What would you want Out fo a relationship ?
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notice that i mentioned that my goal is to see my r/s (with my current gf) get stronger each day. i didn't say i want it to be perfect.Originally posted by Sekundes:^^, Wells its a nice thought from you....
i guess missqi would like a bf like you
you strive for a perfect relationship knowing that there is no perfection in the relationship.
i also mentioned that unconditional love is a necessary ingredient when u love somebody, heart, body and soul, regardless of their faults.
unconditional love does not equal to perfect love. it is a pity that these days people practice conditional love. i love u because u r this and that and yada yada...
love is not a because for it can't be measured.
i hope i clarified this profound thoughts to u all who replied.
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as i've already mentioned, i dun strive for perfection in a r/s. rather i strive for happiness by putting in the effort each day.Originally posted by missqi:Ya true.
But is Gwengetto male or female?
I'm too lazy to chk out his/her profile.
Lol.
In any case it is not our ideal prson whom we fall in love with, most of the time, if not, most of our r/s wouldst be perfect eh.
no r/s is without struggles, arguments, or conflicts. but i believe that both parties should be understanding and mature enuff to know what love is all about and also, know how to handle situations together with their significant other.
without a clear purpose of where ur r/s is going, is not going to make it last either. -
Originally posted by Gwangetto:
Wait.
as i've already mentioned, i dun strive for perfection in a r/s. rather i strive for happiness by putting in the effort each day.
no r/s is without struggles, arguments, or conflicts. but i believe that both parties should be understanding and mature enuff to know what love is all about and also, know how to handle situations together with their significant other.
[b]without a clear purpose of where ur r/s is going, is not going to make it last either.[/b]
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in order to see where the r/s is going one must understand its purpose.Originally posted by missqi:Wait.
Elaborate.
what's ur purpose of getting into r/s?
is it to prepare urself for marriage?
is it to fill up ur emptiness inside u?
is it to make u whole again?
is it just for the fun of sex?
there'll be many intentions and purposes but one must get it clear wad his/her purpose of getting into the r/s in the first place and whether his/her character is mature enuff to determine the fate of the r/s.
one may get his/her purpose right in the first place.. but one's character may not be mature enuff to step into a r/s just yet.
what's worse, is that one is stepping into a r/s just to cure the loneliness one's having inside him/her. that's very dangerous. it's something like moving along in a r/s w/o a clear mindset of why they r in it in the first place.
another worse scenario is when one step into a r/s just to try it out first. u dun step into a r/s until u r very sure that person is suitable for u or meet ur criterias. many pple just rush in and get themselves hurt. that's another aimless move. it's like going thru a blind date.
in conclusion, ur objective of being in a r/s must be right and pure. if a r/s is built upon trust, faith and purity, it will last.. for a long time. -
Yet the feeling you give us, is that you strive for the perfection,Originally posted by Gwangetto:notice that i mentioned that my goal is to see my r/s (with my current gf) get stronger each day. i didn't say i want it to be [b]perfect.
i also mentioned that unconditional love is a necessary ingredient when u love somebody, heart, body and soul, regardless of their faults.
unconditional love does not equal to perfect love. it is a pity that these days people practice conditional love. i love u because u r this and that and yada yada...
love is not a because for it can't be measured.
i hope i clarified this profound thoughts to u all who replied.
[/b][/quote]Originally posted by Gwangetto:
as i've already mentioned, i dun strive for perfection in a r/s. rather i strive for happiness by putting in the effort each day.
no r/s is without struggles, arguments, or conflicts. but i believe that both parties should be understanding and mature enuff to know what love is all about and also, know how to handle situations together with their significant other.
without a clear purpose of where ur r/s is going, is not going to make it last either.
Though I didn't say unconditional Love is a requirement for perfect love,
if there is one. =)
Perfection lies in our heart,
Perfection of such circumstances can never be measured by anyone but only thy self.
Somethings are meant to be, its meant to be.
I believe that only thing perfect in this world is the imperfection.
But what it meant to me would eventually be memory of a time.
[quote]Originally posted by Gwangetto:
in order to see where the r/s is going one must understand its purpose.
what's ur purpose of getting into r/s?
is it to prepare urself for marriage?
is it to fill up ur emptiness inside u?
is it to make u whole again?
is it just for the fun of sex?
there'll be many intentions and purposes but one must get it clear wad his/her purpose of getting into the r/s in the first place and whether his/her character is mature enuff to determine the fate of the r/s.
one may get his/her purpose right in the first place.. but one's character may not be mature enuff to step into a r/s just yet.
what's worse, is that one is stepping into a r/s just to cure the loneliness one's having inside him/her. that's very dangerous. it's something like moving along in a r/s w/o a clear mindset of why they r in it in the first place.
another worse scenario is when one step into a r/s just to [b]try it out first. u dun step into a r/s until u r very sure that person is suitable for u or meet ur criterias. many pple just rush in and get themselves hurt. that's another aimless move. it's like going thru a blind date.
in conclusion, ur objective of being in a r/s must be right and pure. if a r/s is built upon trust, faith and purity, it will last.. for a long time.[/b]Yet Its not always these criterias aren't it ?
These things can't be explained,
The purpose,
Bad or good,
Works either way.
Because,
We are not the ones having the situation.
We can only agree that the method we did works,
If it worked.
I don't think it for lasting,
But for happiness.
