Always alone, isolated, no interaction and no relations.....
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tt's good!! hmm.. when having conversation with boys, i think there's almost no restriction one la. talk about anything. A "never-ending-topic" will be something funny, dirty or horny. after knowing some friends for 5 to 6 years, our conversation topic is always still related to *** and girls one, just like 5yrs back
but for me, im too used to this kinda topics. so when it comes to having conversations with girls, i dunno what to talk about. perhaps because there's too much restrictions
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talk to girl about sex la...Originally posted by Itachi:tt's good!! hmm.. when having conversation with boys, i think there's almost no restriction one la. talk about anything. A "never-ending-topic" will be something funny, dirty or horny. after knowing some friends for 5 to 6 years, our conversation topic is always still related to *** and girls one, just like 5yrs back
but for me, im too used to this kinda topics. so when it comes to having conversations with girls, i dunno what to talk about. perhaps because there's too much restrictions 
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There's always a START to THINGS... Don't let it stop there.. And there're always UPs and DOWNs in life... Don't let the DOWNs drown you too...?Originally posted by SGEMP:At here, I would like to acknowledge everyone for their kind advises on improving my interaction and relations with others.
Yes, I have managed to solve the problem of "always alone, isolated, no interaction and no relations problems" for the time being.
Because today morning managed to get some chit-chat with my schoolmates.
And then in PE managed to get into basketball game they were playing....and right until the whole PE session is nearly over when the sun is shining brightly on my future....................
So, I would like to give a big thank you to everyone here! 
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perhaps you should not have give up.take some time once a day to at least greet ur frenz,let them know bout ur presence.then slowly take up a conversation wif them,dun be shy or afraid.i am sure after that things will have a better turn.
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I think now abit too late le la (no offence) and so what if u manage to get a few frds, communications r gonna get weaker as u guys will not end up studying in the same poly n jc nxt time.
i know it will be hard but ure takin o lvl this yr, so focus on ur studies first.
BUT when u got into jc or poly, try to be more open
cause it will be a brand new life and u will 1 plp to have a good impression
of you.
BY jokin ard or talking abt girls (thats the easiers way to make frd) weird?
But is worth to try
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tok to a pastor?Originally posted by SGEMP:This is all about one of my rather serious current problems which I am facing now, and is related to my school life...............
By now, I am a sec 4 express student abt to take O' levels in a few months time and graduate from secondary school education (advancing to the tertiary education), but........................this is a problem yet to be resolved...................which................................
.....................In the past, to protect myself from some troublemakers, whenever I have recess or lunch in school, I always choose a place that is near to where the teachers are.
In class, sometimes I am very busy to that I have no chance to interact with my classmates. Also, I am always sitting alone in very front part of my class, while all others had some (about 2) partners beside them...........(my class the cls size is odd-numbered one)
And so, over the years, while any troubles which I had anticipated for did not occur, my relations with some of my schoolmates were weakened, or even worse, have no relations and interactions at all. Also I always have no one willing to go with me during school work/groupworks, not even being a member in any study groups..................
This had caused my communication skills getting poorer, my mind being empty, my life being overly stressed and too boring, myself being "isolated"/"cut-off" from the outside world, thus having no knowledge of how others are doing, always alone, everywhere, and did not see any significant improvement in my life and my academic results (sometimes even worse than before, despite hard work and frequent consulatations with my teachers......)
So what can I do about it? (Frankly speaking I feel that by now it is too late for me to build up relations with my schoolmates.......?)
Also whenever I wanted to get new friends, I have noticed that those studying in better classes weren't the ones who would look for me instantly and automatically for friendship. Instead, those studying in tail-end classes and normal A/T streams were the ones who ALWAYS look for me instantly and automatically for friendship, and were the ones who always claiming me as "their best friend" In contrast, others have more better quality best friends(who would look for them instantly and automatically) and better interaction, while any schoolmate-friends I face up till now were all but the low-quality, "troublemaking" ones...and I did not have much interaction.......(excluding the forumnites)
So what did I do wrong in the first place that causes the abovementioned phenomenon? Bad luck? Wrong name? HongKonger? And what I can do about this to solve the phenomenon?
Please, I need your help, advice and guidance in order for me to break my isolation, get more interaction with my schoolmates, and get more better-quality friends in school........
