PLEASE HELP!!! shud i make the move??
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....Originally posted by drx:humm thanks for coming to AA
I have seen your problem and I must say you are head over heeds in love with him. There is nothing we could say to keep you of him.
Sadly to say he is bored and he is playing with your feelings
Trust me I have seen playboys style of playing and he is definely playing with you.
O well since you cannot take your eyes off him then there is no point asking you to stop seeing him or hack care about him right?
So might as well enjoy it while it last ba.
To you everything he gives you is a treasure be it a coin or a paper.
I myself have been through the feeling so i know how it feels.
No worries once he have found a new or better target he will go.
He is not interested in you. He just playing around. If he is serious he should care more of your feelings and why can't he just take care of you properly.
I know this is hard to take it but this is real life not games. People have feelings and will get hurt.
is there a possibility that perhaps he was bein misunderstood? being really nice dosent really mean he wants to get attached with her..no? -
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Mahai says he eat already don't have anything to pass out, that's why he's so bo liao & leaves bo liao comments.
FeowFeow -
maybe u shd just follow ur heart..if u get played this time, at least u'll learn..
mistakes are meant to be made..and risks are meant to be taken if the reward is big enough..
jus dun get cheated
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Originally posted by 200plus:hi peeps. this is my first time posting. anyway i was recommended to come here by my fren. dunno will it help or not. but nvm. enuff of the crap. its a long story btw.
ok theres this guy. i got to noe him around the beginning of this year. i wont say he's good-looking but he is a unique guy. first few weeks past and i dint really pay attention to him. then there was once he wrote me a note to inform me abt something and from then on i was attracted to him. dun ask me y. me myself dunno the reason behind this. then we started to chat often on msn and i felt comfortable tokking to him.
on valentine's eve he spent around 40+ minutes on msn to persuade me to confess to the person tat i like and i did gave in. after finally plucking up the courage, i told him. he replied "i know". anti-climax isnt it?? he said he isnt rejecting neither is he accepting because he needs time. (theres this gal who he still cant get over wif)
but the confusing part is tat, if he needs a break from relationships, according to him, then y did he treat me better day by day? he claimed he knew abt my feelings since day 1. as in, if he needs a break, y wud he even bother to get this close to me? i hope im not thinking too much but i do haf little frens and he's one of the few tat i can relate too.
well, i dunno wat made me do it but 2 days after my confession, i told him im giving up. his reaction was just as normal. i think its either an "ok" or "anything", nothing remarkable. yar so life goes back to normal. we do tok a lot still on msn in a frenly way. btw he's a gal magnet and i dunno y so many gals are telling me hes hot. (cough cough)
then last friday he smsed "wanna meet tmr? i return u ur thumbdrive. if u wan we can haf dinner together too". after consulting my frens i decided to go. i dunno whats the point of him asking me out lah, though he said its to thank me for helping him wif things.
so on saturday i turned up. we had dinner at billy bombers. u noe the guy-pull-out-chair-for-gal thing? ya he did tat and he poured drinks for me. but dinner tat time i was either too nervous or out of my mind. i kept screwing things up. i touch fork, fork drop. i touch knife, knife drop. i couldnt even cut wif my knife to tat extent tat he had to cut the food for me. worse still, i embarrassed myself my speaking wif a mouth full of food. then suddenly he stared at me intently, i thot wat, then he passed me a piece of tissue and say "theres food stain on ur mouth" -_-'''
ok i noe i gave myself away too much at the dinner. ya then after dinner he suggested watching movie. there wasnt much nice shows and most ticks were selling fast. he's nice enuff to offer to watch final destination 3 wif me though he had watched it once already. in the end i told him not to waste money so we went for a stroll around the neighbourhood.
we found a pretty peaceful place and sat down. he commented tat the stars were nice. after tat he sang songs and showed me some dance steps. ya basically for the whole nite we sat there enjoying the tranquility of the place and he sang a majority of jay chou songs. suddenly he said he wud like to hear me sing. of course im shy and stuff so i told him i wud sing the next time. then for dunno wat lah, he commented "there may not be a next time coz u noe im going into army..."
i felt disappointed but of course i dint show it. after tat he gave me the round thing from his keychain. he say wat, he's giving it to me as a ring. maybe he's just trying to be lame, i dunnoe. he did mention tat he can stay until very late but maybe i need to go home le. so around midnite i seriously think tat my mum was boiling wif rage so i said i gotta go. he walked me home. when i reached home i realised im still holding on to the 'ring' of the keychain. i smsed "u forgot to take ur 'ring' back". he says "u keep it, i dun need it anyway"...
