sometimes love just ain't enough?
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actually wat im going thru is more or less the same as u smallcloud
like wat SP and Yunnie says.. no pt in continuing the r/s if he is doubtful of himself.. y not take a step back and conc on ur exams? if he really appreciates u.. and u2 r meant to be, he will regret his actions and comes back to u..
if not.. y force? a r/s tt is forced will it really bring u happiness in the long run? -
Bad things come in pairs. Hands in hands. Wreaking pain in our hearts.
Love is really just ain't enough.
Love comes and go. Literally.
6 months is also not long. 1 year is considered long.
I think your bf is perfectly immature. =]
Supporting you ALLL THHEE WAYY! -
Someone said... "Wallets are a lot like girls. You really have to take good care of, because if you won't, something might happen"... I know what he means. I just lost a wallet, and I just lost a girl. You know, it's the exact same thing.
One day, you just realize it's gone. You try to look for it everywhere, even going back to the places where you could have lost it.You think, and you think hard, only to come upon a grim realization: it's really gone.
Of course, you can hold on to some hope. After all, there have been some very, very lucky (blessed?) people who get it back. Perhaps you could become one of those people. You sit home and you hope that someone would call, and that you would get it back. But then, some time passes, and you realize that it's still gone, and you realize that it's time to let go.
The first few days, you turn to your friends for support. Some tell you you'll be ok, some tell you that it was your fault and that you should have been more careful, and some tell you about their own experiences. They give you all sorts of advice, none you haven't heard before.
You then go out to find a new wallet, only to realize that you don't really want a new one. You want the old one that you lost. No, you don't want all these better-looking wallets, you want yours, because of how comfortable it is, because of all the cards and pictures and other stuff in it.
You go out and carry on without a wallet, keeping your money in your pocket instead. You throw away stuff that you would have held on to if you had your old wallet. And then, finally, you find a new wallet you like and settle in.
You then start filling your new wallet, little by little. It still doesn't feel as comfortable as the old one, but it's getting there. Then you start putting in cards and pictures and other important stuff in the wallet. Soon enough, there's as much stuff in your new wallet as the old one. And then, after some time, you feel as comfortable with your new wallet.
And then you realize that you've almost forgotten you ever had your old wallet. Sure, you still remember most of the stuff you lost on that wallet. But then again, you don't remember the feeling of hurt that you felt when you lost it.
That's because that wallet you lost is no longer your wallet. You're no longer holding on. This new wallet you're holding, it has all the important cards and pictures and stuff that you need. This is your wallet.
And this time, you tell yourself, you're never losing this one.
- i just posted this because it was wallet related. -
How noble...?Originally posted by Magnus:Yes. sometimes love ain't just good enough.
Issue is not compatibility. Only accommodation.
If we love someone, we will stand by them. Regardless of character differences & flaws.
Take care. -
Hmm... I think you've grown much...Originally posted by hopy:actually wat im going thru is more or less the same as u smallcloud
like wat SP and Yunnie says.. no pt in continuing the r/s if he is doubtful of himself.. y not take a step back and conc on ur exams? if he really appreciates u.. and u2 r meant to be, he will regret his actions and comes back to u..
if not.. y force? a r/s tt is forced will it really bring u happiness in the long run?
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Yeah..Originally posted by Devil1976:How noble...?
U heard of fair weather friends? There are fair weather partners too. -
Not necessarily all that case...Originally posted by Magnus:Yeah..
U heard of fair weather friends? There are fair weather partners too.
Sometimes people are limited by circumstance... It doesn't necessarily means that one does not love the other... Though you might argue that if one truly love another then should stand by through thick and thin together, or something like that....? But what's perceived to be 'good' by one party might not necessarily viewed so by the other... It's all a matter of beliefs and judgements... Making sacrifices and not making them... Double-edged swords... -
anyway..wat i feel is the "lost wallet" is not the real reason which caused the break up...cause it'll really b senseless n imatured...even if that wallet REALYL cause the down fall of the relatiosnhip den mayb u shld talk it out wif ur bf...tat a more mature appoarch
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grown older u mean...Originally posted by Devil1976:Hmm... I think you've grown much... 
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Sure, I understand there are constraints but it seems real smack in the face if you are turned down by the very person you emotionally relied on for that moment.Originally posted by Devil1976:Not necessarily all that case...
Sometimes people are limited by circumstance... It doesn't necessarily means that one does not love the other... Though you might argue that if one truly love another then should stand by through thick and thin together, or something like that....? But what's perceived to be 'good' by one party might not necessarily viewed so by the other... It's all a matter of beliefs and judgements... Making sacrifices and not making them... Double-edged swords...