Maybe ? =) -
u've got ur points.Originally posted by Sekundes:Yet Its not always these criterias aren't it ?
These things can't be explained,
The purpose,
Bad or good,
Works either way.
Because,
We are not the ones having the situation.
We can only agree that the method we did works,
If it worked.
I don't think it for lasting,
But for happiness.
Maybe ? =)
well, we'll never know if my method will work unless both parties share common ground and compromise upon their values.
it takes two hands to clap.
therefore, before getting into a r/s, one must first seek to get to know the person better first. That's when communication comes in. Constant and correct form of communication is an effort we need to make, in order for the r/s to last, isn't it?
okay, so i'm giving the feeling to u guys that i'm striving for perfection in love.
hmm... but then if no one makes the effort, who will?
happiness cannot be earned without seeking. and to make a r/s last, one must continue to sow in the seeds of love, trust, kindness and purity.
i noticed that many people start to "slack" when they're in a r/s. that will take them somewhere, but not somewhere far. if one expects a r/s to last, he/she must put in the effort each day to communicate, to spend time with, to enjoy the presense of, and to love each other, but most importantly, one must constantly improve themselves.
although a couple might be married for years and you think that their r/s lasted. in fact, they themselves might be having agonies and issues unresolved. why? it could be the lack of proper communication and level of compromise.
or perhaps, the guy starts to "slack" (simple eg. the way he dresses when he goes out with his wife/gf). guys will tend to slack more, unfortunately.
there can be many issues.. when there's no effort being put in to the r/s.
lastly, i believe that everyone of us deserve to be loved, if not, to the fullest. because each one of us has a value in us. so, if u love somebody, go and love them wholeheartedly when u know that person loves u too. learn to cherish the r/s and never fail to plant surprises, which may be of good help to further enhance the r/s. -
Well you got all the point down for a great relationship.Originally posted by Gwangetto:u've got ur points.
well, we'll never know if my method will work unless both parties share common ground and compromise upon their values.
it takes two hands to clap.
therefore, before getting into a r/s, one must first seek to get to know the person better first. That's when communication comes in. Constant and correct form of communication is an effort we need to make, in order for the r/s to last, isn't it?
okay, so i'm giving the feeling to u guys that i'm striving for perfection in love.
hmm... but then if no one makes the effort, who will?
happiness cannot be earned without seeking. and to make a r/s last, one must continue to sow in the seeds of love, trust, kindness and purity.
i noticed that many people start to "slack" when they're in a r/s. that will take them somewhere, but not somewhere far. if one expects a r/s to last, he/she must put in the effort each day to communicate, to spend time with, to enjoy the presense of, and to love each other, but most importantly, one must constantly improve themselves.
although a couple might be married for years and you think that their r/s lasted. in fact, they themselves might be having agonies and issues unresolved. why? it could be the lack of proper communication and level of compromise.
or perhaps, the guy starts to "slack" (simple eg. the way he dresses when he goes out with his wife/gf). guys will tend to slack more, unfortunately.
there can be many issues.. when there's no effort being put in to the r/s.
lastly, i believe that everyone of us deserve to be loved, if not, to the fullest. because each one of us has a value in us. so, if u love somebody, go and love them wholeheartedly when u know that person loves u too. learn to cherish the r/s and never fail to plant surprises, which may be of good help to further enhance the r/s.
=)
Still u're right if you don't who will?
The value of being loved is also important for everyone.
Not just a singular.
What can the results be of loving someone ?
No one knows or can tell.
But,
If you dared to love,
Then you dare to believe that you will be loved back.
Right ?
=)
Yea I see your point in saying the slacking in the relationship.
Some people slack cause they don't find the need to do the same of things,
They deem it boring.
Yet, They don't realise its not boring for them even though they think so.
Sometimes, give somethings a try but knowing whether it is the right thing or not. =)
Nice points you have there Gwangetto =D -
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To all contributors.
Thanks for the quality discussion and sharing of in depth personal views.
Hope to see this thread and contributors work further on this kind of issues/topics.
Once again, this thread is great. -
Hmmm.. Long time no see MC =)Originally posted by M©+square::: applause ::
To all contributors.
Thanks for the quality discussion and sharing of in depth personal views.
Hope to see this thread and contributors work further on this kind of issues/topics.
Once again, this thread is great.
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Happiness everyday.Originally posted by Sekundes:What would you guys and girls want ?
Sex ?
A Happy Ending ?
Money ?
Comfort ?
Or security ?
So what will be the only thing that most people want ?
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actually i realised, i don't want somebody to love anymore. i've got too many. i want somebody to return my love.
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Originally posted by HENG@:actually i realised, i don't want somebody to love anymore. i've got too many. i want somebody to return my love.
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What do I want... hmm....
Perhaps someone who can mentally bond with me.
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the question is simple, really.
and my answer is simple too.
a place where i can be myself. -
A place?Originally posted by starblue:the question is simple, really.
and my answer is simple too.
a place where i can be myself. 
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a relationship is a place, in a very abstract way.Originally posted by Devil1976:A place? or you could see it this way: i want a guy with him i can be myself. -
You mean with your previous ex.(s), you can't be yourself?Originally posted by starblue:a relationship is a place, in a very abstract way. or you could see it this way: i want a guy with him i can be myself. -
I think I know someone who can do that after yesterday's outing...Originally posted by Boo777:What do I want... hmm....
Perhaps someone who can mentally bond with me.