ya tat was wat the story is abt. but the problem is tat, who am i to him? maybe he did treat me like a fren and its normal to go out wif a fren. ya. i really hope im not thinking too much or else i wud haf been wasting so much of my time fretting upon this! btw im indeed a stupid gal. on tat day itself he said "i've got free tickets to ice age2, u wan or not?". instead of replying a yes, i exclaimed "hey where u get the free ticks?!"... ya tat was completely anti-climax. so now i dunno whether its set or he merely mentioned it in a no-big-deal way. i could haf gotten the chance to go out wif him again if i told him i wan the ticks. haiix. so how now?? and he's leaving for army in april. but is he even interested in me?? or shud i ask him abt the ice age thing to get myself a 2nd chance??
This is a carefully crafted seduction and you make an excellent victim for his spell weaving. You, having small social circle, worsen things.
It seemed to me that he is planning for his future; he probably thought that army will reduce his chance of interaction with ladies, or means difficulty in managing any BGR and he would probably have to lay his cards well enough for people whom he thought as potentials to remain emotionally connected with him despite the vast passage of time.
He is so confident, that you will fall for him as he urged you to express yourself to the one you like. The minute when you hopelessly tells him about your inner feelings, it acknowledge the fact that his seductive model works just right. Once it happens, all he need to do is to 'upkeep' you periodically so that the spell will be kept in check.
He displayed dramatic vibes into your mind, through his interaction with you and there are meticulous attentions spent on you. The fine prints, the details are all taken into accounts.
And there... time was ticking. In fact, he revealed that time wasn't advantageous to him when in fact, ironically, if he is a shrewd player, he would have understand that this means a better terrain to maneuver.
In the Greek Mythology: Narcissus is a beautiful hero. His beauty is so great that all who saw him, falls in love with him. But he will look at none of them. Even the fairest of nymph, Echo, didn't moved him.
We must understand that there are people whom may not be looking for Love and a serious relationship like yourself. These people seek companionship and people to adore and worship them like Narcissus. He is so ingenious because you are always insinuated through by the scenario he has created and if you have noticed by now, he has mention none of his own betrayed feelings that says anything about loving or liking you.
If you are looking for a committed relationship, my take is to widen your social circle and explore new territories. There isn't any strict bond stating that you must devote your time and soul to him alone.
Cheers -
Clap clap...Originally posted by Yunhaier: This is a carefully crafted seduction and you make an excellent victim for his spell weaving. You, having small social circle, worsen things.
It seemed to me that he is planning for his future; he probably thought that army will reduce his chance of interaction with ladies, or means difficulty in managing any BGR and he would probably have to lay his cards well enough for people whom he thought as potentials to remain emotionally connected with him despite the vast passage of time.
He is so confident, that you will fall for him as he urged you to express yourself to the one you like. The minute when you hopelessly tells him about your inner feelings, it acknowledge the fact that his seductive model works just right. Once it happens, all he need to do is to 'upkeep' you periodically so that the spell will be kept in check.
He displayed dramatic vibes into your mind, through his interaction with you and there are meticulous attentions spent on you. The fine prints, the details are all taken into accounts.
And there... time was ticking. In fact, he revealed that time wasn't advantageous to him when in fact, ironically, if he is a shrewd player, he would have understand that this means a better terrain to maneuver.
In the Greek Mythology: Narcissus is a beautiful hero. His beauty is so great that all who saw him, falls in love with him. But he will look at none of them. Even the fairest of nymph, Echo, didn't moved him.
We must understand that there are people whom may not be looking for Love and a serious relationship like yourself. These people seek companionship and people to adore and worship them like Narcissus. He is so ingenious because you are always insinuated through by the scenario he has created and if you have noticed by now, he has mention none of his own betrayed feelings that says anything about loving or liking you.
If you are looking for a committed relationship, my take is to widen your social circle and explore new territories. There isn't any strict bond stating that you must devote your time and soul to him alone.
Cheers -
How his feeling towards you? I feel that both are too young and he will definitely change in character after NS. Only time has an answer.
I don't think his emotion is deep towards you, as both are not mature, or old enough to make decision. -
yeah...sorry to say this but he seems like the sort to manipulate gals into falling for him then reject them when the gals really fall for him n confess. it boosts his ego one time for sure. u can see this from his comment tat he has many gals falling for him n he dun give a care. perhaps he has done the same thing to other gals b4.
