She's / He's attached
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Recently i had a couple of friends who are interested in girls who are already attached to bfs for like 2 years or so... Some times it's the girl who make the initiative to know my friend.
Im just wondering what are the chances of them succeeding in winning the girls over. Does a rocky, insecure relationship result in a easier target for third parties? Anybody with any similar experiences care to share? I presume there are more people who failed than those who succeed... Please share your experiences. Girls, please shed some light for us guys as well. Thanks
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If the relationship is unstable, yes.Originally posted by hypercurry:Recently i had a couple of friends who are interested in girls who are already attached to bfs for like 2 years or so... Some times it's the girl who make the initiative to know my friend.
Im just wondering what are the chances of them succeeding in winning the girls over. Does a rocky, insecure relationship result in a easier target for third parties?
If it's not, then no.
One more thing.. people who play the role of the "third-party" deserves to be slapped on their faces.. and make it a tight one
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err..... i personally dun like complicated things.... so, just 2 is enough in a relationship.... 3's a crowd....
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It appears that when the third party tries to make a move on the attached person, he/she end up having more to lose. The third party is always there to pick up the broken pieces.
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Recently i had a couple of friends who are interested in girls who are already attached to bfs for like 2 years or so... Some times it's the girl who make the initiative to know my friend.
I think that girl like companion and people who share sweert memory with them. They like to make friends. Depend how close u are to the girl. There sure got chance one cause may find u interesting.
Im just wondering what are the chances of them succeeding in winning the girls over. Does a rocky, insecure relationship result in a easier target for third parties? Anybody with any similar experiences care to share? I presume there are more people who failed than those who succeed... Please share your experiences. Girls, please shed some light for us guys as well. Thanks
Got chance one! -
Wah gua chia ah?
Come from behind? -
I think if you're too close with the girl, you'll end up as the spare tire friend. She'll only come to u when she got probs/ quarrels with her guy.
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yes yes,but most people do not mind just being spare tire friends..at least it's better than not friends at allOriginally posted by hypercurry:I think if you're too close with the girl, you'll end up as the spare tire friend. She'll only come to u when she got probs/ quarrels with her guy. -
the girl could be juz friendly and sociable.
If she's happily attached, it's quite impossible to win her heart. -
A friend is a friend, spare tire or not.Originally posted by hypercurry:I think if you're too close with the girl, you'll end up as the spare tire friend. She'll only come to u when she got probs/ quarrels with her guy. -
Do not do something to someone which you don't want done to yourself.
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maybe she's hanging on to her bf while waitin for a better guy to come by.
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Third party got nothing to lose and everything to gain... thick-skinned enough can liao.
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x2Originally posted by mamamamama:If the relationship is unstable, yes.
If it's not, then no.
One more thing.. people who play the role of the "third-party" deserves to be slapped on their faces.. and make it a tight one 
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Originally posted by hypercurry:Recently i had a couple of friends who are interested in girls who are already attached to bfs for like 2 years or so... Some times it's the girl who make the initiative to know my friend.
Im just wondering what are the chances of them succeeding in winning the girls over. Does a rocky, insecure relationship result in a easier target for third parties? Anybody with any similar experiences care to share? I presume there are more people who failed than those who succeed... Please share your experiences. Girls, please shed some light for us guys as well. Thanks 
Actually most of the time, the relationship is unstable itself and not the introduction of a third party.
Then if a third party occurs and shaken the relationship, despite being a strong relationship, it has to be the man/woman who is shaken to allow the relationship to be shaken isn't it?
In the end, it is either the man or the woman who GAVE the relationship up to pursue a different relationship that causes the relationship to fail through freewill.
They chose it that way.
Who is to be blame?
Third party or person who is shaken?
Catalysis by itself has no power to command. Like always: a perfectly satisfied woman cannot be seduced. An unstable relationship is from within: fix what is needed to repair and you don't have to fear.
P.S: When a man/woman desired to break free from their relationship through freewill, they would - with or without a third party.
Because they chose it.
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the gal getting to noe them dun mean she is interested in them.... unless she got a very rubbish relationship then chances are there... otherwise they can expect the same old words of rejection... tell them to wake up la...Originally posted by hypercurry:Recently i had a couple of friends who are interested in girls who are already attached to bfs for like 2 years or so... Some times it's the girl who make the initiative to know my friend.
Im just wondering what are the chances of them succeeding in winning the girls over. Does a rocky, insecure relationship result in a easier target for third parties? Anybody with any similar experiences care to share? I presume there are more people who failed than those who succeed... Please share your experiences. Girls, please shed some light for us guys as well. Thanks -
x10000000000Originally posted by alexkusu:maybe she's hanging on to her bf while waitin for a better guy to come by.
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Personally i feel that as long as a couple is not married, the words 'cheating' and 'third party' should not even come into the picture. After all, either party has absolutely no obligation towards each other as far as 'fidelity' is concerned.
What's the purpose of chaining someone up when the couple is not even married? You'll just make him an unhappy man for the rest of his life. There may be someone out there who is much more suited to be his lifelong partner. If you really love him, you should set him free and wish him happiness... and not be selfish and put people down as 'unfaithful', 'third party' etc etc -
wow..u seems to be a victim before....Originally posted by mamamamama:If the relationship is unstable, yes.
