22 years old already still haven't have relationships before
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I'm a few years older than you, yet I have not gone into any relationship.Originally posted by isolation:I am a 22 years old NSF who will be ORD on the August. Unlike most of the people in my age group, I have not gone into a relationship before in the past 22 years of life.
During the 4 years in my secondary school, there are 3 girls whom I tried to win their hearts (at the different period of course, I am not the kind who likes to step into 2 boats with 1 leg) but I failed.
Later during the 3 years in my poly, because I am studying electronics engineering in the poly and there are at most 3 girls in my class but all are none of my type. Furthermore I am worried that whether I can handle a relationship during my NS days in which our personal time are limited so I didn't pursue a relationship.
However during my NS days, there are quite a number of my army mates with a girlfriend and most of them, surprisingly can handle the relationship well.
Now I am left with less than 4 months to ORD and I feels that it might be the time for me to find a girlfriend as I am already 22 years old yet I have not gone into a relationship before. Furthermore if I continues to be single my parents and relatives will 'pressurise' me.
So how should I start to looking for a girlfriend or rather, what should I do next? 
Maybe I'm being labelled as abnormal .......... -
oOo..i smell uncle devil coming in with a calling for another "singles outing"...
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jus look on the bright side of life.. maybe u can focus on ur career but at the same time make more frenz ba.. good luck to u.. cheer up remember there's always someone for everyone..Originally posted by isolation:I am a 22 years old NSF who will be ORD on the August. Unlike most of the people in my age group, I have not gone into a relationship before in the past 22 years of life.
During the 4 years in my secondary school, there are 3 girls whom I tried to win their hearts (at the different period of course, I am not the kind who likes to step into 2 boats with 1 leg) but I failed.
Later during the 3 years in my poly, because I am studying electronics engineering in the poly and there are at most 3 girls in my class but all are none of my type. Furthermore I am worried that whether I can handle a relationship during my NS days in which our personal time are limited so I didn't pursue a relationship.
However during my NS days, there are quite a number of my army mates with a girlfriend and most of them, surprisingly can handle the relationship well.
Now I am left with less than 4 months to ORD and I feels that it might be the time for me to find a girlfriend as I am already 22 years old yet I have not gone into a relationship before. Furthermore if I continues to be single my parents and relatives will 'pressurise' me.
So how should I start to looking for a girlfriend or rather, what should I do next? 
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okie yan gui zheng chuan..frm the replies u got so far u shd alr know that bud,u r not the only one in that predicament so dun despair ya?whenever we meet some crisis we will tend to hav this perception that "it is only me" however if i hadn't gotten anythin out of sgf at least i learnt this one thing from AA:that shit happens to everybody.it's never only me.
if it makes u feel better,here's the thread i posted sometime ago where i whined abt a similar situation incessantly for a while:
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=180279
so u've got company bud!i'd b the first to join in the queue to sign up to b ur gf!
gf=god-friend
once upon a time there's god-sis god-bro those r outdated..now we hav god-frds!!come on,everybody!!*moves a dozen cartons of tiger beer here n puts up the "god-frd recruitment drive" banner*
*disclaimer: sqully as an individual is not be held responsible for the above comments as she had too much ice n it's taking over her mind.it's ice not sqully,if there's anything evil,silly or simply not pleasing abt the statements. -
haha, i haven been into a relationship b4 but there're quite a number of chicks who dig me tho. i know i hv no problem gettin gals, but its veri damn hard to find the right 1
but here r some advice i can giv u
1. make more frens, doesnt matter guy or gal. maybe ur buddie's fren could be ur one. just know more n more ppl the more the better
2. when talkin to gals, dun be shy...try to b funny but dun try too hard. tease them in moderation. ALWAYZ look into their eyes. try to smile alot oso...be fun, hav fun
3. dress well, ask ur frens for opinions. good personal hygiene oso
4. Now heres the part dat seperates the boys from the men. it is called touching. DONT EVER tell a gal that you 'like' her before you have even touched her....unless she already liks u alot, ur going to fail miserably. After youve talked to her and shes comfortable w u, try to make brief contact wif her hand in a casual way.... when u guys r closer, u can try put ur hand on her shoulder. see how she reacts...if she avoid it or somethin then give up and move on.
if shes comfortable w it, u can den hold her hands. at this point, u can tell her u 'like' her. :-)
5. u dun hav to buy her ex stuff...unless shes already ur stead. but if ur too filthy rich...then well, still dun buy it for her. u should buy for me since i help u learn the tactics of chee hong
so basically, you make frens w ur fren's frens everywhere. see a gal you like, talk to her n make her laugh. touch her, hold her. then go stead...simple. or if u got balls u can juz pick up gals on the streets....but im too tired to go into dat. gd luck -
actually very simple.