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thanks for ur help. i must agree tat i was too blinded by everything... next time i shall try my best to not be so obvious such tat the other party is aware of my feelings (as in, i wont be an open bk anymore). if the person is worth-liking then it wont harm dropping a lil hints here n there yea.Originally posted by Yunhaier:In the Greek Mythology: Narcissus is a beautiful hero. His beauty is so great that all who saw him, falls in love with him. But he will look at none of them. Even the fairest of nymph, Echo, didn't moved him.
We must understand that there are people whom may not be looking for Love and a serious relationship like yourself. These people seek companionship and people to adore and worship them like Narcissus. He is so ingenious because you are always insinuated through by the scenario he has created and if you have noticed by now, he has mention none of his own betrayed feelings that says anything about loving or liking you.
Cheers
i haf to say tat i was really silly coz right from the start i knew he's not worth it. i totally agree wif the ego thingy. from the way i describe myself at the dinner, its not hard for everybody to see tat i was completely nervous n stuff. he must haf enjoyed watching me make a fool out of myself n tat is perfectly helpful in boosting his ego. as in, a gal is so smittened wif his charm so much so tat she behaved like a moron. (touch fork, fork drop, touch knife, knife drop) eh u get wat i mean? -
Originally posted by 200plus:thanks for ur help. i must agree tat i was too blinded by everything... next time i shall try my best to not be so obvious such tat the other party is aware of my feelings (as in, i wont be an open bk anymore). if the person is worth-liking then it wont harm dropping a lil hints here n there yea.
i haf to say tat i was really silly coz right from the start i knew he's not worth it. i totally agree wif the ego thingy. from the way i describe myself at the dinner, its not hard for everybody to see tat i was completely nervous n stuff. he must haf enjoyed watching me make a fool out of myself n tat is perfectly helpful in boosting his ego. as in, a gal is so smittened wif his charm so much so tat she behaved like a moron. (touch fork, fork drop, touch knife, knife drop) eh u get wat i mean? Being aware of feeling isn't an issue itself, what matters is how sincere that person is.
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i m sure u can find better ppl out there .. cheer up
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If you can fake sincerity, you would be unstoppable.
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'Unstoppable' in what sense...?Originally posted by alexkusu:If you can fake sincerity, you would be unstoppable. -
to gain the trust of others?Originally posted by Devil1976:'Unstoppable' in what sense...?
/pokes devil's rolling eyes
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I thought you meant 'unstoppable' in banging your head against the wall...? A paper cannot cover a fire, and even if it does... You shall burn from it...?Originally posted by alexkusu:to gain the trust of others?
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depends wet paper or dry paper 1st. If wet, the yin can counteract the yang of the fire. Hence it will not burnOriginally posted by Devil1976:I thought you meant 'unstoppable' in banging your head against the wall...? A paper cannot cover a fire, and even if it does... You shall burn from it...? -
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he's leaving real soon for ns. wont be able to see him anymore after tat (unless he contacts me)
but i doubt he will. so i may as well treat this as a chance to forget everything... -
Diapers..?? <Originally posted by alexkusu:depends wet paper or dry paper 1st. If wet, the yin can counteract the yang of the fire. Hence it will not burn 
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hmph.. u gotta hear her tone too.. if she sounds bo chap, she probably literally meant dat she needed company and it stops dere.Originally posted by alexkusu:hmm...now i knw what it means when i receive this kind of sms
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Dear 200plus,
I would gather you're under 20, from the way you post? : )
I think you're reading too much into things. He's already been honest with you in that there's a girl he can't get over. Yes, he's taking a break from relationships, & there's No stopping him from getting close to you as a friend. But there's No obligation for him to like you, nor get into a relationship with you. Being nice to you may be his nature, or simply because he treats you as a closer friend, that's all? Why think too much?
Another way to look at it is that he wants companionship. People who've still Not let go of a past relationship need support & friendship in order to help them get over the whole episode. He may then make a decision whether to still pursue the girl he likes, or move on to another. You may Not be anything else, girl.
