People making fun of me.......
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Hi,
I am a NSF who will be ORDing in 5+ months time. Although I can consider an 'old bird' in my unit since I was posted to this particular unit 1 year ago, I can't get along well with most of the people in my unit as I just can't mingle well with him. Some of you might think that I am not the type who likes to mingle around and yes I have this problem when I just started my BMT and my technican course in OETI but slowly I get along well with my platoon mates and course mate. However when I come to this unit maybe due to differences in character I just can't get along well with many of them.
I think that I am a very timid person as I gets very nervous when somethings get wrong and some of my fellow NSFs and my regular superior would take the advantage of this and make fun of me, teasing me as they likes to see the way I was being nervous.
I do admit that I am a little bit slow in learning new things but my fellow NSFs thinks that I have attitude problems and don't want to do things. This results me being aimed everytime to do saigang and fatigue work even though I didn't offends any of the fellow NSFs (in fact they came and take advantage of me)
Also I did receive unfair treatments in my unit, like other people in my branch slept in their bunk during office hour my superiors closed one eye while when I did that they gave me extras duties. Yes I am in the wrong of sleeping in bunk during office hours but why other people aren't punished when they did the same thing?
I am not that kind of person who want to holds somebody balls in order to climb higher and I just want to ORD peacefully. -
the NS have alot of conspiriacies so jus don give a damn to them and ORD peacefully..Originally posted by isolation:Hi,
I am a NSF who will be ORDing in 5+ months time. Although I can consider an 'old bird' in my unit since I was posted to this particular unit 1 year ago, I can't get along well with most of the people in my unit as I just can't mingle well with him. Some of you might think that I am not the type who likes to mingle around and yes I have this problem when I just started my BMT and my technican course in OETI but slowly I get along well with my platoon mates and course mate. However when I come to this unit maybe due to differences in character I just can't get along well with many of them.
I think that I am a very timid person as I gets very nervous when somethings get wrong and some of my fellow NSFs and my regular superior would take the advantage of this and make fun of me, teasing me as they likes to see the way I was being nervous.
I do admit that I am a little bit slow in learning new things but my fellow NSFs thinks that I have attitude problems and don't want to do things. This results me being aimed everytime to do saigang and fatigue work even though I didn't offends any of the fellow NSFs (in fact they came and take advantage of me)
Also I did receive unfair treatments in my unit, like other people in my branch slept in their bunk during office hour my superiors closed one eye while when I did that they gave me extras duties. Yes I am in the wrong of sleeping in bunk during office hours but why other people aren't punished when they did the same thing?
I am not that kind of person who want to holds somebody balls in order to climb higher and I just want to ORD peacefully. -
Seriously, you remind me of myself.
All I have to say is, everywhere you go there's bound to be politics. Don't give a damn about those dumb idiots. In the end, there's a lot of virtue in being a decent and honest person when everyone else isn't.
People like them will receive their comeuppance one day. Trust me on this.
I know it doesn't sound easy, but the best thing for you right now is to just hang on in there. No matter what, you'll get your pink IC five months from now. And those idiots who think with their balls instead of their heads will find a way to make themselves miserable. -
Hi, your senario is so familiar from my bf. Very poor thing not easy to tahan through in the army. but since u only have 5 months left. hold it there and finish your ns peacefully. I'm sure after you ord things will turn out fine and not as bad as you think
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Thank you for everyone's encouragement.
When I was still a newbie in my unit, those people always makes fun of me and I still can't change my habit in nervous and they feels that I am that kind of person good to bully and they makes fun of me.
I have my self-pride and I always feel very bad when those people makes fun of me. Furthermore it is not me who provokes them first. In case I didn't provoke them and they just want to find fault with me. -
Keep your chin up and bear with the crap.
It'll be over soon. ORDin in 5 months is a very short time.
What sort of a technician are you? -
Electronic Technican (Comms)Originally posted by LazerLordz:Keep your chin up and bear with the crap.
It'll be over soon. ORDin in 5 months is a very short time.
