ooops maybe i misunderstood him.........Originally posted by M©+square:I suppose the definition of dating is pre-bgr.
Then there's no problem. But make sure you don't lead people on and go for another date...that is not right.
Date itself is ok.
Originally posted by hiphop2009:ooops maybe i misunderstood him.........
dun say date larh, say jio dem out lor............
I know how it feels.Originally posted by Xlashes:I really dun noe wad to do . When I am in relationship, I can promise my girl that I am committed to her.
Now, there are a few girls in front of me. I really dun noe who fits me better although in my heart , I got a girl .
But not ready to go exclusive for her. I hope I can see better first because I dun want to go into the wrong girl.
I guess I am selfish, because definitely someone is going to get hurt. How should I carry myself so that I can know more about them without getting too involved in me ?
To me dating means to know more about each other before going into a relationship.
I don't get it.... you can't decide between several girls, but you already have one in your heart?Originally posted by Xlashes:I really dun noe wad to do . When I am in relationship, I can promise my girl that I am committed to her.
Now, there are a few girls in front of me. I really dun noe who fits me better although in my heart , I got a girl .
But not ready to go exclusive for her. I hope I can see better first because I dun want to go into the wrong girl.
I guess I am selfish, because definitely someone is going to get hurt. How should I carry myself so that I can know more about them without getting too involved in me ?
To me dating means to know more about each other before going into a relationship.
To be honest with you... If you're into a long term relationship... The one way in which you can truly get to know the other patry better is by COMMITMENT.... And even then, it would be an ongoing process....Originally posted by Xlashes:I really dun noe wad to do . When I am in relationship, I can promise my girl that I am committed to her.
Now, there are a few girls in front of me. I really dun noe who fits me better although in my heart , I got a girl .
But not ready to go exclusive for her. I hope I can see better first because I dun want to go into the wrong girl.
I guess I am selfish, because definitely someone is going to get hurt. How should I carry myself so that I can know more about them without getting too involved in me ?
To me dating means to know more about each other before going into a relationship.
My bro, I'm currently in the same situation as you. I am going to tell my no.1 girl that I'm seeing other pple but I want to reassure her that it's not because i dun like her or what. But it's not fair to the other girls who want to get to know me better.Originally posted by Xlashes:I am in this dating stage , so is it okay to date more than 1 girl ? If yes what must i do to keep the no.1 girl from being too unsure of where we are heading ?
Very agreeable. But one thing I do not agree with you. That is honesty. What women really want to hear are positive stuffs. Anything that suggests even an iota of negative things about her will make her feel less good. If you're gonna tell her you're dating other women, be prepared... I mean she might turn into one paranoid gf.Originally posted by MetalGear:My bro, I'm currently in the same situation as you. I am going to tell my no.1 girl that I'm seeing other pple but I want to reassure her that it's not because i dun like her or what. But it's not fair to the other girls who want to get to know me better.
The simple rule is, as long as you are not attached, it's fine to DATE more than 1 girl. You are simply finding out more about the kind of rite girl you want and it puts your mind in the correct perspective.
What I mean is, usually when we date a girl and we really like her alot, it keeps out mind focused on her. It's good and not good. Not good because u do not become objective and are unable to see any flaws. Dating other women helps u compare and know whether you really want your present main target now.
Don't think that this is wrong. In fact, it's better. You are simply doing your homework before you finally sign the 'contract letter' to become her bf. Once you become her bf, u better be serious n honor n stick by her as much as u can.
Of coz, dun simply go out with as girls as possible. For me, besides my present main target, i intend to get to know better 2 other girls which is only fair for me n for the other 2 girls. I will not hold myself back as long as i'm not attached.
It's true your main target will feel more at unrest and not be able to take it. But u must be honest and tell her why you are doing it. This is good also, a little competition is alwaz good. If she knwos got other girls after u, she'll want u more. Women are strange lah. They want what they cannot have, the dun want what they can have infront of them.
I'm telling my girl today of my intentions. Anyway, i alwaz believed in open and honest communication. If she wants me that much, she has to put in the same effort to chase me =)
Use this in your love life too. =) It's always so easy for us men to put women on a pedastel. Dun do that... onyl do that for your wife. =)