I'm Not trying to discourage you. What I'm trying to highlight is that, thinking too much about things & looking for details that aren't there may only result in bitter disappointment. Why don't you just enjoy the friendship without the anxiety? Perhaps without the pressure, there MAY be a chance for a relationship to blossom. Be at ease with yourself, & hang out with him as friends.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by 200plus:hi peeps. this is my first time posting. anyway i was recommended to come here by my fren. dunno will it help or not. but nvm. enuff of the crap. its a long story btw.
ok theres this guy. i got to noe him around the beginning of this year. i wont say he's good-looking but he is a unique guy. first few weeks past and i dint really pay attention to him. then there was once he wrote me a note to inform me abt something and from then on i was attracted to him. dun ask me y. me myself dunno the reason behind this. then we started to chat often on msn and i felt comfortable tokking to him.
on valentine's eve he spent around 40+ minutes on msn to persuade me to confess to the person tat i like and i did gave in. after finally plucking up the courage, i told him. he replied "i know". anti-climax isnt it?? he said he isnt rejecting neither is he accepting because he needs time. (theres this gal who he still cant get over wif)
but the confusing part is tat, if he needs a break from relationships, according to him, then y did he treat me better day by day? he claimed he knew abt my feelings since day 1. as in, if he needs a break, y wud he even bother to get this close to me? i hope im not thinking too much but i do haf little frens and he's one of the few tat i can relate too.
well, i dunno wat made me do it but 2 days after my confession, i told him im giving up. his reaction was just as normal. i think its either an "ok" or "anything", nothing remarkable. yar so life goes back to normal. we do tok a lot still on msn in a frenly way. btw he's a gal magnet and i dunno y so many gals are telling me hes hot. (cough cough)
then last friday he smsed "wanna meet tmr? i return u ur thumbdrive. if u wan we can haf dinner together too". after consulting my frens i decided to go. i dunno whats the point of him asking me out lah, though he said its to thank me for helping him wif things.
so on saturday i turned up. we had dinner at billy bombers. u noe the guy-pull-out-chair-for-gal thing? ya he did tat and he poured drinks for me. but dinner tat time i was either too nervous or out of my mind. i kept screwing things up. i touch fork, fork drop. i touch knife, knife drop. i couldnt even cut wif my knife to tat extent tat he had to cut the food for me. worse still, i embarrassed myself my speaking wif a mouth full of food. then suddenly he stared at me intently, i thot wat, then he passed me a piece of tissue and say "theres food stain on ur mouth" -_-'''
ok i noe i gave myself away too much at the dinner. ya then after dinner he suggested watching movie. there wasnt much nice shows and most ticks were selling fast. he's nice enuff to offer to watch final destination 3 wif me though he had watched it once already. in the end i told him not to waste money so we went for a stroll around the neighbourhood.
we found a pretty peaceful place and sat down. he commented tat the stars were nice. after tat he sang songs and showed me some dance steps. ya basically for the whole nite we sat there enjoying the tranquility of the place and he sang a majority of jay chou songs. suddenly he said he wud like to hear me sing. of course im shy and stuff so i told him i wud sing the next time. then for dunno wat lah, he commented "there may not be a next time coz u noe im going into army..."
i felt disappointed but of course i dint show it. after tat he gave me the round thing from his keychain. he say wat, he's giving it to me as a ring. maybe he's just trying to be lame, i dunnoe. he did mention tat he can stay until very late but maybe i need to go home le. so around midnite i seriously think tat my mum was boiling wif rage so i said i gotta go. he walked me home. when i reached home i realised im still holding on to the 'ring' of the keychain. i smsed "u forgot to take ur 'ring' back". he says "u keep it, i dun need it anyway"...
ya tat was wat the story is abt. but the problem is tat, who am i to him? maybe he did treat me like a fren and its normal to go out wif a fren. ya. i really hope im not thinking too much or else i wud haf been wasting so much of my time fretting upon this! btw im indeed a stupid gal. on tat day itself he said "i've got free tickets to ice age2, u wan or not?". instead of replying a yes, i exclaimed "hey where u get the free ticks?!"... ya tat was completely anti-climax. so now i dunno whether its set or he merely mentioned it in a no-big-deal way. i could haf gotten the chance to go out wif him again if i told him i wan the ticks. haiix. so how now?? and he's leaving for army in april. but is he even interested in me?? or shud i ask him abt the ice age thing to get myself a 2nd chance?? -
it seems like he's luring u..
i did something like this before,and its not very pleasant cuz i am a rather fickle minded person so ended hurting the other party...
i can see some similarities though..
but the more you're attracted to him,and if he doesn't give any hints/clues i think u might wana play it low.. -
Err... Sms got tone one mey...? The incoming-message tone issit...??Originally posted by yoghurt:hmph.. u gotta hear her tone too.. if she sounds bo chap, she probably literally meant dat she needed company and it stops dere. 
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i noe its hard on you, you hav such a great lover...
