so many thots in my head
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ive become so obsessed with her that i i'm getting afraid of myself. I'm scared i will do something that might hurt her. I always have fears that some other guy will appear or reappear and take her away and i want to see if its real so keep wanting to wait for her at her block or calling her on her hp mobile to see if she's home. i don't want to become a stalker!!! most of the times i mng to stop myself before i make mistakes but i've gone to her block before even though i know it is stupid n wrong....the fear n sorrow sometimes is so great that it affects some of my conversations with her. I try to go out n hang out with my frens bt once i have sum quiet time i start thinking agn. I can't say we are very close but we talk on the phone once a week and on msn. Sometimes she gives me mixed signals about us even though she said before most likely we can only b frens, and i read and think too much into her words n actions. I think we might have a chance but after all that happen i dun wanna move too fast and yet i'm afraid if i dun do anything, i will lose the chance once she starts working. why am i so suspicious???!!!!Think i'm goin mad hhhhheeelppppppp
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relax...
slowly..
dont think too much..not good
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go for a good run, always helps.. really
try 5k first -
haf u tried asking her out for a movie or to eat or something?
u don't know when u don't try -
heres advice from sting
"If You Love Somebody Set Them Free"
If you need somebody, call my name
If you want someone, you can do the same
If you want to keep something precious
You got to lock it up and throw away the key
If you want to hold onto your possession
Don't even think about me
If you love somebody, set them free
If it's a mirror you want, just look into my eyes
Or a whipping boy, someone to despise
Or a prisoner in the dark
Tied up in chains you just can't see
Or a beast in a gilded cage
That's all some people ever want to be
If you love somebody, set them free
You can't control an independent heart
Can't tear the one you love apart
Forever conditioned to believe that we can't live
We can't live here and be happy with less
So many riches, so many souls
Everything we see we want to possess
If you need somebody, call my name
If you want someone, you can do the same
If you want to keep something precious
You got to lock it up and throw away the key
If you want to hold onto your possession
Don't even think about me
If you love somebody, set them free -
stalking is bad.....get enuff courage to ask her out,if she decides to reject u,move on with life..
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I know what you are feeling is what we call the "heat of passion"Originally posted by sitla:ive become so obsessed with her that i i'm getting afraid of myself. I'm scared i will do something that might hurt her. I always have fears that some other guy will appear or reappear and take her away and i want to see if its real so keep wanting to wait for her at her block or calling her on her hp mobile to see if she's home. i don't want to become a stalker!!! most of the times i mng to stop myself before i make mistakes but i've gone to her block before even though i know it is stupid n wrong....the fear n sorrow sometimes is so great that it affects some of my conversations with her. I try to go out n hang out with my frens bt once i have sum quiet time i start thinking agn. I can't say we are very close but we talk on the phone once a week and on msn. Sometimes she gives me mixed signals about us even though she said before most likely we can only b frens, and i read and think too much into her words n actions. I think we might have a chance but after all that happen i dun wanna move too fast and yet i'm afraid if i dun do anything, i will lose the chance once she starts working. why am i so suspicious???!!!!Think i'm goin mad hhhhheeelppppppp
I have been through this phase too. It will pass when you wake up one day thinking is not worth it cos she had found a new bf.
Most important she does not love you so what even you are with her?
What makes you think she will not sleep around or flirt around or use you to her own needs?
If she loves you then she will do things for you if not she will dump you asap once she is done with you. This is real life not some fanstasy game. -
If you can win her heart, win her heart...Originally posted by sitla:ive become so obsessed with her that i i'm getting afraid of myself. I'm scared i will do something that might hurt her. I always have fears that some other guy will appear or reappear and take her away and i want to see if its real so keep wanting to wait for her at her block or calling her on her hp mobile to see if she's home. i don't want to become a stalker!!! most of the times i mng to stop myself before i make mistakes but i've gone to her block before even though i know it is stupid n wrong....the fear n sorrow sometimes is so great that it affects some of my conversations with her. I try to go out n hang out with my frens bt once i have sum quiet time i start thinking agn. I can't say we are very close but we talk on the phone once a week and on msn. Sometimes she gives me mixed signals about us even though she said before most likely we can only b frens, and i read and think too much into her words n actions. I think we might have a chance but after all that happen i dun wanna move too fast and yet i'm afraid if i dun do anything, i will lose the chance once she starts working. why am i so suspicious???!!!!Think i'm goin mad hhhhheeelppppppp
If you can't, no point interfering with her private life.... -
it wun hurt to trust ur intuition once in a while to say u r right, she really just wanna b an ordinary frenz, no chance forward. so ur next move is to get on with ur life.
n the one stopping u is really u.
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Take a pen and paper.
