advice needed
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hmm hi guys again. i got a problem (but my problem may be abit kiddy n childish so bear wif it). no more fren conflict dis time..thks
i wanna know how to test water?
ard last yr i made a fren online which is frm e same sch as me. she is lower sec while im upper sec. that time i didn't realli tok much to her, but more of just normal say hi on msn and such. ard sometime dis yr, we started tokin about more, but more of the crap tok. lik lame jokes here n there, n comment on whats on tv n such things like that.....during that time i didn't even know hu she is actualli.., n i juz tok cox i was bored..
then slowly i found out hu she is. but gradually, over time ( like say 2-3months?) we started talkin abit more. (more crap actually), but the conversation can last lik....hmmmm almost 2 hours? thats pretty long considering i dun chat wif pple much. then i still didn't have any feelings. zero probably.
we did meet in groups (but it's not the usual outin type, it's lik at a badminton court), but she was playin wif her frens n i was playin wif my own partner. though it's lik arranged n i booked the court (puttin aside cox i was shy,n didn't have feelings at dat time, and also partly level gap). the onli tyme i interact to her is when she pass e money to me..
several days ago, when it was my bd. she just pop infront of my class n gif mi a bd card. though there were no special msgs or anything (some lame comments n just a happi bd). she had 1 fren with her. i was lik "wtf...y gif mi a card "...
though it may be just a card. but i haf errr..never recieved such thing from a girl b4. n so it may be special to me....so somehow becos of this, somehow i instinctively msg her more. sometimes i wud send gd nite msgs for nothing..., reply was quite ok. she reply my msg almost hundred percent of the time, most of the time i started talkin de. but her reply was sometimes enthu lik she was the one dat start the conver...
i also send some "wad u doin, im bored" type of sms. actualli i find it quite xing ku to send dis, cox i feel lik it's lik giving myself away. i always feel lik if i send such sms she wun reply or smth lidat...., but she did....and usually quite immediately....; if she's not stupid she wud realize the frequency of sms has been increased since recently.....n coupled wif these wad u doin smses...i think she roughly gets the idea.
besides all this msn/sms stuff. in reality, not much interaction yet.....
so i nid advice....sometimes i feel quite dumb in dis kind of thing..
shld i just hack care about this person? or shld i continue trying... -
please dont get yr self involved..
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"shld i just hack care about this person? or shld i continue trying..."
I think its obvious by this that you still havent decided or are confused about your feelings for her.The main thing to address here is whether you like her enough in the first place to pursue her.
In any case,go slowly, find out more about her, reveal more about yourself.See how it goes if you're unsure. -
if u got feeling for her or if jz starting to feel something, jz ask her out on dates and know her better... if things r positive, declare ur feelings... tats all...
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Originally posted by Scape_Goat_Token:hmm hi guys again. i got a problem (but my problem may be abit kiddy n childish so bear wif it). no more fren conflict dis time..thks
i wanna know how to test water?
ard last yr i made a fren online which is frm e same sch as me. she is lower sec while im upper sec. that time i didn't realli tok much to her, but more of just normal say hi on msn and such. ard sometime dis yr, we started tokin about more, but more of the crap tok. lik lame jokes here n there, n comment on whats on tv n such things like that.....during that time i didn't even know hu she is actualli.., n i juz tok cox i was bored..
then slowly i found out hu she is. but gradually, over time ( like say 2-3months?) we started talkin abit more. (more crap actually), but the conversation can last lik....hmmmm almost 2 hours? thats pretty long considering i dun chat wif pple much. then i still didn't have any feelings. zero probably.
we did meet in groups (but it's not the usual outin type, it's lik at a badminton court), but she was playin wif her frens n i was playin wif my own partner. though it's lik arranged n i booked the court (puttin aside cox i was shy,n didn't have feelings at dat time, and also partly level gap). the onli tyme i interact to her is when she pass e money to me..
several days ago, when it was my bd. she just pop infront of my class n gif mi a bd card. though there were no special msgs or anything (some lame comments n just a happi bd). she had 1 fren with her. i was lik "wtf...y gif mi a card "...
though it may be just a card. but i haf errr..never recieved such thing from a girl b4. n so it may be special to me....so somehow becos of this, somehow i instinctively msg her more. sometimes i wud send gd nite msgs for nothing..., reply was quite ok. she reply my msg almost hundred percent of the time, most of the time i started talkin de. but her reply was sometimes enthu lik she was the one dat start the conver...