If it's not, then no.
One more thing.. people who play the role of the "third-party" deserves to be slapped on their faces.. and make it a tight one -
all is fair in love and war.
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Generally quite true.... But actually... There're more to it.... Actually most of the time, the relationship is unstable itself and not the introduction of a third party.
Then if a third party occurs and shaken the relationship, despite being a strong relationship, it has to be the man/woman who is shaken to allow the relationship to be shaken isn't it?
In the end, it is either the man or the woman who GAVE the relationship up to pursue a different relationship that causes the relationship to fail through freewill.
They chose it that way.
Who is to be blame?
Third party or person who is shaken?
Catalysis by itself has no power to command. Like always: [b]a perfectly satisfied woman cannot be seduced. An unstable relationship is from within: fix what is needed to repair and you don't have to fear.
P.S: When a man/woman desired to break free from their relationship through freewill, they would - with or without a third party.
Because they chose it.
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Sure bo? Then might as well don't say 'bf,gf'. Attach means nothing,no obligation! She is yr gf but next moment can hug and kiss another guy? It is not abt chaining up someone but the word 'commitment'! U have already give a verbal promise, a promise in a mature r/s is not child play! LIke what u say,married liao can also having a divorce like eating a sweet easily? An oligation not easily broken and not given up easily! Both needs effort to make things work. A r/s purely works on love is very dangerous..Originally posted by cornyfish2000:Personally i feel that as long as a couple is not married, the words 'cheating' and 'third party' should not even come into the picture. After all, either party has absolutely no obligation towards each other as far as 'fidelity' is concerned. What's the purpose of chaining someone up when the couple is not even married? You'll just make him an unhappy man for the rest of his life. There may be someone out there who is much more suited to be his lifelong partner. If you really love him, you should set him free and wish him happiness... and not be selfish and put people down as 'unfaithful', 'third party' etc etc -
I just believe that marriage, is just a word, and a unduanted and unnesscessary process.Originally posted by cornyfish2000:Personally i feel that as long as a couple is not married, the words 'cheating' and 'third party' should not even come into the picture. After all, either party has absolutely no obligation towards each other as far as 'fidelity' is concerned.
What's the purpose of chaining someone up when the couple is not even married? You'll just make him an unhappy man for the rest of his life. There may be someone out there who is much more suited to be his lifelong partner. If you really love him, you should set him free and wish him happiness... and not be selfish and put people down as 'unfaithful', 'third party' etc etc
Due to things happening now a these days, divorce and seperations.
Its just like saying I need to do some ritual before anything can happen, you guys know what I mean ?
Sometimes, Its a important process that makes one go through to have a great memory about, yes but, if some people just want that memory for a past and move on with a different future this is just like syaing you're just gonna be watching a movie and you're done, you just move off leaving your pop corns and drinks in the theatre.
In those days without marriage and legal stuff or any ceremonies,
You mean ladies just go for any man at any moment ?
I just believe that being together is just a word,
and to prove your together you must prove it with your heart not jsut words or actions that only meant to be for the moment.
If you really want to spend your life with a girl/guy you love,
then get married, to share the wonderful memory.
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here's my belief.
If you are attached and unhappy, it's up to u to fix the relationship or give up. my advice is NOT to give up your partner just because someone new, more exciting, seemingly better has showed his/her interest. but to evaluate if what you and your current partner have is worth holding on to or is that pointless.
If you are interested in a gal/guy who's attached (as in really really really like her/him) then it's up to u to fight for the person you love. no one can tell you wat you are doing is wrong (unless the person in question is MARRIED). BUT think about it from this angle, If the gal/guy u like is having problems with her/his partner, and she/he decides to give up her/his partner and be with you... What happens when you two meet up with problems (what relationships have no problems?) and someone else starts wooing her? will you be able to trust her/him not to run off?
cornyfish2000: I agree that as long as they are not married, anybody is free to woo her/him. but as the party that's attached, I believe there's a mutual understanding between me and my bf. as long as we are attached, we will not date, or get involved with anyone else. If I really want out of the relationship, I'll break up first before even considering another relationship -
My thoughts exactly... Do not do onto others what u do not wan happen to urself...Originally posted by smudgey:here's my belief.
If you are attached and unhappy, it's up to u to fix the relationship or give up. my advice is NOT to give up your partner just because someone new, more exciting, seemingly better has showed his/her interest. but to evaluate if what you and your current partner have is worth holding on to or is that pointless.
If you are interested in a gal/guy who's attached (as in really really really like her/him) then it's up to u to fight for the person you love. no one can tell you wat you are doing is wrong (unless the person in question is MARRIED). BUT think about it from this angle, If the gal/guy u like is having problems with her/his partner, and she/he decides to give up her/his partner and be with you... What happens when you two meet up with problems (what relationships have no problems?) and someone else starts wooing her? will you be able to trust her/him not to run off?
The gal that I like will get together with another guy real soon... Am I going to intrude and cause them to split? Or even if they dun, cause her much misetry in the process? DEFINITELY NO... I feel terrible, but better one to feel terrible than two...
If a person really loves another, he/she should learn to let go. Leave the happy couple alone.
I love her, I really do... I wun ever do anything to cause her misery...