well. And up to this day, I still carry a torch for that gal, even though i know its impossible between us, and despite having gone through several other relationships. Now, i only want her to be happy. Doesn't matter if it is with me, or someone else. -
So if a gal tells you that you are her best friend.. does it mean theres no more chance at all?
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well, give them ur blessings!
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Ya...haha..I can see that now. Walk home alone.Originally posted by LazerLordz:a group of two guys and a girl will very likely move from close friends to such a situation.
one guy will have to take the bus home..by himself.u really suay... but tat is not the impt thing.... now, if u cant stand it, leave it... since such a pain, better jz let go of this friendship... and most likely u'll see little of them due to their dating... so go solo for now till u see new friends and but definitely not totally cut ties with ur current friends so jz keep some contact but leave slowly...
I can't severe ties with them. They are my two closest friends. It's like...they even ask me to go out to the movies with them. The girl said she would feel bad if pangseh me like that.
Ya..I give them my blessings....just that it's so hard for me initially. Guess time will heal... -
it's like that la.. my friends want jio the gal and i abit interst also but i let them go for it
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Originally posted by nanren4ever:9 years ago, something similar happened to me and my 2 gd friends. X, Y and me were in the same class during sec 1 & 2. I like X, am good pals with Y, but X and Y confessed to each other on New Year's Eve 1999 that they like each other. I was pissed off that time because I had asked Y many times before if he liked X, but he always say NO, and that was before I confess to him I liked X.
In the end, I realise that nothing is going to change the fact that they like each other, and so carried on being good friends with both of them, even though in the end they didn't get together. There's nothing u can do if the gal treats u only as a gd friend, u just got to accept it, and wish the both of them well. And up to this day, I still carry a torch for that gal, even though i know its impossible between us, and despite having gone through several other relationships. Now, i only want her to be happy. Doesn't matter if it is with me, or someone else.
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