To ask or not to ask?
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Sometimes, even asking a gal question is problematic.
If you try to be nice, accomodating or consultative, and you ask her for an opinion, she gets irritated and may think you're a wussy who can't make a decision.
If you don't ask her, then when she isn't happy with the decision you make unilaterally, then she accuses you of not understanding her or think you're a egoistic male chauvinist who doesn't bother to consider her views.
How? Anyway to know when to ask or when not to ask? -
whats the question u wanna ask?
depends on what question, and what kind of girls u wanna ask, as u should know, different gals will have different type of answers, some will scold u, some will jus listen, some will listen and give comments, some will listen and giv comments that help alot, some will offer their help or wadever. -
Or maybe the question is... how to ask?
Within my circle of friends, i'll make a decision and open it up for suggestion. No objection then everything goes my way.
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There're probably no fixed rules... You just learn from experience....Originally posted by social_misfit:Sometimes, even asking a gal question is problematic.
If you try to be nice, accomodating or consultative, and you ask her for an opinion, she gets irritated and may think you're a wussy who can't make a decision.
If you don't ask her, then when she isn't happy with the decision you make unilaterally, then she accuses you of not understanding her or think you're a egoistic male chauvinist who doesn't bother to consider her views.
How? Anyway to know when to ask or when not to ask?
Anyway, in a relationship it's also about both parties doing the 'give & take'... Not simply about how one party should completely please another... -
I think the problem lies on what kind of questions do you want to ask. It still depends on the different kind of questions. Some are appropriate to ask, while others are either inappropriate, or it's not the right time.
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what kind of questions?
what kind of situation/scenario?
what type of girl?
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if she is your true friend she won't accuse u of being irritating.Originally posted by social_misfit:Sometimes, even asking a gal question is problematic.
If you try to be nice, accomodating or consultative, and you ask her for an opinion, she gets irritated and may think you're a wussy who can't make a decision.
If you don't ask her, then when she isn't happy with the decision you make unilaterally, then she accuses you of not understanding her or think you're a egoistic male chauvinist who doesn't bother to consider her views.
How? Anyway to know when to ask or when not to ask?
if she does then i think its time to change a friend -
In life there is no absolute right or wrong answer. Even scientists have conflicting views. It depends on your own personal beliefs and values system and how strong u hold onto them. As long as you firmly believe in your own principles, whatever it may be, as long as you respect yourself, people will respect you.Originally posted by social_misfit:Sometimes, even asking a gal question is problematic.
If you try to be nice, accomodating or consultative, and you ask her for an opinion, she gets irritated and may think you're a wussy who can't make a decision.
If you don't ask her, then when she isn't happy with the decision you make unilaterally, then she accuses you of not understanding her or think you're a egoistic male chauvinist who doesn't bother to consider her views.
How? Anyway to know when to ask or when not to ask?
Why bother as long as you use common sense and think you are correct ? As the old adage says, "you cannot afford to please everyone." Listening to her doesn't mean you have to agree to her whole-heartedly. Put yourself in her own shoes. That's all there is to it.
So, just ask, provided it's not a stupid question. Asking doesn't mean you have to listen and follow.