What sort of a technician are you? -
Originally posted by isolation:Hi,
I am a NSF who will be ORDing in 5+ months time. Although I can consider an 'old bird' in my unit since I was posted to this particular unit 1 year ago, I can't get along well with most of the people in my unit as I just can't mingle well with him. Some of you might think that I am not the type who likes to mingle around and yes I have this problem when I just started my BMT and my technican course in OETI but slowly I get along well with my platoon mates and course mate. However when I come to this unit maybe due to differences in character I just can't get along well with many of them.
I think that I am a very timid person as I gets very nervous when somethings get wrong and some of my fellow NSFs and my regular superior would take the advantage of this and make fun of me, teasing me as they likes to see the way I was being nervous.
I do admit that I am a little bit slow in learning new things but my fellow NSFs thinks that I have attitude problems and don't want to do things. This results me being aimed everytime to do saigang and fatigue work even though I didn't offends any of the fellow NSFs (in fact they came and take advantage of me)
Also I did receive unfair treatments in my unit, like other people in my branch slept in their bunk during office hour my superiors closed one eye while when I did that they gave me extras duties. Yes I am in the wrong of sleeping in bunk during office hours but why other people aren't punished when they did the same thing?
I am not that kind of person who want to holds somebody balls in order to climb higher and I just want to ORD peacefully.
If u think army is bad, wait til u ORD and start working, its even more unfair out there. Anyway, since when is life fair, u just have to live it to the fullest and without regrets. -
no offence but i think tt sometimes ple just like to pick on others who are different from them have u tried lying low and keeping yr opinions to yrself? most of the time it is those pple who are "outside standing" who tend to kenna negative attention
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I have been keeping a very low profile since the first day of army but maybe because of my characterstics some people do like to pick on me.Originally posted by korusu:no offence but i think tt sometimes ple just like to pick on others who are different from them have u tried lying low and keeping yr opinions to yrself? most of the time it is those pple who are "outside standing" who tend to kenna negative attention -
good luck
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life is never fair brother ~~~
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Wanna ORD liao, don't think too much over it lah..Originally posted by isolation:Thank you for everyone's encouragement.
When I was still a newbie in my unit, those people always makes fun of me and I still can't change my habit in nervous and they feels that I am that kind of person good to bully and they makes fun of me.
I have my self-pride and I always feel very bad when those people makes fun of me. Furthermore it is not me who provokes them first. In case I didn't provoke them and they just want to find fault with me.
Next time in working life also like that one... Why people have, I don't have...??
Life's not straight line one okay...? -
i feel sorry for u man.
i think u are the quiet type who mix well only with ppl of same character.
there are always ppl who talk big and like to dominate others who are younger or quieter
my advice to you is that try to develop good relations with everybody. but those whom u cant get along with. stay professional and cool. but if they step on u. voice ur displeasure or give them back the same treatment. dun be afraid to stand up for ur rights. shout at them if necessary. they might get a shock if they are used to u being timid.
if u keep it all inside u will only feel worse and does resolve anything -
Hi,
I'm new but let me drop in my 2 cents.
Nothing is fair in life. As long as humans can make decisions, it will never be fair. Being too nice doesnt always pay. Not asking you to be bad but be firm. Whats there to be nervous? just think, mistakes r common, learn from mistakes or at least take 3 deep breaths before doing anything important.
Learn to differentiate between wats important and wats urgent. Wats important is not necessary urgent but wat is urgent is usually important.
Trust me, u owe nothing to nobody and they too dun owe u. We just owe our parents and the people who loved and care for us.
So take care of your self well and whatever u do answer to yourself!
Be brave be strong be compassionate be happy!
Cheers!! -
But at least you know whats your own problem which is good..
Since you going to ORD, we shld be telling you, you will be going into the society soon( if u r working) or goin back to school again..
whichever route it is, your current attitude will be to your disadvantage.
Read some self-help book to change your way of life. Be more open minded, and pay attention to what others said, so you can offer your point of view..in this way, you can blend into the clique.
