Help, Problems in relationship
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haha.. So irritating.. yesterday she came my hse and slept with me again.. i just dun understand if she doesn't loves me.. she slept with me for wat? she never 'slept' with her previous ex before.. that ex she loves more than me.. just felt being used.. haha.. anyway.. we didn't patch.. she still say the same thing.. she loves her ex.. i'm giving her time i think..
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Personally... I think you're not that ready for this relationship yet...?Originally posted by ElvYanE:haha.. So irritating.. yesterday she came my hse and slept with me again.. i just dun understand if she doesn't loves me.. she slept with me for wat? she never 'slept' with her previous ex before.. that ex she loves more than me.. just felt being used.. haha.. anyway.. we didn't patch.. she still say the same thing.. she loves her ex.. i'm giving her time i think..
Don't compare yourself to her ex... Don't question and ask her... When you can't let go, how do you expect her to let go...?
If you wants to be with her, you should learn to slowly walk her out of her past... Not to push her back into her dilema... -
Been following up on your story
Something which caught my attention today is:
1. She feels sian so she went to play games while you continue doing the project
2. She says she'll consider giving the relationship another chance if you pass the next maths test
You mentioned you were a top scorer before the recent test which you failed. It seems to me that she would have an advantage in her academics if she is with you. I'm not going to use the term "making use of you" because it is too strong, but perhaps I would say its a milder version of it.
To me, it appears that she is one confused girl. She does have feelings for you, but only to this limited extent. She clearly have not gotten over her past relationship at all, and is definitely not ready to begin a new one fairly. Bad timing bah.
Another point is that she can go and meet her ex whenever she wants, but you mentioned she smsed you b4 going malaysia "no drink no call girl". I mean, she can go meet guys she have feelings for but you cannot even call girls? From this, either she is selfish or insecure. Not criticising her though, I would say most of us are selfish when it comes to this right? But not even calling, has this gone too far?
I think she knows very well your love for her. She is not blind. She can clearly see what you are doing for her. Knowing the fact that you can't bear to leave her, in the words, not afraid to lose you, she doesn't cherish or treat you like she should.
My advice would be to leave her for a while. Certain times you just have to be harsh. If you continue to let her "bully" you, this will drag on and will get no where de. But I know it is hard to let go. I've been trying to do the same for the past few months too, but still can't bear to. I believe, one day, when you have reached a limit and can take it no longer, suddenly wakeup and see the whole picture rationally, you will do what you ought to do. Good Luck! -
Sorry to say that but nowsaday people sleep with one another not mainly for love.Originally posted by ElvYanE:haha.. So irritating.. yesterday she came my hse and slept with me again.. i just dun understand if she doesn't loves me.. she slept with me for wat? she never 'slept' with her previous ex before.. that ex she loves more than me.. just felt being used.. haha.. anyway.. we didn't patch.. she still say the same thing.. she loves her ex.. i'm giving her time i think..
Although it don't apply to me but I realise this is the trend now. -
Originally posted by ElvYanE:Her SMS(11:23pm 14may06) >>> Miss u "hubby". GO eat ya. no problem
Her SMS(14:11pm 16may06) >>> OK hubby... Why headache...Wan sleep?i at ubi le...
Her SMS(00:57pm 17may06) >>> I Sleep le.Night honey...Miss ya Muacks
Her SMS(00:49am 19may06) >>> Dear I can't Sleep Missed u
Her SMS(15:19PM 19may06) >>> Don't wan lo.I'm sorry too i shouldn't have lose temper den some times i reali don't feel lyk saying.I feel so fan by him(her ex) hope you understand =)
Her SMS(19:42pm 24may06) >>> You on line lo i go on line and eat ok... You can choose not be to tied. haha You're MINE
Her SMS(19:38pm 24may06) >>> I reach home le.On line?so sad people tie me down le.lo.
Her SMS(21:14pm 25may06) >>> Ok lo dear. Haiz I missed u. All yr fault!
HER SMS(19:07PM 29may06) >>> I'll go home a bit late.I go look for him awhile i promise to be ok.No problem.Reach home before 830.Don't worry << she reaches home 10+
SMS from her(18:35 03june06) >>> I haven go in(malaysia).Going soon...I realise something i miss u.Don go too late go home k. no drink no call girl.
SMS from her(19:44 03june06) >>> Please don worry.I'll cal u tomorrow.I got no roaming and forget bring malaysia card. So anyTHING tomorrow say k?Go home early ya.Love ya.Now go in le.
SMS From her(00:58am 060606) >>> You don't realise how long i've been with him how much i love him how long i long him.
SMS To her(00:59am 060606) >>> I know... But doesn't it mean being with that person long enough Can compensate the fact that he slapped you? If yes, there wouldn't be a love existing in you life.
U how old liao??? Still believe these kinda sh!Ts? Have you realised that even inside Msia, we still can receive signals from Singtel, M1, n SH??? Not to even say, JB customs....my M1 signal still can be reached after 10mins of driving away from JB customs.. -
Haha...screw her lar !! farcking lame excuse ! hunt for another gal !!
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lol wat nonsense sia.. if u pass maths test den be CONSIDER to be wif u.. den next time wat? if ur GPA 4.0 den be wif u.. NONSENSE NONSENSE NONSENSE..
hav u jus woke up from ur dreams? if u haven can pls freakin wake up now!