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wow man long para.. anyway he's giving u a chance to date him that's why he treating u better each every day.Originally posted by 200plus:hi peeps. this is my first time posting. anyway i was recommended to come here by my fren. dunno will it help or not. but nvm. enuff of the crap. its a long story btw.
ok theres this guy. i got to noe him around the beginning of this year. i wont say he's good-looking but he is a unique guy. first few weeks past and i dint really pay attention to him. then there was once he wrote me a note to inform me abt something and from then on i was attracted to him. dun ask me y. me myself dunno the reason behind this. then we started to chat often on msn and i felt comfortable tokking to him.
on valentine's eve he spent around 40+ minutes on msn to persuade me to confess to the person tat i like and i did gave in. after finally plucking up the courage, i told him. he replied "i know". anti-climax isnt it?? he said he isnt rejecting neither is he accepting because he needs time. (theres this gal who he still cant get over wif)
but the confusing part is tat, if he needs a break from relationships, according to him, then y did he treat me better day by day? he claimed he knew abt my feelings since day 1. as in, if he needs a break, y wud he even bother to get this close to me? i hope im not thinking too much but i do haf little frens and he's one of the few tat i can relate too.
well, i dunno wat made me do it but 2 days after my confession, i told him im giving up. his reaction was just as normal. i think its either an "ok" or "anything", nothing remarkable. yar so life goes back to normal. we do tok a lot still on msn in a frenly way. btw he's a gal magnet and i dunno y so many gals are telling me hes hot. (cough cough)
then last friday he smsed "wanna meet tmr? i return u ur thumbdrive. if u wan we can haf dinner together too". after consulting my frens i decided to go. i dunno whats the point of him asking me out lah, though he said its to thank me for helping him wif things.
so on saturday i turned up. we had dinner at billy bombers. u noe the guy-pull-out-chair-for-gal thing? ya he did tat and he poured drinks for me. but dinner tat time i was either too nervous or out of my mind. i kept screwing things up. i touch fork, fork drop. i touch knife, knife drop. i couldnt even cut wif my knife to tat extent tat he had to cut the food for me. worse still, i embarrassed myself my speaking wif a mouth full of food. then suddenly he stared at me intently, i thot wat, then he passed me a piece of tissue and say "theres food stain on ur mouth" -_-'''
ok i noe i gave myself away too much at the dinner. ya then after dinner he suggested watching movie. there wasnt much nice shows and most ticks were selling fast. he's nice enuff to offer to watch final destination 3 wif me though he had watched it once already. in the end i told him not to waste money so we went for a stroll around the neighbourhood.
we found a pretty peaceful place and sat down. he commented tat the stars were nice. after tat he sang songs and showed me some dance steps. ya basically for the whole nite we sat there enjoying the tranquility of the place and he sang a majority of jay chou songs. suddenly he said he wud like to hear me sing. of course im shy and stuff so i told him i wud sing the next time. then for dunno wat lah, he commented "there may not be a next time coz u noe im going into army..."
i felt disappointed but of course i dint show it. after tat he gave me the round thing from his keychain. he say wat, he's giving it to me as a ring. maybe he's just trying to be lame, i dunnoe. he did mention tat he can stay until very late but maybe i need to go home le. so around midnite i seriously think tat my mum was boiling wif rage so i said i gotta go. he walked me home. when i reached home i realised im still holding on to the 'ring' of the keychain. i smsed "u forgot to take ur 'ring' back". he says "u keep it, i dun need it anyway"...
ya tat was wat the story is abt. but the problem is tat, who am i to him? maybe he did treat me like a fren and its normal to go out wif a fren. ya. i really hope im not thinking too much or else i wud haf been wasting so much of my time fretting upon this! btw im indeed a stupid gal. on tat day itself he said "i've got free tickets to ice age2, u wan or not?". instead of replying a yes, i exclaimed "hey where u get the free ticks?!"... ya tat was completely anti-climax. so now i dunno whether its set or he merely mentioned it in a no-big-deal way. i could haf gotten the chance to go out wif him again if i told him i wan the ticks. haiix. so how now?? and he's leaving for army in april. but is he even interested in me?? or shud i ask him abt the ice age thing to get myself a 2nd chance??
That also shows that he is interested in u 2!
SO right now jus maintain this relationship pace and v soon u 2 will b together.
GOod luck! -
Originally posted by FBI:wow man long para.. anyway he's giving u a chance to date him that's why he treating u better each every day.
That also shows that he is interested in u 2!
SO right now jus maintain this relationship pace and v soon u 2 will b together.
GOod luck!