Feeling a bit loss with my gal
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Don't know how to describe my feeling...
the past couple of weeks had been....like a monsoon season...
rain for a while, stop...before you know it, it starts to rain again...
Everything was fine in the beginning...as what everyone would call the honeymoon period...
As days and months passes... she felt that some of the things i said, or action that i do are inappopriate.
But to me, i didn't mean any harm...just some silly remarks which i guess didn't amuse her...
But that's me what!!!
i don't understand what the big deal????
To me, should we be allow to be our truest self when we are with someone we love or trust?? Why do i have to confrom myself to her standard???
She said i was like a boy... she doesn't need anybody to tell her when she should sleep, when she should eat...
She's independent! Okay...gotta accept that...
I'm not supposed to say "I miss you" or I love you" as i choose...
as it will devalue the actual meaning of the pharse...
??? strange...
So what am i for???
these days...topics for conversation are getting less and less...
she aint as accommdating as she was in the start...
So fellow forumers...
i ask out to you ppl for some help...
i really love this gal...
and i don't wanna this r/s to fail...just because of what i have type above..
if possible i'm will to change to fit into her...but i guess ~Numb~ will be lost this way...
Hai...help pls... -
hMz....frankly speaking, your "can't do"s are all my "can do"s........i've no problems with my gf....Originally posted by ~Numb~:Don't know how to describe my feeling...
the past couple of weeks had been....like a monsoon season...
rain for a while, stop...before you know it, it starts to rain again...
Everything was fine in the beginning...as what everyone would call the honeymoon period...
As days and months passes... she felt that some of the things i said, or action that i do are inappopriate.
But to me, i didn't mean any harm...just some silly remarks which i guess didn't amuse her...
But that's me what!!!
i don't understand what the big deal????
To me, should we be allow to be our truest self when we are with someone we love or trust?? Why do i have to confrom myself to her standard???
She said i was like a boy... she doesn't need anybody to tell her when she should sleep, when she should eat...
She's independent! Okay...gotta accept that...
I'm not supposed to say "I miss you" or I love you" as i choose...
as it will devalue the actual meaning of the pharse...
??? strange...
So what am i for???
these days...topics for conversation are getting less and less...
she aint as accommdating as she was in the start...
So fellow forumers...
i ask out to you ppl for some help...
i really love this gal...
and i don't wanna this r/s to fail...just because of what i have type above..
if possible i'm will to change to fit into her...but i guess ~Numb~ will be lost this way...
Hai...help pls...
I would sugguest that you just take it lightly....something's not too right abt this r/s.....abit unbalance....so, take it lightly 1st n take a step at a time.. -
Talk to her. Tell her you're feeling restricted by not being express yourself emotionally.Originally posted by ~Numb~:Don't know how to describe my feeling...
the past couple of weeks had been....like a monsoon season...
rain for a while, stop...before you know it, it starts to rain again...
Everything was fine in the beginning...as what everyone would call the honeymoon period...
As days and months passes... she felt that some of the things i said, or action that i do are inappopriate.
But to me, i didn't mean any harm...just some silly remarks which i guess didn't amuse her...
But that's me what!!!
i don't understand what the big deal????
To me, should we be allow to be our truest self when we are with someone we love or trust?? Why do i have to confrom myself to her standard???
She said i was like a boy... she doesn't need anybody to tell her when she should sleep, when she should eat...
She's independent! Okay...gotta accept that...
I'm not supposed to say "I miss you" or I love you" as i choose...
as it will devalue the actual meaning of the pharse...
??? strange...
So what am i for???
these days...topics for conversation are getting less and less...
she aint as accommdating as she was in the start...
So fellow forumers...
i ask out to you ppl for some help...
i really love this gal...
and i don't wanna this r/s to fail...just because of what i have type above..
if possible i'm will to change to fit into her...but i guess ~Numb~ will be lost this way...
Hai...help pls...
If all else fails, dump her. -
she dun like u to use sweet words. Just tell her u dun care how many devalued those words are, cos it comes straight frm ur heart
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Ever heard the song 'More than words'?
Dont be discouraged. Think about how you can show her your affection in ways that are 'more than words'. It isn't about not being 'true' to yourself but in understand what she needs as well. As for topics to talk about, just talk to her about your day too, how you feel, what you see - and not just ask about her. Sharing is important - not just giving. -
the problem is, there seems like there isn't much that's happening in my life to be talking about..
What's there to talk about?
Mundune working hours?
Nothing interesting about my work
night class Lessons after work...
She doesn't like to plan ahead for the weekend either..
Prefer to wait till the day den decide what to do...
By then, half the day is gone liao...
Really a loss of word, whenever i'm on the phone with her...
to the extnd of long unbearable slience...
Something which i don't like at all....
Argh....
Any other tips from the fourmers...
Thanks -
People you meet? Problems you meet at work? Maybe both of you can find a common hobby / take up a course that both of you are interested in. This way can spend time more constructively and have more things to talk about.Originally posted by ~Numb~:the problem is, there seems like there isn't much that's happening in my life to be talking about..
What's there to talk about?
Mundune working hours?
Nothing interesting about my work
night class Lessons after work...
She doesn't like to plan ahead for the weekend either..
Prefer to wait till the day den decide what to do...
By then, half the day is gone liao...
Really a loss of word, whenever i'm on the phone with her...
to the extnd of long unbearable slience...
Something which i don't like at all....
Argh....
Any other tips from the fourmers...
Thanks
And I think if on the phone until nothing to talk about already, just put down until you want to talk to her/she wants to talk to you. Don't slam down the phone lah.. just say you will call her back to say goodnight, now need to do something etc etc. -
She doesn't want to plan ahead for weekend doesn't mean you can't do the plannings yourself what...? When the time comes then suggest to her lor... If she not comfotrable with your ideas then let her suggest lor...Originally posted by ~Numb~:the problem is, there seems like there isn't much that's happening in my life to be talking about..
What's there to talk about?
Mundune working hours?
Nothing interesting about my work
night class Lessons after work...
She doesn't like to plan ahead for the weekend either..
Prefer to wait till the day den decide what to do...
By then, half the day is gone liao...
Really a loss of word, whenever i'm on the phone with her...
to the extnd of long unbearable slience...
Something which i don't like at all....
Argh....
Any other tips from the fourmers...
Thanks
Find something interesting in your life (which you think might interest her or at least strike up conversations)... If you really such a boring guy and you RESIGN TO IT, then there's nothing much I can say also already right...?
Talk of topics you might wanna talk about or share with her the next time before you engage on the phone with her... If nothing to say then just hang up lah... Long quiet phone sessions are weird...
Oh... Btw, how did both of ya got together in the 1st place
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how we met?
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=162692
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think u didnt know her well enough before getting attached?
well, im facing a somehow similar situation like u
so i cant give much advice too..
i guess take things easy and don overrush is the key? -
well...try to surprise her and add some spice to your relationship...
little surprises will always bring life to a dull relationship...
you asked her whats wrong? -
Seems like your relationship has got quite a weak foundationOriginally posted by ~Numb~:how we met?
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=162692
here... -
Everyone gets bored of doing one thing / seeing one person all the time.
You can't expect your partner to entertain you all the time (and vice versa). Spend enough time meaningfully together and then get on with your own lives. -
Hiaz what is called woman ..
Go and analysis first. -
relationships also need a holiday ......
go do something u enjoy personally .......
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Get a new girlfriend.
Or,
Be single. -
Dude, u sound soooo serious. Live a little. u know what I mean?