needed help~ i'm totally depressed~
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hey guys. who can tolerate your gf cheating and lying to u?? i doubt anyone can tolerate it... my gf is always lying to me. i don't know for what reason. she has been lying to me since we were together. i really cannot take it soon. the word "BREAK" is always flashing on my mind. should i give up on this relationship? or there's something which i can do to help her change her attitude? but i really really love her a lot. i can't bear to give up on her. i really can't. my love for her is really very deep. but the things she did to me really hurts me a lot. it hurts~
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She cheat on u on what? Let u wear the greenhat? If that is the case,tell her sayonara!! u will find someone better,trust me!
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get her out of your life.
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dump her like a rubbish in a thrashbinOriginally posted by sadboyboy:hey guys. who can tolerate your gf cheating and lying to u?? i doubt anyone can tolerate it... my gf is always lying to me. i don't know for what reason. she has been lying to me since we were together. i really cannot take it soon. the word "BREAK" is always flashing on my mind. should i give up on this relationship? or there's something which i can do to help her change her attitude? but i really really love her a lot. i can't bear to give up on her. i really can't. my love for her is really very deep. but the things she did to me really hurts me a lot. it hurts~ -
A girl who treasures you will not do that to you, a girl who doesnt.....is not worth the pain.
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den they wil gif craps abt 'white lies'.. i got kanna be4 'black lies' lor.. tmd.. lucky no greenhat...
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break
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how long have tis been going on?
(if things doesnt change, how long more can u tolerate?)
y not have a heart to heart talk and ask y is she doing tis to u? -
1st...what's in her that you love her so much?Originally posted by sadboyboy:hey guys. who can tolerate your gf cheating and lying to u?? i doubt anyone can tolerate it... my gf is always lying to me. i don't know for what reason. she has been lying to me since we were together. i really cannot take it soon. the word "BREAK" is always flashing on my mind. should i give up on this relationship? or there's something which i can do to help her change her attitude? but i really really love her a lot. i can't bear to give up on her. i really can't. my love for her is really very deep. but the things she did to me really hurts me a lot. it hurts~
This's something which you should ask yourself 1st....
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I suggest that your post could be clearer, more informative.Originally posted by sadboyboy:hey guys. who can tolerate your gf cheating and lying to u?? i doubt anyone can tolerate it... my gf is always lying to me. i don't know for what reason. she has been lying to me since we were together. i really cannot take it soon.
1>>> the word "BREAK" is always flashing on my mind.
1>>> should i give up on this relationship?
2>>> or there's something which i can do to help her change her attitude?
2>>> but i really really love her a lot. i can't bear to give up on her. i really can't. my love for her is really very deep.
1>>> but the things she did to me really hurts me a lot. it hurts~
What did she lie to you about?
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Breakdown your second half of text. (As of above)
1 and 2 are contridictions.
1>>> refers to your struggles and your tireness, you want a break. You're afraid of letting her cut you further. You want to take control.
2>>> Because of LOVE....of deep Love, you don't want to lose her.
You want easy, fast, instant solutions. Yet you're hopeless because she seemed to be in control.
(This will go 1,2,1,1,2,2,1,2,2,2,1,1,2 to oo [infinity] mentally)
This thread throughout and ding dong upon 1 and 2 yet you still cannot find any answer you want. This can be very tiring to you and to those who will reply to your problem.
I suggest that you take this matter and go right into it. Settle it.
But i am interested. Why did she want to lie to you? What was the reason? Anything caused by any incidents between both of you?
Her actions might likely be reactive to your personality or certain experience.
Hope to hear from you. Meanwhile, take care.
Cheers -
Whilst we may condemn the girl for doing something really wrong, especially cheating, we must Not forget that this is 1 side of the story. There may be things that have transpired that caused her to cheat. We have Not considered all sides of the story, & all factors affecting their relationship.
It's up to the poster to decide whether he has contributed to the girl's cheating or Not (Notwithstanding that the cheating is WRONG), & whether the relationship is worth saving. He has to think about whether he can trust her again, & how confident he is that she won't do it again.
Lastly, he has to consider whether he loves her enough to give her that 1 more chance.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by milktea:A girl who treasures you will not do that to you, a girl who doesnt.....is not worth the pain. -
x 2Originally posted by FeowFeow:Whilst we may condemn the girl for doing something really wrong, especially cheating, we must Not forget that this is 1 side of the story. There may be things that have transpired that caused her to cheat. We have Not considered all sides of the story, & all factors affecting their relationship.
It's up to the poster to decide whether he has contributed to the girl's cheating or Not (Notwithstanding that the cheating is WRONG), & whether the relationship is worth saving. He has to think about whether he can trust her again, & how confident he is that she won't do it again.
Lastly, he has to consider whether he loves her enough to give her that 1 more chance.
FeowFeow
He needs to be honest if he's the cause for his gf's actions.
Cheers -
Hmm.
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To guys: 1.pls analsye the reason for loving a gal is it out of lonely, being u r used to her being ard or whether.. u have the heart big enuff to tolerate what she is doing.. if nt buzz off.
2. If you are possessive abt her, you cant hlp if she dont want to tell you the truth, imagine fighting with you day in and out becos she tell u sth you don lk her to do and you can't compremise abt it.
3.Before you question how much a gal loves u, question urself how much u love her. the fact is most guys by nature do not understand the COMMIMENT term and when the gal strays, it becomes the gal's fault.
4.if ur friends and games etc have become your priority in life instead of her, don blame her for straying, otherwise find a wild gal who do not needs ur attention. All gals wld wan their guys to make them the priority.
To gals:1. be clear of what you want, do not attempt to treat a guy like a toy or an atm. if you don lk him for wat he is, buzz off.
2. The ultimate break to all r/s -- lies. do not lie if u lk a guy. thr is always tis tink call "tok tinks out and compremise" And dont do tinks u aint suppose to do morally so u don hv to lie. dare do dare admit.
3. If thr is nd to lie abt everytink. don hurt the guy just pack ur bag and dismiss urself.
The world is full of crap. Before you start pointing your finger at someone else, look at urself in the mirror. -
dun worry if she got affair outside drug her den invite one bunch of banglas to rape her den pour acid on her face loh
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Originally posted by sadboyboy:hey guys. who can tolerate your gf cheating and lying to u?? i doubt anyone can tolerate it... my gf is always lying to me. i don't know for what reason. she has been lying to me since we were together. i really cannot take it soon. the word "BREAK" is always flashing on my mind. should i give up on this relationship? or there's something which i can do to help her change her attitude? but i really really love her a lot. i can't bear to give up on her. i really can't. my love for her is really very deep. but the things she did to me really hurts me a lot. it hurts~ When one become constantly untruthful, it creates barrier between the couple.
If Love means having to remain emotionally intimate, lying deny that experience.
If she has to lie about things, it post a huge question on the integrity of her personality or possible 'double life'.
Cheer