If you are in a relationship, your senses will naturally be sharpen to your partner's needs? Think this is quite basic? Or else it signals a problem?
I'm not asking for a mind reader. Just someome to be there for support. -
Hmm.. Just curious.. What's your gender?Originally posted by Magnus:Sure, I understand there are constraints but it seems real smack in the face if you are turned down by the very person you emotionally relied on for that moment.
If you are in a relationship, your senses will naturally be sharpen to your partner's needs? Think this is quite basic? Or else it signals a problem?
I'm not asking for a mind reader. Just someome to be there for support.
Yes, I agree with you that it can be a smack in the face if you're turned down by the very person you so emotionally relied on. I've been turned down before and I've also pretty much done the same to others before as much as I did not wish to do it... Like I've previously said, sometimes it's understanding of the whole picture and the circumstance... Not just as easy as "if you love someone, you should stand by that person no matter what'.... And I certainly think that it's quite unfair to lable them as 'fair-weather partner' simply because of that...
As much as I can agree that some partners simply couldn't be bother enough to put in those kinda efforts... There could be equally reason(s) to reject, let go, ignore sometimes... And somehow in certain situations, it'll take alot more LOVE and COURAGE to turn your face away to a needy partner... Such is not a moment all can understand...... -
Who doesn't...??Originally posted by hopy:grown older u mean... 
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I'm a guy.Originally posted by Devil1976:Hmm.. Just curious.. What's your gender?
Yes, I agree with you that it can be a smack in the face if you're turned down by the very person you so emotionally relied on. I've been turned down before and I've also pretty much done the same to others before as much as I did not wish to do it... Like I've previously said, sometimes it's understanding of the whole picture and the circumstance... Not just as easy as "if you love someone, you should stand by that person no matter what'.... And I certainly think that it's quite unfair to lable them as 'fair-weather partner' simply because of that...
As much as I can agree that some partners simply couldn't be bother enough to put in those kinda efforts... There could be equally reason(s) to reject, let go, ignore sometimes... And somehow in certain situations, it'll take alot more LOVE and COURAGE to turn your face away to a needy partner... Such is not a moment all can understand......
I believe that if you decided to love someone, you should love wholeheartedly.
Anyway, I'm fine with constraints like situation & circumstances. And I do agree that it's not so simple that 'if you love someone, you should stand by that person no matter what'.
That's why I chose my words carefully. In my previous post, I said 'regardless of character differences & flaws'. Situations & circumstances are external. -
wow... but i lost my wallet 5 times in 2 years.. always came backOriginally posted by kopiosatu:Someone said... "Wallets are a lot like girls. You really have to take good care of, because if you won't, something might happen"... I know what he means. I just lost a wallet, and I just lost a girl. You know, it's the exact same thing.
One day, you just realize it's gone. You try to look for it everywhere, even going back to the places where you could have lost it.You think, and you think hard, only to come upon a grim realization: it's really gone.
Of course, you can hold on to some hope. After all, there have been some very, very lucky (blessed?) people who get it back. Perhaps you could become one of those people. You sit home and you hope that someone would call, and that you would get it back. But then, some time passes, and you realize that it's still gone, and you realize that it's time to let go.
The first few days, you turn to your friends for support. Some tell you you'll be ok, some tell you that it was your fault and that you should have been more careful, and some tell you about their own experiences. They give you all sorts of advice, none you haven't heard before.
You then go out to find a new wallet, only to realize that you don't really want a new one. You want the old one that you lost. No, you don't want all these better-looking wallets, you want yours, because of how comfortable it is, because of all the cards and pictures and other stuff in it.
You go out and carry on without a wallet, keeping your money in your pocket instead. You throw away stuff that you would have held on to if you had your old wallet. And then, finally, you find a new wallet you like and settle in.
You then start filling your new wallet, little by little. It still doesn't feel as comfortable as the old one, but it's getting there. Then you start putting in cards and pictures and other important stuff in the wallet. Soon enough, there's as much stuff in your new wallet as the old one. And then, after some time, you feel as comfortable with your new wallet.
And then you realize that you've almost forgotten you ever had your old wallet. Sure, you still remember most of the stuff you lost on that wallet. But then again, you don't remember the feeling of hurt that you felt when you lost it.
That's because that wallet you lost is no longer your wallet. You're no longer holding on. This new wallet you're holding, it has all the important cards and pictures and stuff that you need. This is your wallet.
And this time, you tell yourself, you're never losing this one.
- i just posted this because it was wallet related.