(And so I would like to acknowledge for your advices, help and guidance in advance. Thank you to anyone who could help me out of the isolation.) -
actually, i dun consider u being isolated in the first place.. and categorizing ur frens into "low quality" is bad enough.
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Ur isolating yourself from people looking to be friends with you by acting like a snob and looking down on them.
Most of my good friends or true friends are not scholars or intellectuals. They are what society termed as 'unsavoury' types. But that dosent matter, they are good friends and I enjoyed my time and friendship with them.Originally posted by SGEMP:This is all about one of my rather serious current problems which I am facing now, and is related to my school life...............
By now, I am a sec 4 express student abt to take O' levels in a few months time and graduate from secondary school education (advancing to the tertiary education), but........................this is a problem yet to be resolved...................which................................
.....................In the past, to protect myself from some troublemakers, whenever I have recess or lunch in school, I always choose a place that is near to where the teachers are.
In class, sometimes I am very busy to that I have no chance to interact with my classmates. Also, I am always sitting alone in very front part of my class, while all others had some (about 2) partners beside them...........(my class the cls size is odd-numbered one)
And so, over the years, while any troubles which I had anticipated for did not occur, my relations with some of my schoolmates were weakened, or even worse, have no relations and interactions at all. Also I always have no one willing to go with me during school work/groupworks, not even being a member in any study groups..................
This had caused my communication skills getting poorer, my mind being empty, my life being overly stressed and too boring, myself being "isolated"/"cut-off" from the outside world, thus having no knowledge of how others are doing, always alone, everywhere, and did not see any significant improvement in my life and my academic results (sometimes even worse than before, despite hard work and frequent consulatations with my teachers......)
So what can I do about it? (Frankly speaking I feel that by now it is too late for me to build up relations with my schoolmates.......?)
Also whenever I wanted to get new friends, I have noticed that those studying in better classes weren't the ones who would look for me instantly and automatically for friendship. Instead, those studying in tail-end classes and normal A/T streams were the ones who ALWAYS look for me instantly and automatically for friendship, and were the ones who always claiming me as "their best friend" In contrast, others have more better quality best friends(who would look for them instantly and automatically) and better interaction, while any schoolmate-friends I face up till now were all but the low-quality, "troublemaking" ones...and I did not have much interaction.......(excluding the forumnites)
So what did I do wrong in the first place that causes the abovementioned phenomenon? Bad luck? Wrong name? HongKonger? And what I can do about this to solve the phenomenon?
Please, I need your help, advice and guidance in order for me to break my isolation, get more interaction with my schoolmates, and get more better-quality friends in school........
(And so I would like to acknowledge for your advices, help and guidance in advance. Thank you to anyone who could help me out of the isolation.) -
Unable to what? Er**t?Originally posted by SGEMP:Thank you for your advices.
However, add on a little bit, I also felt that I am not enjoying my teenage life at all....................becos of no interaction, no relations, always alone and being isolated.............
Plus, I felt that I myself is incomplete and being unable
Too small?
My gawd. You are a living eunuch? -
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why the fcuk u go thread digging....you ball-less kid...
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Is this a personal attack?Originally posted by SBS2798U:Unable to what? Er**t?
Too small?
My gawd. You are a living eunuch?
You've been warned. You don't do such a thing in my forum. -
u can either tell jokes or ask them (be it new friends or existing friends) some lame riddles..
it can somehow break the ice..
it works for me..
jus look for subjects to talk abt..
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i think u should not classify ur classmates as "good result students" and "bad result students".. instead, learn to look at people with depth.
try to look at their personality and character.. whether do some of them possess good and righteous attitude in their own lives. this, i leave u to discern for urself.
next, don't be introvert. i suggest u make the effort to start bringing up topics during conversations. if not, start off with a genuine smile whenever anyone catches ur attention at first sight. a smile can sometimes do wonders.
it all starts within urself. if u change ur negative mindset and attitude towards people into a positive one, people around u will also do the same.
what is inside of u will show forth on ur exterior.
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Better change your viewpoint of "Low Quality" or u'll end up like one of my colleagues...
He has no friends, stays at home during weekends to play PS2 simply becuz nobody asks him out and he is 22 this year. The only topics he is interested about are games and sex.
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loner neh.
i used to be like u.. but not to that extreme.
take the first step, approach others!
dun have to be v gd frens, at least to make them welcome u to their group can liao.