out of love problem.
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Because it hurt your ego to have placed 6months worth of effort on a girl and she went for another guy?Originally posted by spycampers:i understand... just not feeling good about the whole thing.
The 'don't feel good' factor exist isn't because she have rejected you. But because she went with another collegue which worsen the whole thing.
My suggestion is - don't take it to heart.
Chasing a girl is illogical. Enjoy the chase and enjoy the lost(if any) as well.
Bury the self blame and finger pointing mindset. Get up and walk on.
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get on with ur usual duties, dun bring urself down for her. it's difficult but if u really like her u would want her to be happy.
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Been there before and know how it feels... Just wanna be friends even if things fail right...? Alas, but not everyone is willing to accept that one lah... If can be friends then good for you lor.. If not then also can't help it right...? Sometimes you wanna friend someone but that person don't want you also bo bian one right...?Originally posted by spycampers:As least u and her can still be friend.
for my case, she avoiding me...
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Alas... Everybody handle things differently... You can't possibly control what others wanna do....?Originally posted by spycampers:i admit there some of my ego hurt.. but wat really pain me is there why she have to go the extreme of avoiding me.. -
Originally posted by FireIce:chase another co-worker?
good i like this -
i dont get the "at least still be friends' mentality. the person you like dont like you in the same way, why should you hope to hang around with him or her as much?
it gives you false expectations and unnecessary discomfort - especially if he/she knows whats on your mind. 
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dun get sad over it...its juz another gal in your life...yea no money no need to talk about gals...its reality...it bites but its true...similar to the animal world...size strength money looks = security...hv those and u can be sure to be able to get one or even more =p but of coz r/s also require consistency and maintenance...so gd luck...dun feel sad over it...waste yr feelings n thoughts..spend it on somemone else who deserve it more...
getting interested in another gal can be one way of getting over it...it resolves the pain and brings you into a new direction to channel yr love and feelings...and dun bother becoming fwens again...its juz another excuse for yrself to wait and try again with her...u will feel awkward as long as they are still together...anyway they will break up in the end =p so destroy "her" in yr mind and juz treat her as colleague and nothing else...more hope u give yrself in such circumstances...more disappointment and hurt u will suffer...though alot of ppl hv to get hurt many many times before they start learning how to handle and understand the aftermath...so chillz...but jiayou