i also send some "wad u doin, im bored" type of sms. actualli i find it quite xing ku to send dis, cox i feel lik it's lik giving myself away. i always feel lik if i send such sms she wun reply or smth lidat...., but she did....and usually quite immediately....; if she's not stupid she wud realize the frequency of sms has been increased since recently.....n coupled wif these wad u doin smses...i think she roughly gets the idea.
besides all this msn/sms stuff. in reality, not much interaction yet.....
so i nid advice....sometimes i feel quite dumb in dis kind of thing..
shld i just hack care about this person? or shld i continue trying...
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bottomline: you like her or not???????
Resistance: what is stopping you from chasing her????
High point: go for her if you like( if she is single) -
Stop for a while. You are upper sec student and she is lower sec student. Solely based on this fact alone, get your priority straight. Finish your education first and you won't go wrong. Why?Originally posted by Scape_Goat_Token:hmm hi guys again. i got a problem (but my problem may be abit kiddy n childish so bear wif it). no more fren conflict dis time..thks
i wanna know how to test water?
ard last yr i made a fren online which is frm e same sch as me. she is lower sec while im upper sec. that time i didn't realli tok much to her, but more of just normal say hi on msn and such. ard sometime dis yr, we started tokin about more, but more of the crap tok. lik lame jokes here n there, n comment on whats on tv n such things like that.....during that time i didn't even know hu she is actualli.., n i juz tok cox i was bored..
then slowly i found out hu she is. but gradually, over time ( like say 2-3months?) we started talkin abit more. (more crap actually), but the conversation can last lik....hmmmm almost 2 hours? thats pretty long considering i dun chat wif pple much. then i still didn't have any feelings. zero probably.
we did meet in groups (but it's not the usual outin type, it's lik at a badminton court), but she was playin wif her frens n i was playin wif my own partner. though it's lik arranged n i booked the court (puttin aside cox i was shy,n didn't have feelings at dat time, and also partly level gap). the onli tyme i interact to her is when she pass e money to me..
several days ago, when it was my bd. she just pop infront of my class n gif mi a bd card. though there were no special msgs or anything (some lame comments n just a happi bd). she had 1 fren with her. i was lik "wtf...y gif mi a card "...
though it may be just a card. but i haf errr..never recieved such thing from a girl b4. n so it may be special to me....so somehow becos of this, somehow i instinctively msg her more. sometimes i wud send gd nite msgs for nothing..., reply was quite ok. she reply my msg almost hundred percent of the time, most of the time i started talkin de. but her reply was sometimes enthu lik she was the one dat start the conver...
i also send some "wad u doin, im bored" type of sms. actualli i find it quite xing ku to send dis, cox i feel lik it's lik giving myself away. i always feel lik if i send such sms she wun reply or smth lidat...., but she did....and usually quite immediately....; if she's not stupid she wud realize the frequency of sms has been increased since recently.....n coupled wif these wad u doin smses...i think she roughly gets the idea.
besides all this msn/sms stuff. in reality, not much interaction yet.....
so i nid advice....sometimes i feel quite dumb in dis kind of thing..
shld i just hack care about this person? or shld i continue trying...
In your conversations with her, there are more craps than substance. If both of you can talk about career, finance, marriage, future, etc., then you can get serious about starting a romantic relationship. Still, I against it if you are still a student in primary, seconday school, junior college and university. You are limiting your interaction to her only instead of interacting with the rest of the gals. Get socially active with everyone, be it guys or gals, so that you are able to understand different social setting. Come handy when start to work. You are creating more financial burden to your parents. Remember, the SMS and internet connection are not totally free of charge? If you pay the bills, then ignore this point. Your relationship would not last long. Why? Refer to my first point and your own statement, "in reality, not much interaction yet.....". It can get serious unless she is very timid or quiet type.
Let me apologise to you beforehand for being frank with you on such matter. -
i think. errr....i shall go for her..
but how? im think i like her...
thnks in advance, sry for short reply.. -
hmm...lower sec ar...should be around 13-14...haiz...how many times i say liao...under 16 just concentrate on making more friends...
please becareful with her...she is only 13-14...