Loneliness is the worse thing that can happen to one. Whatever you do, wherever you are, you need company, friends, your gf, your family..
dun be left out by others! Start making more friends who share similar stuffs with you!!
good luck -
i think you should think of this differently. rather then thinking tat they r trying to take advantage of you, think of it that they actually like you and the joke although being on you is bcos you r fun in their eyes. if they really tekan you, i expect you to b punished into oblivion, made to stay in camp, or being pulled by the collar at every fault. this is not the case. i think if you can test this by playing a joke on another person and see their reaction. if they get offended, then ask him not to play joke on you if they cannot take it.Originally posted by isolation:Thank you for everyone's encouragement.
When I was still a newbie in my unit, those people always makes fun of me and I still can't change my habit in nervous and they feels that I am that kind of person good to bully and they makes fun of me.
I have my self-pride and I always feel very bad when those people makes fun of me. Furthermore it is not me who provokes them first. In case I didn't provoke them and they just want to find fault with me. -
I think there bound to be people in the same situation as u n please do not be sad cause u the kind of person maybe people jealous of u, they pick on u.Originally posted by isolation:Electronic Technican (Comms)
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A 3SG but it is nothing in my unit somemore I am not a combatant.Originally posted by will4:I think there bound to be people in the same situation as u n please do not be sad cause u the kind of person maybe people jealous of u, they pick on u.
What is ur rank?
Anyway for me, I have nothing to jealous of as I am just a normal person living in HDB flats.
Instead much of those people who trys to find troubles with me is those JC graduates waiting to go uni after Ns who lives in private properties. -
I think u have a good quality in whcih they jealous. No need to worry as there is a saying to say what come around go around.Originally posted by isolation:A 3SG but it is nothing in my unit somemore I am not a combatant.
Anyway for me, I have nothing to jealous of as I am just a normal person living in HDB flats.
Instead much of those people who trys to find troubles with me is those JC graduates waiting to go uni after Ns who lives in private properties. -
Haha i was from OETI also leh,i think your unit i aga aga know where liao lahOriginally posted by isolation:Hi,
I am a NSF who will be ORDing in 5+ months time. Although I can consider an 'old bird' in my unit since I was posted to this particular unit 1 year ago, I can't get along well with most of the people in my unit as I just can't mingle well with him. Some of you might think that I am not the type who likes to mingle around and yes I have this problem when I just started my BMT and my technican course in OETI but slowly I get along well with my platoon mates and course mate. However when I come to this unit maybe due to differences in character I just can't get along well with many of them.
I think that I am a very timid person as I gets very nervous when somethings get wrong and some of my fellow NSFs and my regular superior would take the advantage of this and make fun of me, teasing me as they likes to see the way I was being nervous.
I do admit that I am a little bit slow in learning new things but my fellow NSFs thinks that I have attitude problems and don't want to do things. This results me being aimed everytime to do saigang and fatigue work even though I didn't offends any of the fellow NSFs (in fact they came and take advantage of me)
Also I did receive unfair treatments in my unit, like other people in my branch slept in their bunk during office hour my superiors closed one eye while when I did that they gave me extras duties. Yes I am in the wrong of sleeping in bunk during office hours but why other people aren't punished when they did the same thing?
I am not that kind of person who want to holds somebody balls in order to climb higher and I just want to ORD peacefully.
There should be quite politics leh if what i guess is correct lah.
Aiya in the army sure got kena aim.You think your superior treat u unfair,then unfair loh,the world is unfair regardless whether army or outside,just do whatever u are being told to do loh.Since u are going to ord ,i will advice u just maintain a low profile.
Usually BMT friends is more close than units one lah,just bear with it. -
So u'll be ORDing in 5 months time. Minus the Off-In-Lieu/Annual Leave/Sick Leave, u'll be clearing all this leave soon. That means, u still need to endure 3.5-4mths more. Don't think so much, look forward to the wonderful civilian lives.
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"wonderful" civilian life....shucksOriginally posted by Manager433:So u'll be ORDing in 5 months time. Minus the Off-In-Lieu/Annual Leave/Sick Leave, u'll be clearing all this leave soon. That means, u still need to endure 3.5-4mths more. Don't think so much, look forward to the wonderful civilian lives.
i disrupted for studies abt 6 months liao...going back to finish my nsf in may..kinda looking forward to a change of lifestyle...
much needed break from this "wonderful" cv life...haha