Write down your fears, in point form.
You will be able to see that there are not many fears.
Your mind just snowball the same points again and again.
Tackle the points one by one. -
let nature take its course..Originally posted by sitla:ive become so obsessed with her that i i'm getting afraid of myself. I'm scared i will do something that might hurt her. I always have fears that some other guy will appear or reappear and take her away and i want to see if its real so keep wanting to wait for her at her block or calling her on her hp mobile to see if she's home. i don't want to become a stalker!!! most of the times i mng to stop myself before i make mistakes but i've gone to her block before even though i know it is stupid n wrong....the fear n sorrow sometimes is so great that it affects some of my conversations with her. I try to go out n hang out with my frens bt once i have sum quiet time i start thinking agn. I can't say we are very close but we talk on the phone once a week and on msn. Sometimes she gives me mixed signals about us even though she said before most likely we can only b frens, and i read and think too much into her words n actions. I think we might have a chance but after all that happen i dun wanna move too fast and yet i'm afraid if i dun do anything, i will lose the chance once she starts working. why am i so suspicious???!!!!Think i'm goin mad hhhhheeelppppppp -
Originally posted by sitla:ive become so obsessed with her that i i'm getting afraid of myself. I'm scared i will do something that might hurt her. I always have fears that some other guy will appear or reappear and take her away and i want to see if its real so keep wanting to wait for her at her block or calling her on her hp mobile to see if she's home. i don't want to become a stalker!!! most of the times i mng to stop myself before i make mistakes but i've gone to her block before even though i know it is stupid n wrong....the fear n sorrow sometimes is so great that it affects some of my conversations with her. I try to go out n hang out with my frens bt once i have sum quiet time i start thinking agn. I can't say we are very close but we talk on the phone once a week and on msn. Sometimes she gives me mixed signals about us even though she said before most likely we can only b frens, and i read and think too much into her words n actions. I think we might have a chance but after all that happen i dun wanna move too fast and yet i'm afraid if i dun do anything, i will lose the chance once she starts working. why am i so suspicious???!!!!Think i'm goin mad hhhhheeelppppppp
This is an unhealthy love obsession.
You fear that you might turn out to be a stalker and actually, you are becoming one. The poison is embedded within your soul and if you don't enlighten yourself, you will eventually become one.
This is because every stalker brandish, mentally, with these sort of love obsession, haunting fear and running imagination... like yourself. It will become so deadly that they will gradually fail to see through this insidious transformation they have grown into and is likely to employ bias 'logical' reasoning to back up their erratic behaviour.
Love is so natural that when it actually affects your basis relationship with her (namely friendship), something is quite wrong somewhere. A relationship cannot flourish beyond a friendship if, in the first place, it doesn't even allow a conducive condition where a proper friendship could sustain.
I think you need to resolve yourself, before you could extend your love to someone else.
P.S: Are you a Scorpio?
Cheers -
Wooooo.....Originally posted by Yunhaier:P.S: Are you a Scorpio?
Cheers
The high intellect, great observation skills and are unique, powerful individuals in their own right.
Yunnie, do not mess with them.
But if anything goes wrong....i'll protect you.
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Originally posted by M©+square:Wooooo.....
The high intellect, great observation skills and are unique, powerful individuals in their own right.
Yunnie, do not mess with them.
But if anything goes wrong....i'll protect you.
Cheers
HAO MAN WOR....
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haha no..i'm virgo..and the gal is piecies, any horoscope reading Yun? lol...anyway i'm slowly getting over this bad obsession...jus trying to take things as they come...whether its the truth of jus a wild stray thought in my mind. I still like her though, but i'm going to take my foot off the gas for now and see how things are again in a few months.
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relax la brader. Take it slow and steady and try to not be a kanchiong spider. all will work out for you.Originally posted by sitla:ive become so obsessed with her that i i'm getting afraid of myself. I'm scared i will do something that might hurt her. I always have fears that some other guy will appear or reappear and take her away and i want to see if its real so keep wanting to wait for her at her block or calling her on her hp mobile to see if she's home. i don't want to become a stalker!!! most of the times i mng to stop myself before i make mistakes but i've gone to her block before even though i know it is stupid n wrong....the fear n sorrow sometimes is so great that it affects some of my conversations with her. I try to go out n hang out with my frens bt once i have sum quiet time i start thinking agn. I can't say we are very close but we talk on the phone once a week and on msn. Sometimes she gives me mixed signals about us even though she said before most likely we can only b frens, and i read and think too much into her words n actions. I think we might have a chance but after all that happen i dun wanna move too fast and yet i'm afraid if i dun do anything, i will lose the chance once she starts working. why am i so suspicious???!!!!Think i'm goin mad hhhhheeelppppppp