one moment to down the ups
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just when i thought i was getting better, with a thicker, longer, fuller set of hair, i had to step into the salon with a false sense of confidence, and emerged with a shabby frizzy hairdo only to gain further sympathy from my best friend in the style of mad shrieking laughter the moment she saw me. to make things worse my best guy friend sent me home tonight, i havent seen him for so long because i always felt my ugliness would make him think little of me, but tonight i risked a chance, and he broke to me the news via sms the moment we said bye that he just got attached, and that he didnt know how to break it to me earlier on.
most people think im very confident on the outside so they can tell me the ugly truth plainly and bluntly, but at night and at home and in fact in the dusty corners of my soul most of the time i feel broken and shaken by the honesty of their words.
this morning i left a pretty person but came home feeling ugly inside out. its really not just about the hair.
most of the time i wish people could lie to me more often, and tell me how beautiful i am. -
Are looks really important? blah blah blah yada yada yada.
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sorry, but. NPNT.
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Isn't it better that people are honest to you? It beats having them act like everything's fine in front of you, only to make you look like a fool when they start to whisper bad things behind your back.
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not really talking about looks, at any rate... i think words make people feel uglier than they really are.Originally posted by Takumi2eLimit:Are looks really important? blah blah blah yada yada yada. -
prolly so. being appreciative doesnt mean the words dont hurt.Originally posted by MooKu:Isn't it better that people are honest to you? It beats having them act like everything's fine in front of you, only to make you look like a fool when they start to whisper bad things behind your back. -
as the chinese saying goes, good medicine is bitter.Originally posted by onewingedangel:prolly so. being appreciative doesnt mean the words dont hurt.
learn to USE those comments to your advantage instead of dwelling in how painful it is to hear them. A tree isn't useful because it's a tree, it's useful because we know how to make use of it. -
teach me how to use the mad laughter directed at me, and coming from my close friend.. in the middle of a shopping center. i know i'll get over it cos its such a minute matter, i just dont see how i can ever laugh at my friend in that way.Originally posted by MooKu:as the chinese saying goes, good medicine is bitter.
learn to USE those comments to your advantage instead of dwelling in how painful it is to hear them. A tree isn't useful because it's a tree, it's useful because we know how to make use of it.
thanks nway
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life is full of both Ups and Downs..
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I suppose it's a blessing in disguise(even if it doesn't seem so on the surface) to have true friends who are prepared to tell you things your acquaintances, associates and bootlickers will never say to your face - no disrespect, but if you only ever wanted to hear the nice things, then I suppose you're better off hanging out with people whom you hardly know?
That way, you wouldn't get hurt, but by doing so, you'll also be depriving yourself the company of sincere and honest people whose company you're better off keeping IMO. -
The truth always hurt.
And i would rather have true friends who speak the truth rather than some fake-front friends who gossip behind ur back.
Friendship is only possible because your friends do not say in front of you the things they say behind ur back. -
If that's really the case, why buy it?Originally posted by onewingedangel:not really talking about looks, at any rate... i think words make people feel uglier than they really are.
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hmmmm. because what people can see about me i cant, so there is a tendency to believe.Originally posted by Devil1976:If that's really the case, why buy it? -
I suppose when even true friend say things which are too painful, and the threshold is pushed over limit...
That's when people give up and rather hear lies.
*pat pat threadstarter.
Be a true friend, be tactful and kind as well.