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sorry but i totally agree with u on this.. especially your last line.Originally posted by Magnus:Sure, I understand there are constraints but it seems real smack in the face if you are turned down by the very person you emotionally relied on for that moment.
If you are in a relationship, your senses will naturally be sharpen to your partner's needs? Think this is quite basic? Or else it signals a problem?
I'm not asking for a mind reader. Just someome to be there for support.
sometimes your partner dun have to shower you with comforting words and stuff.. just their presence will make u a whole lot better.
my 5 cents. -
this is something which i dun deny. love do come in all sorts.Originally posted by Devil1976:As much as I can agree that some partners simply couldn't be bother enough to put in those kinda efforts... There could be equally reason(s) to reject, let go, ignore sometimes... And somehow in certain situations, it'll take alot more LOVE and COURAGE to turn your face away to a needy partner... Such is not a moment all can understand......
like i've mentioned before somewhere in AA, its usually the ones who love us that say/do things which we don't like to hear/see, but its for our own good. -
been waiting for this =DOriginally posted by Yunhaier:
Losing the wallet is not the reason; it is the catalysis.
When there are existing underlying problems lurking in your relationship, can we smile and tell ourselves that nothing is wrong, despite knowing that the fabled anniversary is approaching?
Love cannot solve problems; human must initiate problem solving or die by the problem itself. This is the freewill given and promised by Love.
Chances are, your relationship isn't exactly stable in the first place.
Take care?
/me pat pat
Cheers -
very good read, i enjoyed it.Originally posted by kopiosatu:Someone said... "Wallets are a lot like girls. You really have to take good care of, because if you won't, something might happen"... I know what he means. I just lost a wallet, and I just lost a girl. You know, it's the exact same thing.
One day, you just realize it's gone. You try to look for it everywhere, even going back to the places where you could have lost it.You think, and you think hard, only to come upon a grim realization: it's really gone.
Of course, you can hold on to some hope. After all, there have been some very, very lucky (blessed?) people who get it back. Perhaps you could become one of those people. You sit home and you hope that someone would call, and that you would get it back. But then, some time passes, and you realize that it's still gone, and you realize that it's time to let go.
The first few days, you turn to your friends for support. Some tell you you'll be ok, some tell you that it was your fault and that you should have been more careful, and some tell you about their own experiences. They give you all sorts of advice, none you haven't heard before.
You then go out to find a new wallet, only to realize that you don't really want a new one. You want the old one that you lost. No, you don't want all these better-looking wallets, you want yours, because of how comfortable it is, because of all the cards and pictures and other stuff in it.
You go out and carry on without a wallet, keeping your money in your pocket instead. You throw away stuff that you would have held on to if you had your old wallet. And then, finally, you find a new wallet you like and settle in.
You then start filling your new wallet, little by little. It still doesn't feel as comfortable as the old one, but it's getting there. Then you start putting in cards and pictures and other important stuff in the wallet. Soon enough, there's as much stuff in your new wallet as the old one. And then, after some time, you feel as comfortable with your new wallet.
And then you realize that you've almost forgotten you ever had your old wallet. Sure, you still remember most of the stuff you lost on that wallet. But then again, you don't remember the feeling of hurt that you felt when you lost it.
That's because that wallet you lost is no longer your wallet. You're no longer holding on. This new wallet you're holding, it has all the important cards and pictures and stuff that you need. This is your wallet.
And this time, you tell yourself, you're never losing this one.
- i just posted this because it was wallet related. -
If you still have feelings for him is just sooner or later you will go back to him what..Originally posted by smallcloud:this is something which i dun deny. love do come in all sorts.
like i've mentioned before somewhere in AA, its usually the ones who love us that say/do things which we don't like to hear/see, but its for our own good.
so why care? If you do not love him liao just go lor no one stopping you rite? -
Pay money!!!!Originally posted by coffeeortea:been waiting for this =D 
Cheers -
the wallet story is good.
you cant pine forever, sooner or later you have to move on.
take care. -
Which part of Yunnie's post have you been waiting?Originally posted by coffeeortea:been waiting for this =D
OR
Are you waiting just for Yunnie's post?
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Depth or swallowness? -
Originally posted by Magnus:I'm a guy.
I believe that if you decided to love someone, you should love wholeheartedly.
Anyway, I'm fine with constraints like situation & circumstances. And I do agree that it's not so simple that 'if you love someone, you should stand by that person no matter what'.
That's why I chose my words carefully. In my previous post, I said 'regardless of character differences & flaws'. Situations & circumstances are external.
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How about $?Originally posted by M©+square:Which part of Yunnie's post have you been waiting?
OR
Are you waiting just for Yunnie's post?
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Depth or swallowness?