1st u need to change ur social circle of friends. Stop hanging ard with all males clan oni. Dont do u ani good
2nd U will oni noe girls thru - Ur sch after army if u studying, friends recommendation (can get those guys gt gf one, ask them to ask gals out for grp outing), or ur workplace
3rd - U already say u got so many flaws. Then why will girls like u sia. Do something abt urself. Get a new haircut at a gd salon, if u r pimpely, see skin doctor. If u r thin or fat, time to hit the gym
4th self confidenc and witty is very impt. Do not be afraid to express urself and dun express urself too early when u r fond of a girl. dun frighten her away -
I am 22 year old this year dec and me too, not been into relationship, so dont worry.
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Thanks everyone for the suggestions, consolations and encouragements.
Sometimes I was thinking whether we should pursue our happiness and not let the fate decide it or we shall just leave it to fate to decide.
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Letting your desperation show is not going to get you a partner.
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don't worry about the girls.
like i used to hear this sentence from some of the world's greatest playboys in the past : Forget the girls. Focus on your career and your passion in life. The girls and other fancy things will automatically fall in place and sync themselves later.
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If you just sit down and let fate decide everything for you, then you can never expect to be happy.Originally posted by isolation:Thanks everyone for the suggestions, consolations and encouragements.
Sometimes I was thinking whether we should pursue our happiness and not let the fate decide it or we shall just leave it to fate to decide.
Whatever happens to you in the future will depend on the effort that you put in now. Whether or not the result is what you want depends on fate. If you put in the effort to search for your happiness, you may end up either happy or sad. Either way, whether or not your effort comes to fruition depends on fate.
However, if you don't put in the effort, then you don't have the right to blame fate. Cos if you don't want to search for happiness, then how can you blame fate for not letting happiness come to you?
In the end, it is the effort that counts. You want happiness, then you gotta look for it. Maybe you'll find someone and be happy, or maybe you won't. But if you sit down and do nothing, one thing's for sure: you'll never be happy. -
Originally posted by Nikar:
They are only attracted to your fame, wealth, position, charisma, ....and so on. When you fall, they automatically fall out of place and everything goes out of sync themselve.
don't worry about the girls.
like i used to hear this sentence from some of the world's greatest playboys in the past : [b]Forget the girls. Focus on your career and your passion in life. The girls and other fancy things will automatically fall in place and sync themselves later.[/b]
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dude... if u spend less time on sg forums, and more time socialising, you wont be alone now! hheee
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Maybe he wants to find like-minded people here and pm her...Originally posted by leddy:dude... if u spend less time on sg forums, and more time socialising, you wont be alone now! hheee
again, j/k.... -
what will come will come. i 21 liao ording early oct. what u should forcus now is getting a jod for outside world or further study. if fate really comes it will comes
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Actually in the career part I have already in mind what I want to do.
I plans to work in the semi-conductor, wafer fabrication sector after I ORD and maybe take up a private degree a few years later if it is necessary for me to do so. Just that the 'future happiness' part I haven't have a plan on what to do. -
u should try for university if possible... lots of chance to meet ppl in uni and u may find a girl there
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My poly results are not that good to go local U so I can't get into local uni. So now my planning is to work after ORD.Originally posted by leddy:u should try for university if possible... lots of chance to meet ppl in uni and u may find a girl there -
Me only into my first relationshop 2 year ago only at the ripe old age of 34 year old ... can imagine what I went thru the torment , angusih , ...keep asking ,myself y... but you survive without love but not without bread so settle yr survival first ,,,, it good of course to have someone to hold caress ... but the end of it for guys it career and $$ that matter ... once u have them girl will come to you ..
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even u said it's close...enough saidOriginally posted by NewAge:U sure boh the weather station is close to 100% on the prediction on the weather. -
total agree wif akaiden...
hard to find the right one...
n yes...true love shld b the first n last...
tats y i aint looking for any since i cant b wif her... -
there are both sides of coin.
you may admire couples, but someone out there may admire you.
there is no rush to get into a relationship as you want someone who is your type and can communicate with you right? that takes time.
just go about your life and try to know more people. be social..
one day, it will just happen.. trust me. -
Dun worry, like other forumers here had said, love will strike you when you least expect it. So dun just think of just getting into a r/s.
I had my 1st gf when I was at 20, so i understand how you feel.
Just try to expand your social circle ba
All the best
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Hmmm, having a girlfriend is not something that will make u more complete and change ur life.
All I can say is, the right girl is worth the wait, and until u meet her, learn to live ur life as meaningfully as possible. In that process, I'm sure u will meet someone. =D -
no gf yet ?? i think u need to use cash and "buy" gals .. get experience 1st . After knowing wat are gals like and etc , u then go pursue a real and longterm r/s ..