hMz....frankly speaking, your "can't do"s are all my "can do"s........i've no problems with my gf....Originally posted by ~Numb~:Don't know how to describe my feeling...
the past couple of weeks had been....like a monsoon season...
rain for a while, stop...before you know it, it starts to rain again...
Everything was fine in the beginning...as what everyone would call the honeymoon period...
As days and months passes... she felt that some of the things i said, or action that i do are inappopriate.
But to me, i didn't mean any harm...just some silly remarks which i guess didn't amuse her...
But that's me what!!!
i don't understand what the big deal????
To me, should we be allow to be our truest self when we are with someone we love or trust?? Why do i have to confrom myself to her standard???
She said i was like a boy... she doesn't need anybody to tell her when she should sleep, when she should eat...
She's independent! Okay...gotta accept that...
I'm not supposed to say "I miss you" or I love you" as i choose...
as it will devalue the actual meaning of the pharse...
??? strange...
So what am i for???
these days...topics for conversation are getting less and less...
she aint as accommdating as she was in the start...
So fellow forumers...
i ask out to you ppl for some help...
i really love this gal...
and i don't wanna this r/s to fail...just because of what i have type above..
if possible i'm will to change to fit into her...but i guess ~Numb~ will be lost this way...
Hai...help pls...
Talk to her. Tell her you're feeling restricted by not being express yourself emotionally.Originally posted by ~Numb~:Don't know how to describe my feeling...
the past couple of weeks had been....like a monsoon season...
rain for a while, stop...before you know it, it starts to rain again...
Everything was fine in the beginning...as what everyone would call the honeymoon period...
As days and months passes... she felt that some of the things i said, or action that i do are inappopriate.
But to me, i didn't mean any harm...just some silly remarks which i guess didn't amuse her...
But that's me what!!!
i don't understand what the big deal????
To me, should we be allow to be our truest self when we are with someone we love or trust?? Why do i have to confrom myself to her standard???
She said i was like a boy... she doesn't need anybody to tell her when she should sleep, when she should eat...
She's independent! Okay...gotta accept that...
I'm not supposed to say "I miss you" or I love you" as i choose...
as it will devalue the actual meaning of the pharse...
??? strange...
So what am i for???
these days...topics for conversation are getting less and less...
she aint as accommdating as she was in the start...
So fellow forumers...
i ask out to you ppl for some help...
i really love this gal...
and i don't wanna this r/s to fail...just because of what i have type above..
if possible i'm will to change to fit into her...but i guess ~Numb~ will be lost this way...
Hai...help pls...
People you meet? Problems you meet at work? Maybe both of you can find a common hobby / take up a course that both of you are interested in. This way can spend time more constructively and have more things to talk about.Originally posted by ~Numb~:the problem is, there seems like there isn't much that's happening in my life to be talking about..
What's there to talk about?
Mundune working hours?
Nothing interesting about my work
night class Lessons after work...
She doesn't like to plan ahead for the weekend either..
Prefer to wait till the day den decide what to do...
By then, half the day is gone liao...
Really a loss of word, whenever i'm on the phone with her...
to the extnd of long unbearable slience...
Something which i don't like at all....
Argh....
Any other tips from the fourmers...
Thanks
She doesn't want to plan ahead for weekend doesn't mean you can't do the plannings yourself what...? When the time comes then suggest to her lor... If she not comfotrable with your ideas then let her suggest lor...Originally posted by ~Numb~:the problem is, there seems like there isn't much that's happening in my life to be talking about..
What's there to talk about?
Mundune working hours?
Nothing interesting about my work
night class Lessons after work...
She doesn't like to plan ahead for the weekend either..
Prefer to wait till the day den decide what to do...
By then, half the day is gone liao...
Really a loss of word, whenever i'm on the phone with her...
to the extnd of long unbearable slience...
Something which i don't like at all....
Argh....
Any other tips from the fourmers...
Thanks
Seems like your relationship has got quite a weak foundationOriginally posted by ~Numb~:how we met?
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=162692
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